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kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/9/2006 12:45:07 PM   
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http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060104/ap_on_re_us/swingers_soccer_families

All comedy aside, I think involving others against their will in your kink is still wrong... did they really have to flash the kids in the lobby?

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/9/2006 6:15:13 PM   
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"Young said he complained to hotel management and to John Hollis, an off-duty Orlando police officer hired by the hotel for a New Year's Eve security detail. He said neither did anything to help.

Lt. John Mina, a watch commander for the Orlando Police Department, said Hollis didn't witness anything illegal."

does that sound familiar about events happening in the south? doesn't seem to matter if it's someone right there or up yonder. one would hope that the hotel management gets a little talking to and that they security officer hired isn't paid and is a bit more. but one can only hope.

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/9/2006 6:40:04 PM   
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"Young said he complained to hotel management and to John Hollis, an off-duty Orlando police officer hired by the hotel for a New Year's Eve security detail. He said neither did anything to help.

Lt. John Mina, a watch commander for the Orlando Police Department, said Hollis didn't witness anything illegal."

does that sound familiar about events happening in the south? doesn't seem to matter if it's someone right there or up yonder. one would hope that the hotel management gets a little talking to and that they security officer hired isn't paid and is a bit more. but one can only hope.


Maybe there really wasn't anything illegal and those parents were just upset when they found out a swinger's group was at the hotel.

I've lectured at a number of swinger's conventions and in all of them the security was as tight or tighter than at a BDSM convention. After all, people pay a lot to attend and they don't want any freeloaders wandering around.

Down here in Florida, we've been treated to some of the pictures of the "scandalous behavior" that the folks complained about and it looked pretty tame to me.

It might even be a sting with the parents being member of a group like the CWA. Sorta like when the head of zoning sent a teenager to my prodom business to see if she'd be allowed to do a session. When "children" are involved, it's a lot easier to get people upset.

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/9/2006 6:40:42 PM   
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one would hope that the hotel management gets a little talking to
Not only the hotel management, but the guests also.

I have never been to a swingers convention, but at the BDSM conventions I have gone to the number one rule is that when you are in the public areas of the hotel you are on your best behavior. Under idea conditions, the other guests of the hotel should be totally unaware of any other goings on.

Inevitably, however, there is always the handful of egotistical assholes who think the rules don't apply to them. They somehow get their kicks out of breaking the rules and "frightening the locals". Whoever these dipshits were who flashed thier tits in the lobby, I hope the convention found out who they were and kicked them out of the convention.

(But lets face reality here, neither the hotel management, nor the idiots that flashed in the lobby will ever get chastised for anything. In the end, this is just going to turn into another "Oh woe is us! Those evil right wing fundamentalist Christians are oppressing our lifestyle" thing.)

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/9/2006 7:02:29 PM   
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I'm a parent. I'm here, so that tells you where some of my activities lay. As a parent, I would have been livid. Not at the swingers, privately I might have wondered if it was too late to get tickets. I would have been livid at the hotel for not keeping a better handle on what was going on. From a business standpoint, they arent going risk losing money by telling the soccer team that a swingers convention is in, but the point of contact for the swingers should have been warned that a soccer team was in, and have some decency. What goes on behind closed doors is a free-for-all. In the hallway? Use some decorum. Its inconsiderate people like this that give the rest of us freaks and weirdos a bad name.

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/9/2006 7:13:08 PM   
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those parents were just upset when they found out a swinger's group was at the hotel.
Found out *HOW* exactly? E.S.P.?

The only way the parents could have gained that information was if A) hotel security was asleep at the wheel and/or B) Some egotistical "the rules dont apply to me, I can do what I want cause its a free country" jerkwad was flashing in the lobby.

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/9/2006 7:37:58 PM   
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those parents were just upset when they found out a swinger's group was at the hotel.
Found out *HOW* exactly? E.S.P.?

The only way the parents could have gained that information was if A) hotel security was asleep at the wheel and/or B) Some egotistical "the rules dont apply to me, I can do what I want cause its a free country" jerkwad was flashing in the lobby.


It's the mark of intellectual dishonesty when one cuts off the word "maybe" from a quote. That tells quite a bit about a poster.

Actually, they could have found out from a number of group that monitor these activities with an eye to disrupting them. This is why most BDSM event don't disclose hotel information except to registered attendees.

