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MasterB69 -> Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 4:43:55 AM)
Hi, Im a 24 year old master. I have a strong interest in dominating a mature submissive, say in her 40's. But im having no luck in finding one. Does anyone have any advice on how to meet and/or attract oler women. I have had limited experience but am very creative and adventurous. I think some maturer women would feel quite humiliated if being controlled by someone half there age.

windchymes -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 6:10:25 AM)
The problem with this, MasterB, as krikket stated in another thread, is that those of us in our 40's who might possibly have offspring your age find it difficult not to think of you as a child. We can't help it, and you'll understand someday. It's not meant as disrespectful when I say that I want to giggle and tell you to go to your homework, or ask you if your mother knows where you are![:D] Just hang in there.....it will probably take time! I do wish you luck! chymes

krikket -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 6:47:21 AM)
Thanks chymes..couldn't have said it better myself..lol cheers jimini quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes The problem with this, MasterB, as krikket stated in another thread, is that those of us in our 40's who might possibly have offspring your age find it difficult not to think of you as a child. We can't help it, and you'll understand someday. It's not meant as disrespectful when I say that I want to giggle and tell you to go to your homework, or ask you if your mother knows where you are![:D] Just hang in there.....it will probably take time! I do wish you luck! chymes

MHOO314 -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 6:53:27 AM)
thanks for being so eloquent chymes, that was the same issue I had with subs that wanted to serve Me that were in their 20's, there was no way that would have worked with Me or others in My home-- I might suggest trying it at a 10 year span first to gain some experience as well--since you said you were still a bit new---there are some early 30's subs out there that will respond to a 20 something Dominant. Also your profile is a but skimpy and a tad on the cliche side, to attract an older one, you might expand it a bit---food for thought.

Shayna -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 7:08:36 AM)
My first Dom was half my age and there was nothing humiliating about the age difference. When it came up, it was more about the lack of common life experiences we had, which made it clear to me that he couldn't make decisions for me; I just didn't think he had the maturity to make decisions for a woman going through menapause and planning for retirement. Do you really want to deal with those issues in your early 20's?

windchymes -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 7:14:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: krikket Thanks chymes..couldn't have said it better myself..lol cheers jimini Actually, krikket, you already did! Over in that other thread![:)] chymes

thetammyjo -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 8:01:57 AM)
I think to confront any ageism we don't like, it is best to search face-to-face for partners -- at munches, clubs, organizations, etc. That way people see you as a person first and your age second. You might also want to ask if you are also engaging in ageism if you are looking for "mature" submissives. Does this mean you advertize for only 40+ women or that you don't consider women your own age or younger? I think that being ageist is a good way to get ageism thrown back at you.

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 8:07:34 AM)
Look B, you can kick over any rock and find a 40+ submissive there waiting to be dominanted. Thats the easy part. Although it pains me to say this, windchymes is right. In order to get and keep an older submissive, you must be able to show them you are on their maturity level. It might be difficult but not impossible. When I was 25 I had a 49 yo submissive. What attracted her to me was my maturity and how I handled myself. The fact that I had my stuff together and not a humping loon like most my age in the scene. BDSM was more then sex to me and I showed it. We spent six months together and it was a great time. I learned alot from her as she learned from me. Next, you need to get off the boards and websites and get into your local (or near local) scene. Websites are nice but nobody can get to know you fully here. An older submissive needs to be able to see you and how you act in the scene to take you seriously. Talk to people and make friends. You need to show that you're looking for more then just someone to tie to the bed. An older submissive is looking for stability as well as an ability to commit to something long term. In the submissive herself, you must look for someone that doesn't have the myopic view of age like windchymes and the other ladies do. No offence ladies but age is just a number, if all you can see is age then you'll never see the true measure of the man you're looking at. With these things in mind, you'll find what you're looking for. It'll take time and patience but it's out there. Now, if all you want is an online relationship then I suggest you look at another alt lifestyle website where online roleplay is more previlant.

mistoferin -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 8:18:44 AM)
quote: I think that being ageist is a good way to get ageism thrown back at you. Okay, I'll bite here. No disrespect intended tammyjo but I guess I am wondering why setting limits for yourself regarding age of potential partners would be necessarily a bad thing. I was recently at a play party when I was approached by a very young Dominant who expressed a desire to pursue me beyond that of acquaintance. When I asked him how old he was he replied that he would soon be turning 21. Now let me tell you....I was completely flattered that this young man would even be attracted to an old broad such as myself.....BUT.... I know that beyond the level of acquaintances....or even sheer sexual fulfillment....that there is really nothing that I would have in common with a gentleman of his age. I politely declined his offer. Now to me, this is just being honest. We all have things that are deal breakers or turn offs when it comes to potential partners....for me, being younger than my own children is definitely one of them. I am also not attracted to alcoholics or drug addicts....so would I be considered to be anti-alcoholicist or anti-addictest as though it was some sort of character flaw on my part? Like I said....no disrespect....just not sure if I like the ageist label.......

