Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects?

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Calandra -> Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/20/2009 9:10:03 PM)
I am so moved by the inauguration today and all the speeches our new President has made about working in our local communities to bring America out of the troubles we find ourselves in. To the Mistresses out there: Do you ever encourage or order Your sub/slaves to set aside time, money, or other resources to benefit local homeless shelters, food banks, or other worthwhile project? To sub/slaves: Do you ever give of your time, money or resources to your local communities with the thought of pleasing or bringing private honor to your Dominant? I remember years ago when the Columbine shooting happened, I had a long distance relationship with a submissive who sent a $100 donation to the fund that was set up in My name. I received a greeting card from him, and enclosed was a xerox copy of the processed check. On the space where he could put a note it said "Made in behalf of Calyndra, with respect." I was so moved, and I realized that I could use My power to foster good in the world, and have used that power in various ways since. Does anyone else have stories they wish to share? Or perhaps we could post ideas?

FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/20/2009 9:18:10 PM)
Great idea Calandra. I dated a gentleman who does a lot of community work, so him I wouldn't have needed to, as he was already doing it. I would definitely ask a sub/slave to volunteer (with time or money) even if only in a small part, to try and make the world a better place. M

DavanKael -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/20/2009 9:19:16 PM)
It's an interesting contemplation. I think that extension of service to benefit others is a wonderful idea. Not exactly philanthropy in the purest sense but potentially worthwhile none-the-less. I wouldn't want an automaton, so I would ask what causes or issues are of interest to them and ask how they can explore making a difference. Assuming the causes weren't something to which I objected, I would assist and guide. If they shared interests that were the same as mine, they'd likely be spending time helping with animal welfare, perhaps assisting with transports to adoptive homes or no-kill shelters, writing letters to the troops for Operation Gratitude, assembling/delivering items for donations to needy folks/families, organizing community-building potlucks, doing creative projects with children and/or elders, coordinating and handling details for other philanthropic ideas that I have. This just made me think of some things that I need to get on the ball with doing personally. That mutuality of energies could be quite motivating. I believe service to others is important and helps to facilitate interconnectedness among folks and greater understanding and tolerance as well as gratitude for those things that we have. Davan

VAcontroldom -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/20/2009 9:26:13 PM)
I'm a big believer in control, and found that changing a woman's hairstyle or hair color could be quite moving. It requires a great deal of trust to just show up at a salon when you don't know what's going to happen. I've done this three times in the past twenty years, and on one occasion I gave three weeks notice her long hair would be cut short. She spent the entire time trying to figure out how to beg to change my mind without trying to seem like she was attempting to top from the bottom. Of course, based on the title of the thread you know the punchline. She was donating her hair to locks of love, a charity she was unaware of, and her hair was to be used to make a wig so a young girl with cancer wouldn't experience middle school as the bald girl.

Calandra -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/20/2009 9:32:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMAAM1 Great idea Calandra. I dated a gentleman who does a lot of community work, so him I wouldn't have needed to, as he was already doing it. I would definitely ask a sub/slave to volunteer (with time or money) even if only in a small part, to try and make the world a better place. M You know, Dommes are always asking for suggestions to implement for long distance relationships... With the internet, we could actually research several organizations local to the sub and then give them the opportunity to choose one. The fun challenge would be having the sub find a way to "validate" that they did actually volunteer. LOL

Calandra -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/20/2009 9:34:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DavanKael It's an interesting contemplation. I think that extension of service to benefit others is a wonderful idea. Not exactly philanthropy in the purest sense but potentially worthwhile none-the-less. I wouldn't want an automaton, so I would ask what causes or issues are of interest to them and ask how they can explore making a difference. Assuming the causes weren't something to which I objected, I would assist and guide. If they shared interests that were the same as mine, they'd likely be spending time helping with animal welfare, perhaps assisting with transports to adoptive homes or no-kill shelters, writing letters to the troops for Operation Gratitude, assembling/delivering items for donations to needy folks/families, organizing community-building potlucks, doing creative projects with children and/or elders, coordinating and handling details for other philanthropic ideas that I have. This just made me think of some things that I need to get on the ball with doing personally. That mutuality of energies could be quite motivating. I believe service to others is important and helps to facilitate interconnectedness among folks and greater understanding and tolerance as well as gratitude for those things that we have. Davan Beautiful suggestions... I get the image of Domme/Dom and sub/slave working side by side on projects. Wouldn't it be wonderful to have a few gestures and phrases that have "hidden" meanings for the couple?

