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Play Questions for Subs - 1/25/2009 3:27:51 PM

sweets1957

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I have a weekly assignment of writing journals describing what i think a session with Sir would involve and be like on any play i choose. Not that Sir is going to do anything i write, i think it is more of trying to send my mind into different areas. I am fairly new to this in general. I try to write about areas of interest that he has, but being new i have no idea on some of these plays. If any submissives could tell me about their experience with vaccum play, outdoor play, breast and ass play i could get some ideas about what it might be like to go there. Thanks in advance for any answers.

c

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/25/2009 4:32:51 PM

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*this is a joke*
Vacuum play: Tango with the vacuum while wearing high heels and with a rose in your teeth.
outdoor play: Hide and Seek at the mall, you hide his credit cards about your person, then make him seek you out by the happy looks on sales people's faces
breast play: Dress up as a Hooters waitress and ask if he wants ranch with that. Give him a bill at the end of the night.
ass play: Rent a Donkey head from a costume shop and role play Shakespeare, with him as Oberon.

Seriously, if you are that unfamiliar with these forms of play try doing a little research at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM and asstr (fiction site which might give you some fantasy ideas).

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/25/2009 4:52:12 PM

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I understand the terms. I am trying to find out from the submissive's view on what the experience is like. Painful, turn on.......real life experience of them.

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/25/2009 4:58:30 PM

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My first thought is that perhaps he's trying to discover YOUR areas of interest through this assignment, and trying to get you to explore your desires and wants and needs rather than keeping his in mind while writing. I could be wrong, just a thought ...

As for vacuum play .. I've experienced a 'pussy pump' and vacuum play on my nipples - both of which don't do much for me, but it's interesting, I suppose. Go to www.extremerestraints.com and search 'vacuum' - you'll see some toys and their use.

Outdoor play - not for me, hard limit. I've tried it, and found I'm way too nervous about discovery, embarrassment, etc.

Breast and ass play - these terms could incorporate so much. I've enjoyed all sorts of breast play, from slapping, flogging, beating with a wooden spoon ... to nipple 'torture' - clamps, clothespins, clothespins all over the breasts. I enjoy it all immensely. The only thing I hate is biting - but I endure it when he wishes, it's not a limit. As for ass play, it can range from training for anal sex to vibrators, dildos, plugs, etc. I enjoy his use of my breasts and ass very much - some activities more than others.

I'd suggest literotica.com - it has tons of erotic stories which may give you some ideas to start with. It's really very fantasy-based and not very realistic and sometimes very poorly written, but it was one of my 'jumping off' points when exploring BDSM. It put ideas in my head which I was able to explore and see how I really felt about them.

Another way to explore your interests is to google 'bdsm checklist' - it's a list of BDSM activities, and you may find things that make you curious or that float your boat.

Also use the search function here and do a lot of reading - you'll learn a lot!

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/25/2009 4:58:41 PM

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How can anyone here know how you will feel?

I know a girl who can take a Fist in her Asshole like it's a Breeze up her skirt. I know another girl that screams bloody Murder with the tip of the pinky finger.

I know girls who get off on some things and not on others. What you are asking will serve no purpose unless you are wanting wanking material.

If you want to know what things will be like you NEED to experience them.

The Assigment you have is an experiment in futility as you cannot know what you do not know you can only speculate I think you may want to tune the fantasy down a little and spend a little more time with the reality. Try different things on yourself and see if you like it. Spank Yourself, Slap your own face HARD, Tweek your Nipples, Tie up your Breasts, Then write about how it felt to you. Stop living in your Mind on things your Mind has never experienced it will only lead to fantasies that do not live up to reality.

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/25/2009 5:04:06 PM

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Thanks. All comments were appreciated.

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/25/2009 5:08:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweets1957

I have a weekly assignment of writing journals describing what i think a session with Sir would involve and be like on any play i choose. Not that Sir is going to do anything i write, i think it is more of trying to send my mind into different areas. I am fairly new to this in general. I try to write about areas of interest that he has, but being new i have no idea on some of these plays. If any submissives could tell me about their experience with vaccum play, outdoor play, breast and ass play i could get some ideas about what it might be like to go there. Thanks in advance for any answers.

c

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On a serious note....if your Sir knows this is new for you and you have little to no experience with some of the things that interest him, why not just ask him to explain these things to you? Also, if I read your post correctly, he's asking for things that involve types of play you would choose and not things that interest him.
Why not go back and ask for a bit more clarification? Explain to him you're unsure about this assignment and see what he has to say.

Asking for others to tell you how these things are for them is like asking Neil Armstrong how that first step felt...you can read the words but it's still second-hand knowledge. You won't know until you actually experience it for yourself.

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/25/2009 7:35:36 PM

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Ah, hmm.. you're asking ideas about things that you can then write about that then aren't going to happen..

What am I missing here?

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/25/2009 7:52:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: sweets1957

I have a weekly assignment of writing journals describing what i think a session with Sir would involve and be like on any play i choose.
c

Why not focus on that...it sounds like he is trying to get to know you...and not base those explorations on what you think he would like to read... or what his past experience has been.

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/26/2009 4:23:52 AM

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It sounds like the purpose of the assignment is to write about your fantasies and interests for play, probably so your Dom can get a better understanding of you. Do you fantasize about vacuum play, outdoor play, etc? If so, write about your fantasies. If not...... write about something else you fantasize about.