windchymes -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 8:22:40 AM)
Well, MrD, when you can become a mother and raise a couple of sons to manhood, you can tell me how myopic we are. Wanna borrow my spectacles? Yours are a bit dark.... chymes

JohnWarren -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 9:13:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thetammyjo I think that being ageist is a good way to get ageism thrown back at you. About a year ago, I received a request to deliver a lecture to a group. When I checked out their website, I found they were a TNG group and had an upper age limit of 35. When I pointed this out to the person who had made the request, she responded, "Oh, that's just for members. We often have older lecturers." My response was "That's a bit like the KKK asking Sammy Davis Jr to sing at a rally."

truesub4u -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 9:20:27 AM)
From this 39 year olds point of view... Having 25 year old approach me I to would flattered. But then All I would see standing there is my 25 year old brother. and it doesn't matter if it's from a sisters poitn of view, or a mothers. Something, we women can't get past. Now I state women because men seem to be able to look past the "Your young enough my daughter" syndrome. But what MrDiscipline is correct about the fact that you need to get out in a more local community and been seen. Pretty sure you'll get further than on the internet.

redheadedfire4u -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 9:35:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44 Look B, you can kick over any rock and find a 40+ submissive there waiting to be dominanted. Thats the easy part. ouch <looks arround> oh so that grey thing above me is a rock and all the time I just thought there was a big storm brewing lol quote: ORIGINAL: truesub4u From this 39 year olds point of view... Having 25 year old approach me I to would flattered. But then All I would see standing there is my 25 year old brother. and it doesn't matter if it's from a sisters poitn of view, or a mothers. Something, we women can't get past. Now I state women because men seem to be able to look past the "Your young enough my daughter" syndrome. But what MrDiscipline is correct about the fact that you need to get out in a more local community and been seen. Pretty sure you'll get further than on the internet. In all seriousness i would have to agree with truesub4u and the other mature women's coments ... for me it would be like my daughter's boyfriend hitting on me ... flattered but just could not do it to save my life ... no matter how mature He was or how well He had it together ...just not me I am affraid but does not mean that He would not be a magnificent Dom .. just never my Dom warm smiles to all

mistoferin -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 9:50:45 AM)
quote: quote: ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44 Look B, you can kick over any rock and find a 40+ submissive there waiting to be dominanted. Thats the easy part. ouch <looks arround> oh so that grey thing above me is a rock and all the time I just thought there was a big storm brewing lol Wow, I totally missed that!!!! Guess I just didn't crawl far enough out from under my rock to see it.....so I will just slink back under there and wait in desperation to be dominated....lol.

MHOO314 -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 9:57:56 AM)
quote: Look B, you can kick over any rock and find a 40+ submissive there waiting to be dominanted Ewww I find that statement extremely callous--

MHOO314 -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 10:00:02 AM)
Better yet mist, pick it up and throw it--glass houses can break--smiles.

windchymes -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 10:09:09 AM)
You're all invited to come under my rock....I'd love to show you all what I've done with the place! chymes

mistoferin -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 10:14:26 AM)
quote: You're all invited to come under my rock....I'd love to show you all what I've done with the place! LOL....ok but I've got dibs on the rocker.....the one closest to the phone.....I want to be sure I don't miss that call when my dream Dom rings!!!!!!!!

Sensualips -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 10:16:57 AM)
I guess I am just too young to "get" what you are saying regarding age and children. I am 35 and like younger men. Like 'em older too. It just depends on the man. I don't think about it int erms of the age of a son or as a father. That is a completely different aspect of my life and not relevant.

xxblushesxx -> RE: Young Master / Mature Submissive (1/8/2006 10:26:14 AM)
Me too... of course, I had my children late, so they are young too.... The last two guys I kissed were both in their 20's. And no, I wasn't thinking of them in any kind of maternal way when we did! LOL One thing the op MAY want to consider, many submissives (such as myself) are sticklers for spelling and grammar. And yeah, it's all about content. There may be a pretty package, but before I'm gonna open it, I have to be intrigued about what's inside...

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