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Do you remember a specific - 1/19/2009 11:31:49 PM   
Carnae7


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Status: offline 		thing, event, or something else that really 'stands out' for you in terms of turning you on to the idea of BDSM?  Is there some defining moment that really clinched it for you in terms of deciding that BDSM was an appropriate choice for you? 
 
For me, I was just beginning puberty, and I heard the song, "Freakin’ at the Freaker’s Ball" by Dr. Hook.  I remember really focusing intently on the words and what they meant, and it stirred something inside my soul.  I was too young to realize it at the time, but I know now that I was verrry turned on by the message in that song. 
 
And although I was slow to get things fully pieced together, I searched in my own limited way for bits and pieces of BDSM that I could include in my life.  For instance, I bought a pair of metal handcuffs when I was just 19, and had fun coaxing guys to use them on me.  I had my first venture with anal sex when I was merely 17.  I loved the idea of being blindfolded, and have always tried different forms of gags (as I tend to be rather loud) and went totally wild when a guy would pull my hair during sex, or slap my ass.  I didn't get to experience a full, deliberate 'scene' until just over a year ago, but once I did????  That was the clincher for me!  I started searching like a mad fool for more info, more experiences, and now understand much more of my desires; for which I've been highly ridiculed, I might add.  LOL!!

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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/19/2009 11:35:58 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		Nope.

Been this way for as long as I can remember.

Since I was a teeny, tiny, itty-bitty little girl.

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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 1:39:14 AM   
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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 2:32:18 AM   
Evility


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ORIGINAL: Carnae7
Is there some defining moment that really clinched it for you in terms of deciding that BDSM was an appropriate choice for you?


No more than there being a deciding event that swayed me to be heterosexual.





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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 4:36:50 AM   
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Ain't got no sub to make you smile
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original by Bobby McFerrin

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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 5:35:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am not sure if it was any one defining moment but perhaps more of a series of events.

I remember watching this movie when i was younger about a girl who had been kidnapped and eventually fell in love with her captor.

I remember taking a slip and putting the waistband  on my chest, a belt around my waist to make it like a mini toga and then serving my brothers friends with drinks.. probably making them uncomfortable as hell because i was only like 8 or so. lol  

And then i found in my friends fathers stuff a magazine called "variations"  and reading about how santa tied up a naughty girl (adult acting like a little girl) and gave her spankins.  

I feel as if it was always there but these things were just the catalyst for it?   hope that makes sense.

interesting question

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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 5:38:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

Nope.

Been this way for as long as I can remember.

Since I was a teeny, tiny, itty-bitty little girl.


Me too. A deviant from deep within me  .

PS: laughing at Stella's poem :-) .

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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 5:50:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		There's young childhood issues that are too intensely personal for discussion here, but in school, I started a minor fad of spanking popular girls who, strangely enough, had no objection to being spanked.

Ever since I was little, my mother called me a little dominant. However, I carried a conflict in my head about chivalrously protecting girls and deep spanking desires. The switch flipped for me when a girl said, "You don't understand– you're giving me pleasure." That's what I needed to hear and the rest fell into place.


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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 5:53:20 AM   
Aileen1968


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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 6:18:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Carnae7

thing that really 'stands out' for you in terms of turning you on to the idea of BDSM?


Why yes, it was about nine inches long and had a little bald head.

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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 6:20:06 AM   
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nine inches long


(cough) bullshit (cough)

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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 6:21:45 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet


nine inches long


(cough) bullshit (cough)


Oh Aileen, I swears it's true.

Like you only wearing panties to keep your ankles warm.

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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 6:22:21 AM   
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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 7:08:08 AM   
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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 7:16:05 AM   
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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 7:40:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		There has never been one specific event that I can recall. I do believe this is how I am wired. I was always a prolific writer as a youngun and I remember when some of my stories (to my horror and humiliation) were found by my father. He was disgusted, assumed I was writing about actual events and had me psych. assessed. My father was urged to allow me to continue writing. That didn't happen and my room was searched on a daily basis for writing materials, and I kept my thoughts/emotions to myself until I turned sixteen which is when I began acting on them.

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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 8:09:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		I didn't know it had a name then, but I was dating a man that was what I would now call a Dominant personality.  He used to slap my ass during sex and although the first time I protested, it stirred something in me that I liked.  He was forceful and strong and something about him made me want to do whatever he asked.  It was years later before I realized this lifestyle had a name.  What a relief it was to find I was not alone!  I wouldn't go back now, I have found what makes me happy.

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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 8:19:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		In seventh grade, this cute girl, smart as a whip, named Denise, used to wear this black cloth collar with a pendant on it. OMG. Only now do I know why my concentration focused on her lovely white neck with that tight inch-wide black collar. If only I knew now what I was really thinking then. I'd love to find her ... but alas ... I don't remember her last name. Sigh. 

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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 9:33:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		I cannot describe it without breaking the posting rules and this might get deleted since it happened when I was very young, suffice it to say it involved a bathroom and some very nasty little neighbor girls(we were all approximately the same age).

For many years, I had what you might call a watersports/anal fetish as a result, even though I can pretty much take or leave the watersports fetish, I still have the anal fetish.

More appropriately, a few years later I saw a drawing in a book about medieval torture that had a picture of an Iron Maiden and other implements of torture that haunted me for years both awake and in my dreams - oddly, I didn't turn out to be a sadist, although I had some pretty extreme sadistic fantasies for quite a while - the idea of it still turns me on, not so much into acting it out, the suffering of others doesn't really do it for me; although I suppose the right masochist could bring out the sadist in me - it may be more the controlling side, the notion of someone writhing at your complete mercy, and you are merciless - some reaction formation against external social controls I suppose, the permission to release/confront your darker side.



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RE: Do you remember a specific - 1/20/2009 9:34:40 AM   
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