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/9/2006 8:14:28 PM   
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Fine .... I will fix it then .....
quote:

when they found
The only issue I meant to raise was when and how the information got leaked. I could drop off “those parents were just upset” and “a swinger's group was at the hotel” too for all it matters. Those are not central to the issue I was wanting to bring up of how and when the info got leaked. So I dropped one word. Whoptie-freekin-doo. So what? You would think nobody on the net has ever heard of scrolling up the page.

Now I have been to plenty of conventions and there is always the one bad apple who has to ruin it for everyone else. Nothing against exhibitionism mind you, Im a voyeur myself. But some folks just get their thrill by acting out the role of the "rebel" and thinking the rules don't apply to them. They think its all cool and hip and edgy if they can scare the locals. I can imagine this convention would be no different. Some egotistical jerk runs around thinking "Hey! Look at me! I don't have to follow the rules cause its a free country. I can do what I want. And hey, if I upset some of the other guests at the hotel then its their fault for being uptight about sex"

Seems a much more likely situation than some some grand consparacy by a watchdog group trying to "oppress our freedoms" ..... Ya think it was some sleeper cell that was in the soccer organization? Or maybe when this theoretical watchdog group got wind of the event (Again, I ask HOW did they find out if security is as tight as folks are claiming) that the group managed to send in an undercover spy who pretended to be part of the soccer origination.

If there actualy WAS some group that monitors bdsm events tryign to disrupt them, than why didnt that group itself make the complaint to the hotel? Why did the complaint come from the soccermoms?

But na! Lets not actually address the issue of how the info got leaked. Lets just nitpick over the inclusion or exclusion of an individual word, make kneejerk insults regarding "honesty", and sprout some conspiracy theory that there is a grand highly organized group operating in secret to oppress all others.

Ya know, if someone claimed "there is a highly organized plot by the Jews operating in secret trying to control everyone else's behavior" the ridiculousness of the situation would be clear. But instead when claims of "there is a highly orgnized plot by the Christians operating in secret trying to control everyone else's behavior" there is instead nods of agreement.

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/9/2006 8:30:08 PM   
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The swingers events I have attended have always had security, nondisclosure of the event location until you rsvped, a list of "rules" that you sign upon arrival. The top of the list is respecting public spaces. That doesn't mean everyone always does. It is no different than a bdsm event, except often there is more liquor and less screaming.

My favorite swinger event in KC is held at this rather dumpy hotel. Clean, but not exactly luxury accomodations. It is great though because they block out one whole building two Saturdays a month. The dance/party is held in the basement meeting room, the third floor is the "party floor" (reserve your room early if you want to be up there) with a few open rooms. The second and first floors sometimes fill up as well, but not always. Security is not inpenatrable, but pretty tight -- esp elevator access to the basement and third floor. They use armbands, color coded. Ahhh, good times. I haven't been in several months. I wonder what the next theme is...

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/9/2006 9:46:49 PM   
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As an FYI, here is the press release from the NCSF that basically claims that the parents are lying (something about based on the layout of the hotel, there is no way that the parents or children could have seen what they are claiming they saw).

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FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Contact:
Susan Wright, NCSF Spokesperson
(917) 848-6544

New Year's Eve Ball in Orlando is Falsely Accused

January 7, 2005 - Contrary to sensationalized media reports, the New
Year's Eve
Ball held in the Orlando Crowne Plaza Hotel-Airport is a victim of
intolerance
towards alternative sexual expression rather than a case of children
being exposed
to inappropriate behavior. AP article -
http://www.breitbart.com/news/2006/01/03/D8ETBJN81.html

Nudity and sexual behavior were not allowed at the New Year Eve's Ball
and all the
guests signed in stating that they understood and complied with these
rules. It was
a formal New Year's Eve Ball, so most of the guests were wearing
elegant ball gowns
and tuxedos.

This was confirmed by the Associated Press article of January 3, 2006,
"Orlando
Swinger Party Upsets Soccer Parents," when they reported that John
Hollis, an off-
duty Orlando police officer, was hired by the hotel for a New Year's
Eve security
detail. Lt. John Mina, a watch commander for the Orlando Police
Department, stated
that Hollis didn't witness anything illegal. Nudity in the public areas
of the
hotel would certainly have been illegal.

