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gypsygrl -> RE: "The Fine Print" (1/26/2009 5:39:31 PM)
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I do tend to think in terms of lists. I would like a list for everything, though I've accepted the fact that I have to do without lists for most things. Sir isn't much into lists, though he accomodates my need for them and even sometimes writes one of his own. One thing about lists, so long as you're using them right, you're not forgetting things. And, if you're prone to forgetting things, lists can be a big help.
But, there is a series of things that a SO should know about me before committing. And, by the time they're an SO they've probably figured those things out without me necessarily having to tell them explicitly though I do pay attention if this or that issue has been covered in some way. I do have a few things relevant to D/s that I really want them to know in my profile.
Of course, my own self understanding is limited so this sort of process only goes so far. Theres things an SO might observe about me that I'd rather keep to myself, or I'm unwilling to admit to myself, or am unaware of, or am only dimly aware of. So, any list I could potentially write about me would be incomplete. It would only be a list of things I know about me and also want them to know. Sir recognized early on that I'm rather frail in some ways. Thats not something I would ever have included on a list of things to know about me because I never thought of myself that way, but is rather important when it comes to compatibility. Obviously, he accepts it, but others might not.
Similarly, I have um's and no matter how much I describe them in how much detail, until everybody's met everybody and has spent significant amounts of time with each other, and made their own judgements/observations/conclusions about each other, those descriptions are pretty meaningless. Simply talking about my kids isn't enough and I'd much prefer an SO spend time with them rather than listen to me talk. That way, they can decide for themselves. I guess thats the point I'm trying to make: the sort of process you're talking about in the original post where you have a series of things in the back of your head that you want to make sure they know about you might come into conflict with the other person's process of getting to know you. (if that makes any sense...I'm feeling like I'm rambling.)
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