Calandra -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/20/2009 9:37:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VAcontroldom I'm a big believer in control, and found that changing a woman's hairstyle or hair color could be quite moving. It requires a great deal of trust to just show up at a salon when you don't know what's going to happen. I've done this three times in the past twenty years, and on one occasion I gave three weeks notice her long hair would be cut short. She spent the entire time trying to figure out how to beg to change my mind without trying to seem like she was attempting to top from the bottom. Of course, based on the title of the thread you know the punchline. She was donating her hair to locks of love, a charity she was unaware of, and her hair was to be used to make a wig so a young girl with cancer wouldn't experience middle school as the bald girl. Was she ultimately glad that she donated her hair? I can see where that would be a VERY emotional assignment. So many women have their self esteem and image tied up in their hair or other features.

LadyPact -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/21/2009 2:38:39 AM)
<fr> Yes, I've given clip over for community events. I've done the same. Cancer benefits, the Shriners, NLAF, and other causes. I think it's the least that can be done. I was there for Columbine. At the time, it was the hardest thing we could face. We've been proven wrong since then, but at that moment, it was the unimaginable. In the fifteen years I lived in CO, that was one of the worst.

FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/21/2009 3:05:47 AM)
quote: The fun challenge would be having the sub find a way to "validate" that they did actually volunteer. LOL I believe people get receipts for donations if it is monetary. If it is his time he is contributing, there ought to be a way to call said place, to check if he is there during the time he says he is supposed to be, on random/infrequent occasions. While both are ways to ascertain in my opinion, it should become obvious over time if one is dealing with an honest person who has integrity, and walks as he talks.. M

CatdeMedici -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/21/2009 6:36:50 AM)
Not unless I participated as well, for to "order" and not do IMHO is like sitting back and letting someone else handle the problem. In My world for things like this its always W/we doing and never just "thee".

LaTigresse -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/21/2009 8:38:51 AM)
Absolutely. I also demand they register to vote and actually take the time to educate themselves and do it. When a past love, that was already quite wealthy, inherited an obscene amount of money, I demanded she donate a large part of it. She was not exactly happy, but she did it.

thetammyjo -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/21/2009 8:43:08 AM)
When we do things like charity work, we do it as a household. We haven't done it in a while frankly because the guys have been very busy. I don't count what little I do with sending money to worthy causes as true working for charity. The exception to the household model we try to work with is when I've written something for charity which I've done twice though that was more in-Scene community charity than the greater community of the mundane world. We all vote, voting and being aware political is a requirement of living in this household but again I don't think of that as charity so much as our duties as citizens. I suppose if I ever got a boy or girl who wasn't a citizen I couldn't require that of them now could I?

Lockit -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/21/2009 9:05:43 AM)
When I was more involved, my partners were involved as well. I actually find partners who are giving not to just me, but to other's. I feel that if they cannot see outside of themselves and to helping in society or those around them and cannot see the many life challenges that people have, they won't see me either. Not the way I wish to be seen anyway. I am very impressed with someone who gives in a way that their only benefit will be in the satisfaction of doing the right thing. As for demanding that someone does... I am not sure. I like the idea in a sense and yet am not sure about it. I would have to think more on it. I am sure though... that their attitude about giving and how they viewed it would have a large impact on how I view this. I just don't know. But... someone not willing would be someone I am sure I would not wish to be dominant or partner to and with.

SnugasaBug -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/21/2009 9:11:10 AM)
Yes, I have taken a past partner to volunteer at the salvation army, so we could help distribute Thanksgiving dinner, but we did it together. I would not ask someone else to donate something "in my name", I would want them to experience the joy of giving themselves. (but being submissive, this would come naturally anyway) Also took another one to Habitat for Humanity, but being I was in Wisconsin and it was verry late fall, I was so bundled up in clothes, I couldn't get into the "swing" of that one and didn't go back after two days....lol He did more without me. But it still brings back good memories. Lots of good potential, in any way this is handled. Spread the feeling! Snug

VampiresLair -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/21/2009 9:17:59 AM)
I do not ask them to do anything I would not do myself when it comes to charities and the like. I have been involved in several things over the years, when I had the time I did habitat for humanity. When I had the time I work in halfway houses and women's shelters, and I worked with childrens shelters and hospitals. Fox and I have plans for charity work, again when we have the time. Unfortunately, though, lately we do not. I want to make a difference but I cannot in good conscience order him to take time away from work and study to help others. Once we have the free time, we will be more active.

