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RE: Treatment of a Lady - 1/21/2009 5:19:51 PM

ShaktiSama

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*shrug* I would side with the OP in the assertion that my time is worthwhile and is not to be casually wasted by rude and selfish people. I also think it's just plain common sense that if you are in need of a dominant female in your life, you might learn to be more careful how you treat dominant females. Bad habits form quickly, and most women who are worth treating well are not thrilled when you treat any other woman badly.

Personally, I find a person with a sense of chivalry and social grace quite attractive; even if our relationship was just friendship or "casual acquaintances", I would be more likely to take things to the next level with someone who showed those qualities. People who treat me personally as something special, and who have a good relationship with womankind in general, always get much further with me than those who don't.

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RE: Treatment of a Lady - 1/21/2009 5:21:39 PM

Steponme73

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You can find rude people in every walk of life. Understand it, let it go and move on.

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RE: Treatment of a Lady - 1/21/2009 5:29:29 PM

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ORIGINAL: beeble

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Respectably; i Do still feel that all Domme’s time should be considered Precious to us sub/slaves.

But it would be OK to waste another submissive's time?

beeble

It’s all about Character. It is also what should be setting us subs apart from other ( or ) want be subs. i Don’t believe that Domme’s want rude arrogant man for subs, i May be wrong on this but from what i have seen on these boards,… tells me that They are not into having a rude arrogant man around them. Not that They want wimps either.

As a sub, i feel that to have a proper attitude,. subs most constantly work on their attitude,… especially towards others. This also means me included. i Have much to learn in this department as well.
When a Domme takes a sub under consideration, i Would think,. that She would be looking very closely at he’s character and,.. what has been his attitude in general, particularly how does he appear on these message boards,. and to Domme’s in general. And i would think They would ask themselves ; Is this how I hope to be treated by him?, if I ware to end up deciding to chose one of them,.. at a later date.

So yes!, i consider Domme’s time as precious because of this. But we should also be polite to people in general too. What domme wants a sub who is rude to people in general? This would be a poor reflection on Her as well.
Keep in mind of course, that i am only talking about a sub’s frame of mind here,… not Domme to Domme.

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RE: Treatment of a Lady - 1/21/2009 5:42:14 PM

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ShaktiSama--A fellow Heinlein fan! < waves and smiles >
OP--It's very loyal of you to take umbrage on your Mistress's part. I agree that people, regardless of orientation, ought treat people in a particular way and vanishing after some sort of exchange (Be it advice, physical, etc.) is almost never okay, imo. I can't think of a time when simple disappearance, unless that is the pre-negotiated agreement, is polite practice. That having been said, shouldn't your Mistress take up the issue with the person? I think it likely that at least consulting her on her wishes would be a good idea. When we care, it's easy to get pulled in, I understand. Just tonight, a person my ex- and I had been in a poly relationship with years ago (And who contacted me awhile back to talk with my ex- because she didn't know he was my ex- when her husband, who was also in the relationship with us all, passed) told me that she, sometime between then and now, told my ex- she still has feelings for him (As I knew she would when I gave her my ex's number the day she called about her husband passing) and he stopped returning her calls. Now, I warned her to be careful of him the day I gave her the number. I warned him not to f*ck with her the day I called him with the news. I've kept in touch with her to offer support in light of her husband passing. I'm livid at both of them and was tempted to give them both (Especially him) a good talking to. Then, I stepped back and thought: I forewarned them both. What they did after isn't my providence. It's a bit freeing in an odd way and it's not easy to step back as someone who is a 'fixer'. Ask what your Mistress wishes and take a deep breath before you step forward knowing that you are loyal and carrying out her wishes.
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RE: Treatment of a Lady - 1/21/2009 6:08:48 PM

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You are correct

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RE: Treatment of a Lady - 1/22/2009 5:27:08 AM

Dnomyar

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Much ado about nothing. Did the ops domme have a life changing experience because of the snub. It was a petty thing. Treat it as such.

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RE: Treatment of a Lady - 1/22/2009 1:56:34 PM

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ShaktiSama wrote:
*shrug* I would side with the OP in the assertion that my time is worthwhile and is not to be casually wasted by rude and selfish people.

Sure. But that's a courtesy that should be extended to almost anyone: it's certainly not because you're a Domme.

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RE: Treatment of a Lady - 1/23/2009 10:50:02 AM

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something happened today and i would like to address it , seems my lovely Goddess was hurt by a sub who came to Her for support and asked for Her ear and She was concerned for him and offered him Her support and loving arms so to speak for comfort. well, this rude sub decided not to communicate and well it just isn't right. when a Dominant shows some attention to a sub that sub had better be damn grateful and appreciative of Her important time . this is disrespectful and wrong and it makes me angry to know She had to go through this. a sub always respects a Dominants care and concern for them, i thank Her everyday for Her care.

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I find most women receptive to politeness and tact from males; however, female dominants, in particular, expect this sort of behavior from the males serving them. To think she would not be offended by the gaucherie from a so-called "submissive" if foolish, unless of course he was not hers.

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