In addition, it is impossible to see into the ballroom from the atrium,
contrary to
the statement made by Bob Young of Greenville, S.C., who claimed in the
AP
article, "The kids could see through the glass atrium into the ballroom
where naked
people were dancing. There were exposed breasts, thongs and see-through
dresses on
women who were not wearing any underwear."

This statement could have been easily debunked by looking at a layout
of the hotel:
http://www.ichotelsgroup.com/h/d/cp/1/en/hpt/MCOHN The ballroom is
accessible from
the atrium via a long hallway, and attendees wore wristbands that were
checked at
both ends of the hall to prevent hotel guests from wandering into the
ballroom. But
if they had entered, they would have seen the ball attendees fully
clothed, in
accordance with the rules of the event.

Intolerance towards alternative lifestyle groups is unfair and
unwarranted. From
the facts of this case, it appears this incident was a manufactured
exercise in
such intolerance from beginning to end.

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/10/2006 12:19:40 AM   
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thank you graciously and heartily for checking the facts i was unable to due to time restraints. it's good to be informed so one can make a choice based upon knowledge and not just emotions. thank you again.

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/10/2006 2:39:44 AM   
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This statement could have been easily debunked by looking at a layout of the hotel: http://www.ichotelsgroup.com/h/d/cp/1/en/hpt/MCOHN
Ok, I might just be being clueless here, but where do I click on that webpage to find the layout of the hotel? All I see is photos of building and that dosent tell me where the ballroom is or where it is in relation to the atrium.

I clicked on some of the other links but all I found was data on how many people the place holds. Could someone either post a direct link or tell me what I have to click on?

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/10/2006 8:12:08 AM   
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Fine .... I will fix it then .....
quote:

when they found
The only issue I meant to raise was when and how the information got leaked. I could drop off “those parents were just upset” and “a swinger's group was at the hotel” too for all it matters. Those are not central to the issue I was wanting to bring up of how and when the info got leaked. So I dropped one word. Whoptie-freekin-doo. So what? You would think nobody on the net has ever heard of scrolling up the page.


It was a key word. Sorta like the "not" that got lost in transmission in Tallsmanville last week, except this "maybe" was removed intentionally to make my original statement look more doctinare to lend credence to you
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Seems a much more likely situation than some some grand consparacy by a watchdog group trying to "oppress our freedoms" ..... Ya think it was some sleeper cell that was in the soccer organization? Or maybe when this theoretical watchdog group got wind of the event (Again, I ask HOW did they find out if security is as tight as folks are claiming) that the group managed to send in an undercover spy who pretended to be part of the soccer origination.

If there actualy WAS some group that monitors bdsm events tryign to disrupt them, than why didnt that group itself make the complaint to the hotel? Why did the complaint come from the soccermoms?


This was their initial approach a few years ago when the closed down Viscious Valentine, Ohio Leatherfest and disrupted Tribal Fire, but recently groups have gotten more savvy by concealing the location of the event and by making sure contracts with hotels have been steel clad.

BDSM is getting to be more sophisticated in protecting itself and the attention may be moving to swingers.

The hope may have been to get some of those boys into the event itself, as Boston attempted with my business so that more serious charges could be lodged. When that failed they tried taking pictures of "public indecency" but from what can be seen in the local papers and on local television what they got could have been seen on any public beach. Given that this is start-of-season for television, had any "juicy" pictures been available you can bet they would have been all over the news (naughty parts blurred out and a warning "this might not be suitable for children" (which translates as "turn on your vcr.) ) Instead we are left with unsubstantiated compaints which the police could not confirm.

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But na! Lets not actually address the issue of how the info got leaked. Lets just nitpick over the inclusion or exclusion of an individual word, make kneejerk insults regarding "honesty", and sprout some conspiracy theory that there is a grand highly organized group operating in secret to oppress all others.


As I've pointed out, you were the one who excluded the word with the intent of making my original post less credible. But then, to use words that may have special significance in your political world, "We're not here to play the blame game."
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Ya know, if someone claimed "there is a highly organized plot by the Jews operating in secret trying to control everyone else's behavior" the ridiculousness of the situation would be clear. But instead when claims of "there is a highly orgnized plot by the Christians operating in secret trying to control everyone else's behavior" there is instead nods of agreement.


