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Bondage and my need for touch - 1/20/2009 3:07:35 PM

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I've been mulling this over for about two months and haven't come up with a solution.

My boy is into bondage, and I like seeing him bound. I love it when he has to ask for help to do something, even if it's as simple as itching his own nose. He has a pair of leather mitts that lock on, and they are wonderful. He's told me more than a few times that he would love to spend an extended amount of time in them (we're talking a week or more) because he really enjoys being dependent on me. My problem is is that when I put the 'paws' on him for even a day I find myself wishing he could touch me, getting annoyed when I feel the cold leather instead of his warm hands, and ultimately taking them off because I can't stand it anymore. I have never been a touchy feely person before, so this is fairly new to me.

We haven't done any bondage in about a month because of some problems we're working out first, but the time will come when I get heavy with him again, so what should I do? I need the interaction, sometimes during the day I might really need a hug, I might really need him to run his hands through my hair or hold his hand while we sit on the couch relaxing together. How would you balance this out? I want to give him the opportunities to be bound because the relief and how much it relaxes him is very obvious, but I don't want to keep going back and forth (flip flopping).

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RE: Bondage and my need for touch - 1/20/2009 3:42:56 PM

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Perhaps you could set specific times for either "bondage time" or "Cuddle time" depending on which is easier for you to regulate. That way you both get what you need and are able to know that even if you are not getting what you want at any given moment you know exactly when you will.

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RE: Bondage and my need for touch - 1/20/2009 3:49:24 PM

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what a sweet problem to have!

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RE: Bondage and my need for touch - 1/20/2009 4:56:10 PM

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Perhaps the touch be done by another body part that conveys warmth: cheeks, chest. Also, for the cold leather, would putting embers inside the mits warm up the leather?

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RE: Bondage and my need for touch - 1/20/2009 4:57:44 PM

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Why should he only caress you with his hands? Put the mits on and have him give you a back massage... make him learn to be creative... massaging the back shouldn't be overly difficult but will get him thinking of ways to touch you. While receiving the massage don't hesitate to give him guidance such as 'sorter now' to keep his creativeness balanced... If your not in the mood to feel the touch of cold leather feel free to give him that restriction.

Cheek to cheek caresses are some of the most intimate touches I've exchanged...

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RE: Bondage and my need for touch - 1/20/2009 5:09:49 PM

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I never thought of using another body part (my dirty dirty mind), I'm just always focused on his hands because I love them. They're strong, with long fingers, usually overly warm, and much larger than my own.

Cheek to cheek sound nice. I haven't given him an Eskimo kiss in a while, either. I like those.

And I think I love you Sea... embers

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RE: Bondage and my need for touch - 1/20/2009 7:21:37 PM

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I once got a newbie sub incredibly aroused, then instructed that he had to lick every part of my body. Of course, the part he most wanted to lick had to be dead last. I also told him if he took any shorter than an hour, we wouldn't be repeating the activity.

He was very motivated, and his hands did not get used for a good long time.

If your boy wants the mitts on, and you want to have physical connection, make him come up with inventive ways to satisfy your desires. Make it a writing assignment first, then a demonstration.....if you don't like any of the options, tell him to try harder. Oftentimes, for me, the harder he works, the better I like it!

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RE: Bondage and my need for touch - 1/20/2009 7:32:08 PM

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As someone that hearts bondage. I have to say you can still cuddle with it. Just lay next to him, snuggle up to him wrap your arms around him. Things like that. It gives you the closeness and him the helplessness. I know it's not the same as him having his hands on your or arms wrapped around you but it still gives you the warmth.

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RE: Bondage and my need for touch - 1/21/2009 2:33:09 AM

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i feel if it is your desire to be held,cuddled or touched most times,then i would not put the mitts on him at all till your needs are met.that of course doesn't mean you won't place them on after some very important contact...it is a good question as you obviously have strong feelings about your sub's needs as well.perhaps just a nice long straight talk will do the trick..communicate and allow hime to do the same.a solution just may be around the corner.

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RE: Bondage and my need for touch - 1/21/2009 5:57:54 AM

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In bondage, I do not have the need to be touched--I have the need to touch--for I believe I have a touch that can melt glaciers---it is through My touch of him when he is restrained that I believe binds him to Me when he is not.

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RE: Bondage and my need for touch - 1/21/2009 9:09:58 PM

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Perhaps switching from the mitts to simple leather gloves?
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RE: Bondage and my need for touch - 1/22/2009 1:07:47 AM

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Take the mitts off of him to draw your bath and wash your hair.

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