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RE: Experience...Age...A different perspective - 1/9/2006 1:04:22 AM

LATEXBABY64

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i have a problem with this maturity thing here is why anyone can act you can get paid for acting maybe and award of sorts but truth be known going throw the motions is a whole lot different then being truely that when counts the most can one step up to the plate nine time out of time no cause they have never faced issues that we face in older years sorry just a proven fact can list tons of resources on this one namaste
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RE: Experience...Age...A different perspective - 1/9/2006 1:08:40 AM

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would you feel comfortable with a partner who was obviously so much younger than you, and obviously lacked the experience in years, to control that part of you?

You are not going to listen to anything anyone else has to say about your question, because you have already decided for yourself that it is 'obvious' that a lack of years lacks the experience to make 'you' 'comfortable' or to 'control' you.

Ask something you want some real feedback on.

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RE: Experience...Age...A different perspective - 1/9/2006 2:46:16 AM

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Yes I've been turned down for not having much experience and that bothers the hell out of me. But what can you do but move on?
I also know people who are 20 or 30 yrs older than me and just joined the lifestyle. So age does not equal experience in this lifestyle. And experience does not equal age.

Yes, I agree with what she said. And to add to that. I am 20. Give it some 10 years or so, that would mean 10 years more experience than anyone new to the lifestyle older than me, or new to they lifestyle at the same age (30).

The key here seems to be how long said person has been actively involved in the lifestyle, not their age. Experience doesnt equal age, although length of time does. Which often leads to older age. As one would expect. (If anyone gets this let me know. I tend to talk philiosophical circles.)

Anyway at the same token, although I would want to be the sadomasochist I picture myself becoming, I would also never even think about laying a hand or weapon on someone without having built up know how and technique first. on the same bargain, I would never push myself to the highest extent of pain without working towards it slowly with the people I know, love and trust.

However, like this lady had said, young age often gets us kicked out or excluded. (In fact, I cant join my local group until I turn 21) Where does one start? It does take a willing hand and a mind ready to learn on both ends to bring someone new, regardless of what age, into the realm of experience.

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RE: Experience...Age...A different perspective - 1/9/2006 3:35:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: Slipstreme
The key here seems to be how long said person has been actively involved in the lifestyle, not their age. Experience doesnt equal age, although length of time does. Which often leads to older age. As one would expect. (If anyone gets this let me know. I tend to talk philiosophical circles.)

Slipstreme, I understand what you're saying

and agree that "experience" does not equal age alone, but "length of time" doesn't either.

I know many folks "in" the lifestyle that have many "years" of being "social," but they have learned or experienced little to nothing with regards to much else.

I believe I related a story in the past, about a man that purported to having over twenty-five years of "experience, when in fact he had only "thought" about the lifestyle, and since he was formerly married, and considered himself "the man of the house"...he actually felt he WAS experienced.

As I see it, experience...equals experience, and that's subjective in itself. It means different things to different people, and is mostly not measurable, except by our own standards.

It is interesting to note that many people offer their years of experience in increments of five (heard it mentioned somewhere before too). I have ten yrs....15 yrs....20 yrs. Hmmmm.....I'm "active" eight, and won't round up. My physical enjoyments are strong and practiced regularly. Am I experienced? (Maybe Jimi know. [only the older folks will get that reference])

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RE: Experience...Age...A different perspective - 1/9/2006 6:41:31 AM

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If I am just looking for a play partner- I want someone who has good scene energy with me, someone who is bright and experienced in that type of play and who has a good presence overall.

That has absolutely nothing to do with age, unless the other person thinks it does.

As always, find what works for you.

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RE: Experience...Age...A different perspective - 1/9/2006 7:48:06 AM

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I don't think age necessarily has anything to do with experience. I was trained as a sub entirely to young (think jailbait), and began my domme training at 21. I am now 30, and I don't ever want to stop learning. Some people come to accept the lifestyle at an older age and may be over 40 and a novice. I will say this, I used to like breaking in newbies and training them the way I like, and after 5-6 years, I have found I enjoy playing with or training some one with a little experience. I generally tend to gravitate toward younger men, as they have the energy to keep up with me, but I no longer prefer to be some one's first domme.

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RE: Experience...Age...A different perspective - 1/9/2006 8:08:46 AM

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Slipstreme, I understand what you're saying and agree that "experience" does not equal age alone, but "length of time" doesn't either.

I know many folks "in" the lifestyle that have many "years" of being "social," but they have learned or experienced little to nothing with regards to much else.

True. I guess it depends on your defination of experienced. Which makes sense. And it seems that it is up to the person getting themselves involved to know what and how long someone is experienced in something specific.

Ill flat out say it. Im a greenhorn and I know it will take a long time before I know I can do things with an acceptable measure of safety.

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RE: Experience...Age...A different perspective - 1/9/2006 11:26:23 AM

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I think a maturity level is needed for you can really hurt some one bad. If some one respond to you comes off immature they are dangers in my viewpoint. I know experience it important and I was far more mature than most kids my age. I have been into bondage every since I tied up my baby sitters playing kidnappers with them. I have seen allot who have trouble handle emergencies and you got to be able to handle them comely and coolly. If some one goes off on your when you ask a simple question who do you they will not loose it during the emergency or get physical out of anger. I know some older folks have problems with that but you got to be able to handles stress and things when you play. You also got to have the confident of your skill level to handle problems. I am open to any one younger than myself if they are welling to learn and ask questions we all had to start some were. Remember you have some one life in your hands and you got to be mature enough to take care of them. This is my Viewpoint and upon H Scorpio

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RE: Experience...Age...A different perspective - 1/9/2006 11:58:51 AM

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age is a barrier sometimes...yes

but it does not equal maturity and knowledge and skill
MY Ms is younger...and less experienced...but She IS Mistress....

what the hell? age is a number...sadly one ='s social limits.......
but just coz you are 20 doesnt mean YOU cant teach ME something...and I am 52.

ok..legal terms have-to-have limits...ya KNOW that...
it is LAW
for-a-reason!

but not all of us are that bad...most in the lifestyle give credit where it is due

take care

< Message edited by veronicaofML -- 1/9/2006 11:59:49 AM >

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