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/26/2009 4:32:12 AM

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In all honesty it sounds like your Dom is trying to get a handle on things that YOU may like. Don't write what you think He wants, write things you're interested in. You should always include in the post to Him whether or not you have real life experience in this fetish or just something you're curious about. Take advantage of this assignment, it gives you a chance to tell your Dominant what you like, want, desire and are interested in through written word. It gives you a level of security knowing you don't have to say it to His face and feel uncomfortable.
My suggestion, write about everything that has ever crossed your mind. Everything that you even have considered to be erotic or a possible fantasy. What have you got to lose? You said He may or may not follow through with them anyway, but at least you know that He know what you want.
Good luck, and do post a follow up so we can find out what happened. i for one and curious about what you decided and what course of action followed.

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/26/2009 4:37:02 AM

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There's really no way for us to suss out your desires and wants. Nor should we...if we tell you what we like, it doesn't show what you like. If you're worried about some of the types of play your dominant likes, then you should tell him so. The things I like might frighten you. My questionable, gray moral areas might not be yours. I agree with the rest of the folks here, check out some erotic fiction, see what appeals to you. Once you have a basis of play that you like, then you can start imagining what other sort of things you like.

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/26/2009 6:47:15 AM

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I agree with the other posts. This is a time for you to write down what desires you have. Sir did that in the beginning. It is a way they can get to know us better. So take this time to get to know you through your eyes, not our eyes.

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/26/2009 7:58:50 AM

sparkyRBF

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One thing that really helped open up some good communication between Master and myself about this lifestyle was a "limit list"

A limit list is a list of activities or types of bondage, or actions that you rate how interested you would be in them or if they are a hard limit. you also can rate if you have done them and if you would like to do them again.

So if you are looking for ideas for writing and what to write about.. i'd find a limit list and go through each one and write how i would feel about that activity. Even if you haven't done something you can have an idea of how you would feel about it.

However, i agree with SteelofUtah about "Stop living in your Mind on things your Mind has never experienced it will only lead to fantasies that do not live up to reality. "

So the key would be just writing about how you feel about it.. not how a fantasy would go.

i hope this is helpful.

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/26/2009 8:28:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweets1957

I have a weekly assignment of writing journals describing what i think a session with Sir would involve and be like on any play i choose. Not that Sir is going to do anything i write, i think it is more of trying to send my mind into different areas. I am fairly new to this in general. I try to write about areas of interest that he has, but being new i have no idea on some of these plays. If any submissives could tell me about their experience with vaccum play, outdoor play, breast and ass play i could get some ideas about what it might be like to go there. Thanks in advance for any answers.

c

Look, c

This is the kind of question that, if I were to have made it, I would want your and only your answers to it. If you had posted my assignment to a group such as this and intended to use any of these answers, you would most definitely incur my wrath, babe.

I have to get on my soapbox here and do a little preaching. Now what makes all of your subs / slaves / property / bottoms out there believe that everything the Dom asks is fodder for public fora? Is the concept of personal and private communications completely foreign to you? Does it not even occur to you that s/he wants your own feelings and perceptions on things? Are you all just so ditsy or walled-up or batty or fake or what-have-you that you need someone else to answer simple questions for you?

To me, if I were considering a sub / slave exhibiting this kind of behavior, that would lead to a red-flag of the deal-breaking intensity. Just my thoughts.

Thank you for participating. No amens were needed.

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/26/2009 9:30:51 AM

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I know in my relationship with Sir, going to any board or chatroom discussing private things between Sir and me would not be accepted. With that said, perhaps the OP didn't realize it and to call her names is pure rude. As you said, if you were considering her as your s-type this would be a red -flag, considering is the key. Imo, there was no need to humilate her in her quest.

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/26/2009 9:38:58 AM

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Are you and your dominant in person? There could be a lot of things going on here... and my answer would be determined by if you are in person or not.

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/26/2009 10:44:18 AM

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DANG IT! I hate when i make a statement and then have it proven wrong within a few hours. You have just pissed all over my fairytale unicorn world that when people ask a nice, polite, sincere question they are going to receive like answers.

You could have clearly made your point without being such a flamer. Is this what makes you proud of yourself?

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/26/2009 10:54:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sparkyRBF

DANG IT! I hate when i make a statement and then have it proven wrong within a few hours. You have just pissed all over my fairytale unicorn world that when people ask a nice, polite, sincere question they are going to receive like answers.

You could have clearly made your point without being such a flamer. Is this what makes you proud of yourself?

sparkyRBF

oh i have unicorns, fairies and elves at my house..they do exist:) Glad I do not have flamers here though..:)

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RE: Play Questions for Subs - 1/26/2009 11:08:00 AM

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Look, c

This is the kind of question that, if I were to have made it, I would want your and only your answers to it. If you had posted my assignment to a group such as this and intended to use any of these answers, you would most definitely incur my wrath, babe.

I have to get on my soapbox here and do a little preaching. Now what makes all of your subs / slaves / property / bottoms out there believe that everything the Dom asks is fodder for public fora? Is the concept of personal and private communications completely foreign to you? Does it not even occur to you that s/he wants your own feelings and perceptions on things? Are you all just so ditsy or walled-up or batty or fake or what-have-you that you need someone else to answer simple questions for you?

To me, if I were considering a sub / slave exhibiting this kind of behavior, that would lead to a red-flag of the deal-breaking intensity. Just my thoughts.

Thank you for participating. No amens were needed.

Call me LL

What a very attractive post. I'm thinking it will be very popular too. You, Mister, are about to become one sought-after... Mister!

I think you should start a separate thread with just this query. In fact, start it with this question:

quote:

Are you all just so ditsy or walled-up or batty or fake or what-have-you that you need someone else to answer simple questions for you?

You can't go wrong with that.

To the OP, sometimes questions like this can make some of us feel insecure. :(
There is the search function here, (upper right), and there are stories at Literotica.com that might give you ideas.

Best of luck to you and to LL!

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