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punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 10:03:55 AM   
MasterDave2006


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Status: offline 		hi there i am at a loose end i am looking for some new ways of punishment for my sub

we dont do the whole pain thing

i tend to take things away etc etc

i am trying to add new things though some new ideas

i would appreciate any advice but please no advice of pain for her we dont do it many thanks
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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 10:07:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		I know this is not the answer you are probably looking for because I am going to answer it with a question. If you are finding a need for multiple punishments....do you think maybe the question you should be asking is what is going on that necessitates such and why is it continuing?

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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 10:10:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		Punishments

Phone Punishments??

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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 10:53:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

I know this is not the answer you are probably looking for because I am going to answer it with a question. If you are finding a need for multiple punishments....do you think maybe the question you should be asking is what is going on that necessitates such and why is it continuing?



That was my thought too. I can count the number of times I've been punished on my two hands, and that's over 6 years.

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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 11:04:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		Without pain of some sort (even emotional), there is no such thing as punishment.

Having said that, I often make the punishment fit the crime. Without further information of the trangression involved, I'm unable to formulate a proper suggestion.



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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 11:28:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: amayos

Without pain of some sort (even emotional), there is no such thing as punishment.

Having said that, I often make the punishment fit the crime. Without further information of the trangression involved, I'm unable to formulate a proper suggestion.




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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 11:33:06 AM   
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quote:

i am trying to add new things though some new ideas


gee...Your disappointment is not punishment enough?

*ponders the existence of a world like that and wanders off, confused*

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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 11:43:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		i dont know though. It seems that if you constantly have to punish your sub, maybe you should really be asking is she really sub, or if she is the sub for you.

Just a thought. Im new to the D/s dynamic myself, but from what Ive read from many subs, their Masters typically dont have to punish them. When it does happen however, for the most part disappointment on the Master's side is enough. Me, I dont live to serve. In fact, Ive been wondering lately, if the only thing I have going for me that makes me a switch rather than a dominant is the fact Ive a bit of masochism and random spurts of submission.

Hmm...... Have you tried solitary confinement though? I know that when I was younger, the best punishment to get it through my head was to ground me to my room for a period of time, usually five days to a week, only allowed out to use the bathroom and eat, with my privilages taken away. This includes no art, no books, just schoolwork. I live for art. But boy did being grounded suck major ass.

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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 1:45:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterDave2006

hi there i am at a loose end i am looking for some new ways of punishment for my sub

we dont do the whole pain thing

i tend to take things away etc etc

i am trying to add new things though some new ideas

i would appreciate any advice but please no advice of pain for her we dont do it many thanks


Given what others have said I'm going to be very pointed and ask that you define what you mean by punishment in your OP.

The word can be used differently and those differences will influence the advice you get.


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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 2:40:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: la90066


quote:

ORIGINAL: amayos

Without pain of some sort (even emotional), there is no such thing as punishment.

Having said that, I often make the punishment fit the crime. Without further information of the trangression involved, I'm unable to formulate a proper suggestion.




Translation: What'd the bitch do so I can tell ya how to smack her smart?!!

hee hee hee




LOL, yes!


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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 4:19:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterDave2006

hi there i am at a loose end i am looking for some new ways of punishment for my sub

we dont do the whole pain thing

i tend to take things away etc etc

i am trying to add new things though some new ideas

i would appreciate any advice but please no advice of pain for her we dont do it many thanks



After reading your profile, it appears you are very very new to the L/life so there may be a misunderstanding on your part as to the role of a Dom---I'd suggest getting JohnWarren's "The Loving Dominant"--being a Dom is not about punishment solely, it involves a very unique dynamic--if your sub does things to seek punishment, that in itself is a particular style to deal with---


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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 6:21:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hmmmm, lets see. You could (make her):
write sentences
water torture (slow drip o the forehead)
wear a diaper
wear a gag or piece of duct tape over her mouth
take her clothes away
remove her from your bed
stand and hold her hands out
stand in the corner
force exercise (sit ups, push ups, walk in circles)
spray her with cold water in the face
clean things with her toothbrush
not let her sit on furniture
make her eat foods she does not like
stand in the closet
restrict her diet (she only eats PB&J for a week)
take away grooming or hygiene products (though here, you may suffer too)

These are but a few and I'm sure that others have more things. I'm just surprised that a man can come to ask something on a board and all people can do is question him as to why he is asking. Get a grip, people. His reasons are his own and he owes no one an explanation.

