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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

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ORIGINAL: TwistedAffection

When a Mistress ask a submissive/switch, what they can do for them. And that person tells them what ever it takes to get them off, before they do because that it return will allow them to know their Mistress was satisfied and give them satisfaction. Isn't this how it's supposed to be? Is this what a Mistress wants to hear?

I realize this is probably going to come across as somewhat brutal, but reading yet another one of these questions, I suddenly had a revelation about why women ask the question "what can you do for me" in such vague terms. Because thinking back to the Bad Old Days when I was actually chatting with prospective subs by email, on one or two occasions, I have actually found myself asking someone this question without giving any specifics. It was always the email before I started ignoring him.

Whenever I would ask a man "What can you do for me?", it was always in a context of HIM HAVING ASKED ME FOR SOMETHING.

Do you like to use a strap-on, mistress? Will you spank me until I can't sit down? Will you use me as a human ashtray, mistress? Will you make me worship your boots? Will you blackmail me, dress me up like a sissy, put me in a diaper and call me "Doody Judy", blah blah blah me me me my fetishes my fetishes blah?

Yes, I realize that most men who hit a woman with the laundry list of their kinky desires, fantasies and fetishes do not think that they are presenting a woman with a List of Demands or an exhausting set of chores. But guess what, darlin'--no matter how dominant we are, no matter how much we like people with penises, the vast majority of women DON'T WANT TO FUCK YOU IF WE DON'T KNOW YOU.

Ever.

End of story.

So if you are sending a woman emails about what you want sexually, when she sends you an email back asking what you can do for her? It generally means that NOTHING you've said so far has done ANYTHING for her. The space between her thighs has not heated up a single degree. You are giving her no desire to "get off" whatsoever--you are not turning her on, or making her want to have sex with you or dominate you. If you were, she'd already be telling you want she wanted because she'd be excited about you as a man and a sex object.

As it stands, when she asks you "what can you do for me", she's giving you one last-ditch chance to prove that your head isn't completely up your own ass and that you aren't a completely worthless, self-obsessed bore. "I'll make you come too", "I'll make you come first", or any other sexual offer is probably not the way to go at that moment. I have no idea what might actually work to turn the situation around at that moment, but I think my recommended strategy from now on would be a hasty reply of "Wow, I got off on a tangent there talking about ME for a while, didn't I? You're right, I should probably get to you know better and think about what you want as well. I can see you have some interests listed in your profile--what about this (fill in her interest of choice) thing? I'm interested in that, although I don't know much about it..."

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ORIGINAL: OneMoreWaste

Hm, what can I do for You... 

Lesse, I can hold this poor guy's mouth open while y'all jump down his throat