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mistoferin -> RE: i need a Master's advice on homesickness as a r/l slave newly moved with her domanant. (1/15/2006 7:11:55 AM)
quote: BTW, to whom are you responding. I read both Collaredlilone's and Kiwisub12's posts and neither seems of correspond with the assumptions in your diatribe. I believe that she is referring to collaredlilone....her profile says she is 19 and her Master is 51.

JohnWarren -> RE: i need a Master's advice on homesickness as a r/l slave newly moved with her domanant. (1/15/2006 7:49:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin quote: BTW, to whom are you responding. I read both Collaredlilone's and Kiwisub12's posts and neither seems of correspond with the assumptions in your diatribe. I believe that she is referring to collaredlilone....her profile says she is 19 and her Master is 51. Oh, I didn't think of looking at the profiles. [sad shake of head] I can only imagine what the poster thinks of me who also has a 19 year old play partner.

Lenina -> RE: i need a Master's advice on homesickness as a r/l slave newly moved with her domanant. (1/15/2006 8:40:24 AM)
John- I believe she was responding to the age difference .... see her masters profile http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/206845/details.htm vs hers

Evanesce -> RE: i need a Master's advice on homesickness as a r/l slave newly moved with her domanant. (1/15/2006 3:54:58 PM)
quote: Here's an idea. Dump your quasi pedophile "master", and go back where you came from. Get a boyfriend your own age, and learn a little about yourself, before shacking up with a grandpa you met on the web. Generations of great Americans fought and sacrificed themselves so you wouldn't have to do what you are doing. Homesickness is fine for kids at camp, but in your situation, it's a symptom of something far more serious I suspect. Don't make me call NBC's Dateline. Either I'm psychic, or this exact same post - word for word - was written in response to another thread on this site about four months ago, 'cause I SWEAR I've read this before.

VaWolf -> RE: i need a Master's advice on homesickness as a r/l slave newly moved with her domanant. (1/20/2006 3:24:49 PM)
Of course it it normal, people get homesick all of the time when they leave their home. It is completely normal. If your master allows you the use of the phone to call loved ones, or money and distance pending, a visit home. They help. Also, think of why you made the decision to leave home, to be with your master and concentrate on those. Try to think of the 'old place' as a familiar neighborhood, keep your ties there; but think of your master's abode as your new home. Try to build up your life there. I do not believe that it makes you a bad slave. As for your master, he can't do anything if you do not tell him how you are feeling. Tell him everything and be honest. Again, phone calls, visits, or perhaps joining up with a sport or group where you can make friends or belong to a team.

Draciron -> RE: i need a Master's advice on homesickness as a r/l slave newly moved with her domanant. (2/2/2006 7:59:47 PM)
She is an adult. She may have actively sought such an age difference. The heart knows not age, only the person. She stated she is quite happy where she is at. This tends to refute any suggestion the age gap was a problem. In my opinion. 1. is this normal? To be homesick is snormal. To be homesick to this extent is I feel more generalized anxiety and insecurity. A glimpse at her Master's profile reinforces this. He is still seeking according to his profile. This does little to assauge her insecurity. At her age most women tend to be a bit insecure anyway. It may be expressed in many ways. 2. what can you do to get through it? I would start by addressing the insecurity. Others have made excellent suggestions about getting to know the area, making connections whether it be people or places/interests. Remember roots are more than just knowing people in an area. A shop that you can always count on, natural surroundings such as perhaps a park which brings peace in just visiting, a lively music scene maybe. There are many things that constitute home beyond an actual building. While the life that was lived in the 4 walls may have been subpar, there were likely many compensations for such that she now misses. The cure for that is simply replacing those needs with something local or resolving the issues that led to those needs. Such as others have mentioned possible social interactions. Resumption of a hobby which would not cause problems with her Master and so on. Second there may be some general anxiety going on. This is independent of surroundings but could partially be founded in her driving desire to please her new Master and do well in his service. Resolving anxiety can be trickier. Especially if it has no imediate cause. If it continues medical intervention might be needed. Returning home would not cure it. This anxiety may have been quite present all along at home but manifested with different symtoms. Best way to find out is to stabilize home life. Work out any possible causes. If anxiety remains then seek medical care. Too many will try to throw blame for what is no more somebodies fault than a common cold. Anxiety is a real conditition and one that can cause many other problems if left unaddressed. 3. does this make me bad of a slave? No, you cannot be a bad slave for being human. The only way it would make you a bad slave is if you hid anything from your Master. 4. what can my Master do to help me? I would suggest that your Master cease seeking for now. I do not know how many slaves are currently in your domicise. I suspect from what you posted that you and he are alone. So my suggestion would be to first get you acclimated before seeking a poly situation. The best possible outcome from any new inquiries into servering Master Bob would be to complicate the current situation and lots worse could happen. Until lil is secure in her environment it is unwise to muck up the waters. Second would be to address possible needs/anxiety. What activities/hobbies/interests are no longer present in her life? One or more of these might have been very important to her having a healthy psyche. Replacement of these with a local version or a healthy alteranate may go a long way to easing the problems. Time and patience will also do a great deal. Just her talking about the situation was likely a great relief of built up anxiety and frustration.

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