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Carnae7 -> RE: a orgasm question (1/18/2009 6:08:44 PM)
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Dear Patina,
The very short, uncomplicated answer to your question is yes. We can have an orgasm and yet not have physical proof of it.
However, I want to say more to you, and I hope you take this response in the way it is meant - heartfelt empathy and support. I looked at your profile to see what your age is, and as I am also a little older myself, I think I understand what might be happening for you.
I’m sure you realize that as people age, our bodies quit producing many of the oils, fluids and other liquids we're used to having. It’s just that women tend to notice it more, and probably for the reason you’ve just mentioned – we notice a lack of lubrication to help facilitate copulation. If we are uninformed, we can feel bad or guilty or ? about this, especially if someone is questioning the sincerity of our responses to their sexual advances. However, this is obviously a very normal, natural occurrence as evidenced by the easy availability of lubricants that are widely accessible in innumerable stores. Additionally, most guys these days seem to be very comfortable with using lubes during intimacy.
However, I’m curious why you want there to be some sort of actual physical ‘proof’. If by some chance your guy is questioning the validity of your sexual arousal/response, this answer might help him to understand. During the last few years, I have experienced various changes in my body due to the aging process. One sexual change is the following example. There have been times in the past few years when I’ve cum so much and soooo hard, that I’ve gushed and squirted enough fluid to fill up a glass (or two), even though I’ve never had this experience prior to the last couple years. Others times, I’ve cum just as much and just as hard, and yet have been almost as dry as the desert. Again, I’ve never experienced this before either, until the last couple of years.
Because our bodies are continually going through a changing process, we don’t always notice or pay attention to most of the changes we experience. For example, the ONLY part of our bodies that never change their size is our eyes. But everything else is always in a constant state of flux. Please don’t let this one aspect of change upset you. If possible, just accept it as part of the natural order of things and manage the symptoms as they appear and/or disappear. In plainer language, just go with the flow. LOL!!
On a bit of a different note, I think I really understand what you mean by a “full orgasm” and an “internal orgasm”. I have five different types of orgasms that I can identify. But believe me, they are all good! I say please just relax and enjoy whatever sexual pleasure you can get!
Best of luck with things, and I hope you experience sooo many orgasms now, that you’ll totally forget that you never used to get them.
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