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atypicalsub -> How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/24/2009 10:38:42 PM)

Assuming you're being a good subbie and on a daily basis doing everything you can for your Dom/me, what do you do for their birthday?  How do you make one day stand out as being their special day?



SteelofUtah -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/24/2009 10:55:56 PM)

Well quite a few people from CM went to Vegas and celebrated Steelbalation 2008. We had fun dicked around Vegas, Merc dressed in Drag, we went to a Swingers Club and The Steel Warm up was Trademarked.

It Was FREAKING AWSOME.

I love and still love everyone who was a part of that very special weekend.

Steel



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/24/2009 11:04:50 PM)

Well since we moved to Austin, I get him tickets to the ACL Fest weekend since that's around his birthday, go to a very special restaurant, get him something he's really been wanting.



peppermint -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/24/2009 11:54:39 PM)

He's gonna be 68 on Monday.  He'd probably prefer not being reminded.

I did take him on a cruise and we just got back yesterday. 



RiverofTrouble -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/25/2009 1:34:19 AM)

I proposed on Master's last birthday....He said "Yes!". There was crying involved. It was awesome!



feydeplume -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/25/2009 5:23:24 AM)

I am taking this to mean that you generally fill all their day to day needs and are looking for some way to fill the need for something extra for their birthday. Since you can't suddenly spoil them more than you already do, you have to create a new need then fill it. I don't know if cake or other bakery goods are Ok for your D, but you can "up the quality" for breakfast or desert by adding something they like only better or fancier. A cutesy thing you can do is wrap a ribbon around you and other things that they use to bring attention to how wonderful their life is. You can, perhaps, call all their friends and co-workers and remind them that it is their birthday. Even something as simple as a candle with their breakfast to acknowledge that you know it is their birthday can do the trick to make it special. 



Sandyshores29718 -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/25/2009 5:27:45 AM)

You can make the day special all kinds of ways.  Make their favorite cake...cook their favorite meal...get them something they had been wanting/talking about.  Just make the whole day about them and show them how glad you are that they were born.



rubberpet -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/25/2009 7:52:05 AM)

Remember it! [:D]
 
I have other ways to make it special, but Mistress told me it was impolite to brag.  [;)]



atypicalsub -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/25/2009 8:58:07 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

Well quite a few people from CM went to Vegas and celebrated Steelbalation 2008. We had fun dicked around Vegas, Merc dressed in Drag, we went to a Swingers Club and The Steel Warm up was Trademarked.

Steel


Trips like that would be wonderful but are *way* out of my budget.  Right now I'm still trying to get my business restarted aftering moving half way across the country to be here with my Mistress.  I'm barely meeting my expenses here.



atypicalsub -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/25/2009 9:06:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: feydeplume

I am taking this to mean that you generally fill all their day to day needs and are looking for some way to fill the need for something extra for their birthday. Since you can't suddenly spoil them more than you already do, you have to create a new need then fill it. I don't know if cake or other bakery goods are Ok for your D, but you can "up the quality" for breakfast or desert by adding something they like only better or fancier. A cutesy thing you can do is wrap a ribbon around you and other things that they use to bring attention to how wonderful their life is. You can, perhaps, call all their friends and co-workers and remind them that it is their birthday. Even something as simple as a candle with their breakfast to acknowledge that you know it is their birthday can do the trick to make it special. 


Thanks, this is the sort of help I'm looking for.  People are offering wonderful ideas but most of them involve spending a lot of money I don't have.  Even taking her out to a really nice restaraunt is out of my budget this month.

Home made baked goods are one of the perks she didn't expect when I came here.  She it totally addicted to my cookies and muffins so I have to bake fresh batches for her a couple times every week.  Still I'm realizing that while I can rate her preferences for her toys I don't actualy know what her favorite type of cake is!  This is still a new relationship, I've only been with her a few months.  So this is also the first personal holiday since I've been here.



feydeplume -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/25/2009 9:25:57 AM)

When you are working with limited or no funds, you really have to get creative. Is there some task around the house that she has been meaning to do, but not yet gotten to? Is there some information that she has been meaning to read or learn about but hasn't gotten access to or time to read/learn? is there some behavior or trait that she is working with you on to improve or change (being too talkative, not listening well enough, day dreaming) that you can REALLY focus on for the day to show her how much she means to you? Is there some vanilla semi-hard limit that you can bend for the day that would make her smile?