Ya know, back a few years ago, there were a lot of claims of "a highly organized plot by the Jews operating in secret trying to control everyone else's behavior" and people nodded but laughted at the idea of "a highly organized plot by the white Christians operating in secret trying to control everyone else's behavior" and we managed to overlook the Nazis. Maybe what we need to do is just worry about anyones plot without making it a religious issue.

In any case the CWA hardly operates in secret. (http://www.cwfa.org/) In past years they have made a concerted attempt to disrupt conventions by those whose sexuality they do not approve. They area adaptable. On the second year I attended OLF, a button wearing CWA member, got in and ran about sprinking holy water on the guests. That was less successful than they might have hoped. The next year there were pickets and the group changed hotels after that. Finally, a flood of fax and phone threats to the hotel caused to tear up the contract less than three days before the event was to begin and it had to be reschduled under heavy security in a warehouse in another part of town.

CWA is the group with which I have the most contact. There is also the Pure Life Ministries, National Colition for the Protection of Children and Families, even groups like Safe Libraries. These aren't straw men.

I'll restate my thesis. I'm not saying this was a planned thing, but I am saying it could have been, and it's amazing the outrage that has been generated by a few media savvy people who don't have a single picture showing anything improper in this world of digital and cell cameras makes me wonder if intentionally or unintentionally it has been blown up out of all proportion.

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/10/2006 8:40:00 AM   
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quote:

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This statement could have been easily debunked by looking at a layout of the hotel: http://www.ichotelsgroup.com/h/d/cp/1/en/hpt/MCOHN
Ok, I might just be being clueless here, but where do I click on that webpage to find the layout of the hotel? All I see is photos of building and that dosent tell me where the ballroom is or where it is in relation to the atrium.

I clicked on some of the other links but all I found was data on how many people the place holds. Could someone either post a direct link or tell me what I have to click on?


I'm guessing that the idea was to look at the photo and virtual tour where they have quite a lot of photos of the atrium/lobby area. When I looked at those pictures, it seemed pretty clear to me that the glass enclosed area only went out to the pool, not to any other areas of the hotel, which would make it impossible for the children to have looked through glass to see the ballroom.

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/10/2006 9:00:39 AM   
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It's not a hotels job to keep groups apart or try and arrange groups together. It's a hotel's job to rent space.

At the Austin Rope Convention we had a high school dance taking place on the Saturday evening of the event and a church service on the Sunday morning in the same convention space as us. Everyone went along just fine.

At Dark Odyssey (a pan-kink-pagan-poly-swinger event) over New Years we shared the hotel with vanilla families the entire time, including a wedding party, and everyone was perfectly behaved with totally street legal clothing in all public areas.

Sure the vanillas saw leather, they saw a few toys. But they didn't see anyone flaunting in front of them, or any nudity. While I would consider it bad taste for the swingers to flash and flaunt in front of vanillas or in shared space, I certainly see nothing wrong with both groups sharing the building or hotel for their events.

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/10/2006 10:33:04 AM   
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To be fair- I have nothing against naked boobies- can it really be indecent if a baby sucks on it? BUt then again it's not really my place to share with the children of others- you are right there are some dipshits out there that have to show off and "scare the locals" and they give the rest of us a bad name...

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/10/2006 1:29:29 PM   
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Yes, the hotel should have kept better track of what was taking place in there establishment, but ulitimately the offensive behavior is the fault of the person who did it. If certain people can't behave like adults then there is really no one to blame but them and they shouldn't be allowed to participate in adult activities. Unfortunately, we don't live in a perfect world.

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RE: kids ruin swingers evening.... - 1/10/2006 1:38:50 PM   
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And I will restate my thesis. It is the height of paranoia to automatically assume this is some conspiracy theory. And like you being outraged by the media, Im outraged by the bdsm community itself in its automatic dismissal of the idea that this could have been a few bad apples ruining things for the whole group. I mean it just couldn't be! Right? After all, we are the "good guys" and none of us poor helpless innocent victims would ever do anything like acting like jerks in public areas of the hotel during a convention. Right? It couldn't be the fault of a few bad apples acting inappropriately. It just COULDENT! I know it! It must be.

Convention goeres acting like jerkwads in the public area of hotels is something I see happen way more frequently then "oppression" by any moral watchdog group.

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