Calandra -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/21/2009 11:11:01 AM)
Thanks for all the great feedback... as I was reading, I remembered another point I'd meant to share last night... This is a great way to help determine if a submale is only centered on selfish/sexual/fetish pursuits. It has been mentioned that some Dommes will ask for "tribute" to make insistent subs "go away" (PLEASE don't discuss the concept of tribute here), perhaps expecting selfless acts could be used as a determining factor in a sub/slave's sincerity??? I notice the idea of "not asking a sub to do anything we wouldn't do" is a common one. Here is My view: First off, I am partially disabled and while I am willing to donate My time (and often do), I am glad to have a slave who is enthusiastic about offering his time, money and hard work - therefore I can still impact the world in a positive way indirectly. Secondly, we often find satisfaction in commanding slaves to do various tasks. I see charitable works to be no different because the homeless man who recieves his bowl of soup and crusty bread is STILL fed regardless of the motive the offerer has. The animals in the local shelter can still receive spaying or neutering regardless of whether the donator did it spontaneously or at My behest... Any thoughts?

DavanKael -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/21/2009 2:25:58 PM)
I agree that having gestures of specific meaning would be a nice touch while working together (In response to your reply to my previous post). Regarding your generalized post: Certainly, a non-overtly-sexual task could weed out some 'wankers'. Regarding being partially diabled and having a s-type do something at your behest: if you;re incapable of doing something and they are, certainly reasonable to make that request of them. I would wantto know that the gesture was meaningful for them as well as to me. Davan

ALAstella -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/21/2009 3:18:53 PM)
I'm an established fringe playwright and stage director known for my work in Polish theatre some years back and last year (2008) I made a Nerw Year's resolution to devote my works, theory and methodology to charity to help fight social stigma, social exclusion and to fight for the individual rights of such people. I am in the process of setting up my own charity Simply Q to help such people which is supported by a small fringe theatre company known as Q. This is my only occupation, it is full time, and I am currently developing a season of plays which will open at the end of February in London which will serve to promote the charity. This is the first ever UK charity working with social stigma and social exclusion and also the first charity which is run like a small fringe theatre company. The projects I am developing lie in four main areas. My main area is working with the homeless, mainly through giving theatre workshops to help homeless people gather their self confidence and father resources and a support network to help them through their resettlement and back into society, and here I am working with three major homeless charities in London. I am also developing a project which has become separate in the LGBT community working with one of these homeless charities which will hopefully next year result in a new national sLGBT charity designed to fight discrimination for gays, lesbians, transgendered individuals and members of the BDSM community. The third project is based in North London and is working with the black community to promote racial harmony and integration in the performing arts and culture and I am now trying to set up a fourth area working with the Iranian community centre to provide a stage and a platform for exiled Iranian artists and to try and create a partnership between Islam and fringe theatre. I'm currently canvassing support, and have the support of local and government politicians, Ken Livingstone, numerous charities, trade unions and am about to make an application with the Arts Council of Great Britain. I am also at this moment in time working to set up a tour of Poland with my theatre and a working partnership with the Polish charity MONAR which deals with similar issues and long term am hoping to develop this charity internationally with branches in Canada and the United States. The website you see will be rough as I am in the process of developing the website and all the information for an 'org' website and developing everything according to very strict guidelines set out by the UK Charities Commission and I hope this year that my charity will become a registered charity which works towards creating some sort of positive social change. My work in Canada will be supported by my family who are Shriners and I have tentative plans (hopes?) for a second base eventually in Toronto with a possible third branch in the United States which I'd like to start setting up in 2010. At the moment I'm gathering information on various US cities, Detroit, Chicago, and Memphis. The basic premise is that a series of theatre workshops with a production represents both an opportunity and a challenge for the socially excluded and is one of the most effective ways of resolving many social issues connected with social stigma and social exclusion. Appearing in a play is a life changing experience and one which is remembered for many years and through this I have found that many people who are socially excluded can be helped. This is my 'niche', my life work, something I enjoy immensely and something I get a lot of fulfillment out of. stella

SomethingCatchy -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/21/2009 4:01:41 PM)
My boy loves doing things for other people, so I doubt I'd ever have to order him to do something, and besides I'd rather be doing it with him. I would love to have a small scale animal rescue one day along with my own veterinary practice, and helping with the animals and being active in adoptions is one thing he would be doing.

BondageBarbieX -> RE: Do you ever volunteer your sub/slave for community projects? (1/21/2009 6:10:00 PM)
No,I do not volunteer or give donations to any charity

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