I am assuming a lot of things here, like little or no money, a full time or near full time relationship in real time, that you are a sub/slave outside of the bedroom, that you already do things like make sure the house is the way she likes it, make sure the remote is where she wants it, make sure food is how she wants it, and all that stuff.

best of luck figuring out what to do!



marie2 -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/25/2009 9:38:58 AM)

I would do something creative that shows some extra thought went into it.  If you have artistic ability, sketch a portrait of her, if you write well, write her a poem or a story that has some kind of symbolic significance to your relationship, if you play an instrument, perform a song for her, or write one if you can.  Or if there is something that she would like you to push through, like a soft limit, for instance, that would probably be appreciated.  If all else fails, you could always prepare a nice meal, something a little bit elaborate.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/25/2009 9:59:42 AM)

Oh I didn't realize you were actively looking for ideas you could use yourself or what limitations you had.  In that case I'd likely plan a day trip out to a local museum together with a picnic lunch.



SteelofUtah -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/25/2009 10:13:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: atypicalsub

quote:

ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

Well quite a few people from CM went to Vegas and celebrated Steelbalation 2008. We had fun dicked around Vegas, Merc dressed in Drag, we went to a Swingers Club and The Steel Warm up was Trademarked.

Steel


Trips like that would be wonderful but are *way* out of my budget.  Right now I'm still trying to get my business restarted aftering moving half way across the country to be here with my Mistress.  I'm barely meeting my expenses here.


Oh then I would suggest you play "This is YOUR Life" and Take Mistress on a Trip down Memory Lane and then Maybe make a Small Book of Pictures that Chronograph your time together. Show her how important SHE is in your life and tell her the story of your side of comeing to give yourself to her.

That is what I would suggest and it is always cute.

Steel



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/25/2009 10:38:12 AM)

this year, i'll have to top the gift i gave to Daddy last year - a rare Cole Porter on vinyl (record).



kristileigh -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/25/2009 3:16:44 PM)


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Oh then I would suggest you play "This is YOUR Life" and Take Mistress on a Trip down Memory Lane and then Maybe make a Small Book of Pictures that Chronograph your time together. Show her how important SHE is in your life and tell her the story of your side of comeing to give yourself to her.

That is what I would suggest and it is always cute.

Steel
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Steel,
I really like this idea as Master and i will have known each other for a year and a few days on His birthday next month.
i am deffinately going to use Your idea. Thanks!

slave kristi



MistressDoMe -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/25/2009 3:20:02 PM)

be creative?



ODschainedangel -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/25/2009 6:11:26 PM)

One year on my Master's birthday.. We had talked about his bullwhip. He had said once I wont use it on you till you ask me to. He knew it was something I feared. So on his birthday that year. I mentioned to him me taking his birthday licks(as in spanks hits esct) He liked this idea. He started with the flogger, at some point i begged please use the bull whip for the rest my Lord. He did so more gentle than he could have I am thankful for that, But he told me later it was a great gift because it was sort of a limit for me that I showed him I was willing to past for him more than that, it was I showed him my trust in him.
So maybe make out a cute little card saying, this card is to let you know your girl (sub , slave) begs her Master to ___________fill in the blank with something he really enjoys or you know he enjoys that you normally don't like or have feared him doing.

On another birthday.. I am in a wheelchair so to kneel on the floor is very hard for me. normally i lay my head on his shoulder and he knows this is my way of kneeling with my head on his knee. But this year, I got all the things i would normally have to get up and down to get him. like his coffee, a flogger some clamps, the cordless phone and some snacks and placed them on a table cloth on the floor and undressed and kneeled by his office chair and waited on him to come home. Since he knew how hard this is for me it was a special gift for him.

Just some ideas , I hope they help.

Angel



atypicalsub -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/27/2009 11:40:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: feydeplume

I am assuming a lot of things here, like little or no money, a full time or near full time relationship in real time, that you are a sub/slave outside of the bedroom, that you already do things like make sure the house is the way she likes it, make sure the remote is where she wants it, make sure food is how she wants it, and all that stuff.



I was very brief in my original posting, but I think all your assumptions were correct.  I relocated here from more than a thousand miles away for her.  This is my first real D/s relationship.  I am her sub full time, in and out of the house.  We toned it down a bit for the weekend when watching her friend's children but I still wore my collar, did the house keeping and cooking, etc.  It actualy felt weird to call her by her first name instead of Mistress for three days. 



littleone35 -> RE: How do you make your Dom/me's birthday special? (1/28/2009 8:13:23 AM)

Well the first year  i made my Master brownies he loves those.  I also gave him a card and a massage.  The second year  i gave him cream puffs (loves those too) and a card and some sexual service.  His b day is in Nov so i have time, not sure what i will do this year.  Even if i knew i would not write it he reads the message boards.

Matt's littleone



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