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MissMorrigan -> RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) (1/23/2009 7:49:57 PM)
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I could see how a person would feel sceptical given how many people there are using sites such as this who want to make easy cash out of someone, usually F2m, and have frequently come across male submissives who have talked to a woman with a view to meeting, invested time and friendship only to be told they 'misunderstood' the situation and that they would have to pay for the privilege of meeting said 'domme'. I am not implying this was the case here, but was wondering if perhaps this could have been what ran through the submissive's mind prior to cancelling - only he knows. He may have had a genuine reason for not being able to turn up. And you're right, people do find reasons according to their prejudices... often formulated as a result of their experiences, M.
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ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMAAM1
I doubt anything was muddied, since she seems to speak fairly clearly. People find reasons to behave according to their prejudices frquently
I have met dozens of male submissives/switches over the years (likely into treble numbers) and the moment a person writes to me expressing their fantasies I know instantly I am a means to an end for them, nothing more, and I know to take it no further, wishing them well in their search - it usually takes just one conversation to decipher what a person's about, ie their intentions. I've made a few errors in judgement but thankfully, these truly are few in number and can honestly say that out of the hundreds I have spoken with/met over the years, only two have been 'fail-to-shows'. When someone has written to me, I want them to connect with me as a person first and foremost, I'm human, my kinks are on my profile, they do not need to discuss those initially with me and that was the most endearing thing about my own boy when he contacted me. After the third day of contact he still hadn't mentioned anything that he wanted or fantasised about, he asked questions about me, my life, my interests (outside BDSM). Those three days turned into a month, including telephone conversations, and I knew by then that this was the right person for me. When we met there wasn't a doubt. We'll have been together three years this coming april/may.
You are the dominant, why aren't you being stricter with the way a conversation develops, ie why are you allowing two days of 'make me your bitch' talk, only to then suggest that you actually meet in person? Shouldn't you already have known in the first conversation that the person was interested only in getting their jollies fulfilled? There are only ever willing participants in these things and you cannot blame the 'do me' subs for your poor choices.
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ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMAAM1
I was actually going to post a rant of my own yesterday, but than resisted the temptation. Mine involved chatting with a man (using the word loosely) after he repeatedly sent emails saying how he wishes he could pamper me in any way possible. When I did go to chat with him, all I read for two days is "will you make me your bitch?", "will you use the strap on?", questions about whether my toes are painted, and could he worship them, etc... So now the miriad of ways I can be sexually kinky with a stranger is the word for pampering me. So than, when I try to limit the kink talk and actually suggest that maybe we should do a drink or dinner, he began trying unsuccessfully to insult me about how I come off like I want to be treated well with dinners and nice things. Go figure, I guess most women just want a boy to volunteer his body, respect and courtship not necessary. M
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