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lilyophelia -> RE: Falling for a Dom/me, submissive, slave (1/9/2006 8:18:04 PM)
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i think it's easier in person, but yes, i don't see why you couldn't fall into something very deep, very quickly.
i've had long-term relationships that started online, and that became very serious in a very short amount of time. The only thing that i would caution about is making sure that you and the person you are speaking with are honest. Talk on the phone, often and alot. Send each other mail that isn't electronic, and presents. Arrange for visits. If there are lots of complications to any of this, or if there is even the slightest hint of dishonesty, then i would say to be more careful, and really make sure that you know who you're getting involved with.
But if you're asking if you could like someone, or even fall in love with them, after two months, then i really just have to giggle at you with all of my red thoughts. i've been in three relationships in the past eight years, and they all started within days of meeting each of my partners.
my first love and neophyte Miss was a girl i met at a club. i was easy, and she got me into bed the first night we met *smirk* We actually just cuddled for a week and a half, every night, before things progressed further, but i was in love, and very stricken. i was also very young, and so that relationship ended after a little over five years; early relationships are hard because you're still in the process of growing up.
my second partner came to me through the internet, and again, I spoke with her on the telephone, and we met the next weekend (she was a few hours away). i took the train to see her (because i didn't know how to drive, and besides, trains are ultra romantic in theory) every weekend after, and we were living together after a month. She was an amazing person, and i loved her a lot. Again, she had a lot of growing up to do, and i found that i was too fragile to go through that growing up with her.
my current relationship came via a BDSM club, and it led to a very sensual ticklefest on our second date, because my fingers could not help but explore skin. She's an amazing soul, and a beautiful Lady, and...i won't go on and on about my relationship, except that I'll say that I feel really perfect, and W/we have a daughter together, and a stable life, etc. But it didn't take a long time for our spark to happen....maybe two or three days.
i kind of have a theory on this all, actually, and it goes something like this:
When you're open, and ready to honestly love someone, and you encounter someone else who has that same genuine, benign desire to love and be loved; when you explore each other, and decide that you can like and live with each other; when there's physical desire between you both, and that desire can potentially sustain well into the future...
...then you're pretty close to having that "true love" thing that everyone goes on and on about. Time really doesn't need to factor into situations like this.
Questioning time in terms of validity of feeling is more for when you don't know or trust yourself (and it's beautiful if you don't, and can admit to it), or for when you don't trust the person you're potentially opening yourself up to. Hope that helps.
Huggles and lots of luck,
faeylin, aka lily
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