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MistressFaye1 -> RE: Permission to Masturbate Mistress (1/19/2009 7:43:46 AM)
Thank you for your response. This is exactly what I do and I can honestly say, six weeks is too long for me, so it has never been that long. lol Only once, in 8 months, it hasn't been given. That time it was a three week stretch and he did what he needed to do to keep balance. It wasn't easy for him, but he did it.

Venatrix -> RE: Permission to Masturbate Mistress (1/19/2009 8:05:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chezzy71 i am curious if this may possibly be separation anxiety? Is he going to start barking next?

Venatrix -> RE: Permission to Masturbate Mistress (1/19/2009 8:09:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: undergroundsea quote: ORIGINAL: Venatrix quote: ORIGINAL: undergroundsea Masturbating several times a day can represent an addiction of sorts . . . And sometimes it's just the result of really hot email. I'd go easy on the psycho-analysis. The first sentence is funny. In the context of this thread (a need to masturbate several times a day), I think the point about addictive behavior is relevant. Cheers, Sea I was being quite serious. I've been in that situation myself where someone and I have been swapping wonderfully warm little ideas and the need for release is more than it usually is, on both our parts. I just find that people are rather quick to trot out psycho-analytic reasons for behaviour that is perfectly normal. These people typically have no formal training in the field, either. After all, Freud himself said that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

ShaktiSama -> RE: Permission to Masturbate Mistress (1/19/2009 4:38:22 PM)
And sometimes a person who compulsively masturbates is just a compulsive masturbator. Personally, I am experimenting with a little orgasm and stimulus control at the moment. The boykin is a tool for my pleasure, and he is great fun to play with. [;)]

rob425 -> RE: Permission to Masturbate Mistress (1/19/2009 6:47:33 PM)
Why having an orgasm is a great stress relief so is a simple outdoor walk, sitting down in a favorite chair to read/listen to music/nap, or exercise are all great stress relievers

YoursMistress -> RE: Permission to Masturbate Mistress (1/19/2009 11:09:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rob425 Why having an orgasm is a great stress relief so is a simple outdoor walk, sitting down in a favorite chair to read/listen to music/nap, or exercise are all great stress relievers You could also masturbate while doing all of those things too, although you should be careful while walking outdoors, as doing so while walking by a school might create a difficult situation. yours

DavanKael -> RE: Permission to Masturbate Mistress (1/20/2009 7:35:30 AM)
Masturbating several times a day isn'tnecessarily addictive behavior. I am not a big fan of anything more than short-term denial of orgasm (A few days) as, for me, that would breed resentments unless there were something pretty freakin' spectacular plugged in (And I am not sure what's better than orgasm, particularly with someone towhom I am connected). That having been said, what works for you and yours is between you and yours and as long as everyone's consenting, that's all good. I would think that giving him tools to manage stress better can be done at a distance and feeling that you are supporting him via such attentiveness would also likely reassure him. Davan

MistressFaye1 -> RE: Permission to Masturbate Mistress (1/20/2009 8:55:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DavanKael Masturbating several times a day isn'tnecessarily addictive behavior. I am not a big fan of anything more than short-term denial of orgasm (A few days) as, for me, that would breed resentments unless there were something pretty freakin' spectacular plugged in (And I am not sure what's better than orgasm, particularly with someone towhom I am connected). That having been said, what works for you and yours is between you and yours and as long as everyone's consenting, that's all good. I would think that giving him tools to manage stress better can be done at a distance and feeling that you are supporting him via such attentiveness would also likely reassure him. Davan Thank you Davan, for your response. I am VERY supportive and it was less than a week since we had been together, after spending a hot weekend away. So, it wasn't that I was denying it for the sake of it but because I didn't want relaspe to his old ways. I received an IM telling me that he would do what he felt he needed to do and I quote, "regardless of what you think or feel". I understand health reasons and the longest time he's gone without one was three weeks. I don't accept his reason. He goes to the gym and does other activities, he meditates, etc. etc., therefore this animate request is totally unacceptable to me. he thinks masturbation is the be all, do all, ender of stress. In the time together he got past that. Now all of a sudden it's a critical issue. Ironically, since I have no way of truly knowing if it is a "health" issue for him, I gave him the ability to do what he feels is best for him but I told him under no uncertain terms I would not be a part of it and to keep it to himself if he does. Now he's freaking out because he wants me to control his orgasms. Go figure! Who ever said being a Mistress isn't easy at times wasn't kidding. But then too, neither is being a submissive at times.

PeonForHer -> RE: Permission to Masturbate Mistress (1/20/2009 9:57:18 AM)
Mistress Faye, Ordinarily, my instinct would be to want to qualify Tammy's statement, above, that " . . . masturbation is healthy for both men and women and I would never take that personal choice away from my slave unless it was a form of punishment" because orgasm control by a dominant, for some period or another, could be tremendously erotic for me in itself - quite aside from the explosion, later, when 'the dam's finally unblocked'. Yet, with your sub, things are different. He masturbates a lot and uses it as a stress-reliever. For me, the need to release stress takes priority. I'd go with Tammy's position (and your own, apparently) and withdraw from control of his masturbating activities at the moment.

MistressFaye1 -> RE: Permission to Masturbate Mistress (1/20/2009 10:29:19 AM)
Thank you so much for your response. I appreciate it. I am doing just that. Let him decide what is best for him but I will not part in it, nor do I want to know about it. Ms. Faye

MaitreeseM74 -> RE: Permission to Masturbate Mistress (1/20/2009 3:45:27 PM)
Well it's hard to keep your subby in line when he lives so far away from you...I have one subby who is my love and lives with me...I keep him in denial and tease him for pro long periods of time to keep him focus...However he gets a little bipolar after one month has passed without release......so i implement a few things to reduse his stress....Which ofcourse is to run my errands, getting a harsh flogging and teasing him further to the brink always helps...lol........that will teach him to complain............No seriously( milking) ....Milk him...it will give him a release without the ogasm....helps alot....you're allowing him to release without the full effect of an orgasm.... cheers darling XO

vampchick88 -> RE: Permission to Masturbate Mistress (1/23/2009 1:34:33 PM)
I encourage that pet masterbates, I do and it helps to keep me sane. My 'stress relief' also helps with the fact that pet is so far away and I cannot utilize pet nearly as much as I would like. [:(] Not only is it a good stress relief, but its also a safety feature for those who surroud him on a daily basis. pet is very much a man! he's got more testoserone than all the men I've ever met and when he does not have a release the testosterone takes over and its like pet is on steroids. Plus masterbation is also a prevenative measure to prevent prostate cancer and helps the male reproductive health, also maintaining a long, healthy sex life. [:)]

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