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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 7:33:14 PM   
Wolf1020


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Status: offline 		When my sub and I got together she had been acustomed to being a "brat sub", and the "punishments" she often got she rather liked. It took me all of a week to break that habbit after she found out the punishments from me when she needed them were not going to be something she liked. Often times a strong word, look, or even just body language or a little change in voice tone when two people have connected is enough for the sub to know when she is being bad and needs to cut it out or that this is not the time to push buttons.

As for punishments you need to find what works and they should not be fun, for either of you. Some get off on punishment, nothing wrong with that thats jsut how some dominants are but it should not be something either of you should seek out. If she doesn't like pain well that may be a good place to go. If she is bad let her know she will get some pain, not talking extreme and unbearable but pain. Punishments are something that is really individual to a relationship and to what works and doesnt work with individual subs.

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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 7:52:57 PM   
FiestyCouple


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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44


These are but a few and I'm sure that others have more things. I'm just surprised that a man can come to ask something on a board and all people can do is question him as to why he is asking. Get a grip, people. His reasons are his own and he owes no one an explanation.


Those were my exact thoughts, well spoken! Nice list of suggestions as well, I might add.

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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/9/2006 10:47:00 PM   
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quote:

i am trying to add new things though some new ideas

i would appreciate any advice but please no advice of pain for her we dont do it many thanks



LOL this is to easy. Here are a few ideas that you can try.

1. Bake a batch of cookies and eat them infront of her. No No NO she can't have any.

2. Buy a small box with a fancy jewlry name on it. Put an old piece of chain and a small rock in it. Shake it up when shes being bad. "No No you can open it" as she pouts and whines for it.

3. No blankets at night.

4. Make her sleep on the floor.

5. Orgasim denial.

6. Urination controll. She can only pee when you say she can. On a cold night, when she has to pee, take her for a drive down a bumpy road. Then have her get out where she has to pee in the cold weather behind a tree or bush.

7. You can always have her do things she does not like doing.

There are many ways to be a sadiest/punishing Dom without having to lay one hand, needle, or whip on a submissive.

Best of luck. I look forward hearing from you on how things turn out.


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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/10/2006 4:14:31 AM   
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ok thanks for your suggestions
some i did find use full and a few which i didnt expect
i/we are relatievly new to this and my sub was use to getting her own way with everything and i mean everything
when i have been dissapointed i have done such as not let her touch me for 6 hours which drove her mad but it worked
she is starting to get the hang of it but the odd times i have to step in and all i was looking for was a little advice
i didnt quite like being quoted to why i was asking i thought it was all about trying to help people????

thanks so much for the genuine reply's

i hope to hear from you again

dave

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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/10/2006 5:09:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterDave2006



ok thanks for your suggestions
some i did find use full and a few which i didnt expect
i/we are relatievly new to this and my sub was use to getting her own way with everything and i mean everything
when i have been dissapointed i have done such as not let her touch me for 6 hours which drove her mad but it worked
she is starting to get the hang of it but the odd times i have to step in and all i was looking for was a little advice
i didnt quite like being quoted to why i was asking i thought it was all about trying to help people????

thanks so much for the genuine reply's

i hope to hear from you again

dave



The posts are about seeking help, however, the life has zillions of aspects to it, many of us are more experieced and hesitate to give advice with little background information--we want to give you the best information possible---she could have been disabled for all we know and certain punishments would not have worked---

btw I didn't see anyone mention corner time which is one of My favorites at times--

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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/10/2006 6:16:36 AM   
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LOL this is to easy. Here are a few ideas that you can try.

1. Bake a batch of cookies and eat them infront of her. No No NO she can't have any.





Look...I understand punishment...but...

this is just WRONG!!

Especially if the cookies have chocolate chips and lots of nuts in them.

Give a sub a break!

*lol

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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/10/2006 6:19:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		No, whats wrong is to have the sub/slave bake her favorite batch of cookies and THEN eat them in front of her. Worse yet, feed them to the dog or plain ole throw them away. NOW we're getting mean. hehehe

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RE: punishments for my submissive - 1/10/2006 7:11:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

No, whats wrong is to have the sub/slave bake her favorite batch of cookies and THEN eat them in front of her. Worse yet, feed them to the dog or plain ole throw them away. NOW we're getting mean. hehehe



No...what's MEAN MrD is when someone has a cookie already in her mouth and she is forced to spit it out and throw it away. That was a PERFECTLY good Nutter Butter that was wasted *goes to her room and pouts*.


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