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Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/11/2006 6:35:46 AM   
HoosierScorpio


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Status: offline 		I respond to some one profile not because I was interest but was curious they know enough to be a switch. Instead they felt that was an insult and then was negative in their response. I must admit I respond back negative but that was only because the way they attacked me first. Then the next thing the person did posted what I respond to them. My question is does this show the person know how to handle a situation or did they show their immaturely level. Could you trust this person enough to be safe because they were offended by a simple question? There are so many players on line how can you be sure the person is safe and know what they are doing if you do not ask question? This person was reported but still no action was taken with their profile.
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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/11/2006 6:42:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		In my opinion it shows neither of you were mature or knew how to handle the situation.
Why would you run and taddle on the person after you'd exchanged nasty messages?
Why would you post this here, so other people could assess your judgment? M

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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/11/2006 6:59:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

In my opinion it shows neither of you were mature or knew how to handle the situation.
Why would you run and taddle on the person after you'd exchanged nasty messages?
Why would you post this here, so other people could assess your judgment? M

Couldn't have said it better.

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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/11/2006 7:00:01 AM   
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Why would you post this here, so other people could assess your judgment?

Sadly, it is clear that he never even considered that his reaction was just as bad or worse than the one he provoked, so was expecting that we would just agree how terrible the other person was. Oops -- that backfired!

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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/11/2006 7:08:40 AM   
plantlady64


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Status: offline 		Hello There,
If the contact was rude when sent back why did you let this get your panties in a bunch instead of just moving on?
If this person is immature and a stranger why waste your energy this way?
On the internet it's a law of numbers game for all of us. Who knows how many frogs we must kiss before the fairytail will begin.
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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/11/2006 7:09:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

In my opinion it shows neither of you were mature or knew how to handle the situation.
Why would you run and taddle on the person after you'd exchanged nasty messages?
Why would you post this here, so other people could assess your judgment? M


In total agreement

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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/11/2006 11:14:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: HoosierScorpio

I respond to some one profile not because I was interest but was curious they know enough to be a switch. Instead they felt that was an insult and then was negative in their response. I must admit I respond back negative but that was only because the way they attacked me first.


It sounds like a genuine third grade case of "Well she started it". Just because someone starts something does not mean it's ok to lower yourself to their level. Perhaps you could have shown your class in a polite and civil response.
Obviously you're just as upset over one e-mail as the other was, so I don't see what the problem is.

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Then the next thing the person did posted what I respond to them.


Did they use your name? It's perfectly acceptable if they didn't and doesn't call for moderation.

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question is does this show the person know how to handle a situation or did they show their immaturely level.


It shows their and your maturity level.






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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/11/2006 12:45:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HoosierScorpio

I respond to some one profile not because I was interest but was curious they know enough to be a switch. Instead they felt that was an insult and then was negative in their response. I must admit I respond back negative but that was only because the way they attacked me first. Then the next thing the person did posted what I respond to them. My question is does this show the person know how to handle a situation or did they show their immaturely level. Could you trust this person enough to be safe because they were offended by a simple question? There are so many players on line how can you be sure the person is safe and know what they are doing if you do not ask question? This person was reported but still no action was taken with their profile.


Based on the above information, I'd say that you probably contacted someone that was clearly listed as a "Dominant" in their profile. Every person has the ability to list their "orientation." To suggest, or ask them to "switch," out of your own "curiosity" is not only ludicrous, it's tantamount to a total disregard, as well as a lack of respect for what they have in their profile. Men have approached me with the same, and I found it quite offensive myself.

If in fact this is the case, the reaction you received may have been warranted.

If the message they sent back to you was offensive to 'you,' it may not have been against CM TOS, and thus no action from the Mods. The fact that you also responded to this person, that was supposedly soooo offensive, is questionable too.

I agree with the others that suspect it is your own maturity level that should be checked.

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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/11/2006 1:01:48 PM   
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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/11/2006 9:17:22 PM   
HoosierScorpio


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Status: offline 		I know I ask an honest question because I am interest in truth and honesty. If asking a simple question gets the kind of reply and show the immature level that was shown back I have been in this lifestyle for many years and seen allot people in it get hurt. I was not even interest in this person but I felt it warrant me asking the question after reading the post about wan bees. This may be petty by some of you guys but at the same time I would not be doing my Duty as a Master who is true to the lifestyle. If you were shown the same kind of disrespect as a person would you not respond back the same way? I am showing you guys respect by listening to your impute and critique of how I handle things.

< Message edited by HoosierScorpio -- 1/11/2006 9:29:07 PM >

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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/11/2006 9:46:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HoosierScorpio

I was not even interest in this person but I felt it warrant me asking the question after reading the post about wan bees


Wan bees? Do they make pale honey? I think I'd like to see that.

(Sorry. I couldn't help myself.)



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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/11/2006 10:00:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HoosierScorpio
If you were shown the same kind of disrespect as a person would you not respond back the same way? I am showing you guys respect by listening to your impute and critique of how I handle things.


Simple answer, I'd have just moved on and forgot about it. You can't change rude people and getting rude back just validates their beliefs.



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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/12/2006 4:40:47 AM   
HoosierScorpio


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Status: offline 		Thank you has a validated point John Warren the problem is this person has posted what I told her and my screen name on her profile and collarme has done any thing about it. I guess they are not serious about violators using members screen name in their profiles. This persona has been reported not only by me but by others who know me for. I wish every one be safe and well and I guess that person is nothing more than a player.

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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/12/2006 5:26:35 AM   
JohnWarren


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ORIGINAL: HoosierScorpio

Thank you has a validated point John Warren the problem is this person has posted what I told her and my screen name on her profile and collarme has done any thing about it. I guess they are not serious about violators using members screen name in their profiles. This persona has been reported not only by me but by others who know me for. I wish every one be safe and well and I guess that person is nothing more than a player.


By replying rudely, you gave her the ball. She just ran with it. Just being silent would have avoided the problem in the first place.

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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/12/2006 6:35:28 AM   
KatyLied


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I guess they are not serious about violators using members screen name in their profiles.


You do realize that the mods are volunteering their services? They may have real jobs (gasp!). They'll get to your situation, be patient. Whining about it here is not going to make them happy.

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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/12/2006 6:37:25 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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I must admit I respond back negative but that was only because the way they attacked me first.


This, coupled with what you said later says to me that you know you did the immature thing and are just trying to justify it ex post facto. Your ego was bruised so you retaliated, and for some reason are wanting all of us to back you up for it.

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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/12/2006 8:16:01 AM   
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but ...but...SOMETIMES...i guess...SOME folks arent adult enough to handle confrontation so they have to pawn it off on someone else...

either way...THAT to ME is childish..
if ya cant take the heat...dont go in the kitchen..


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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/12/2006 9:40:05 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

In my opinion it shows neither of you were mature or knew how to handle the situation.
Why would you run and taddle on the person after you'd exchanged nasty messages?
Why would you post this here, so other people could assess your judgment? M


Ditto that.


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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/13/2006 2:32:48 PM   
sub4hire


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Could you trust this person enough to be safe because they were offended by a simple question? There are so many players on line how can you be sure the person is safe and know what they are doing if you do not ask question?


Take the rest of the statement away. Ask yourself the same question.

Could you trust a person who flies off the handle at a mere question?

Then ask yourself why they responded in the way they did. What would make you respond the same way? Assuming of course you did not respond to them in the same way they responded to you.


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RE: Does handling a situation show one maturity level? - 1/13/2006 6:46:20 PM   
IceyOne


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Status: offline 		Some people react to questions differently. Perhaps, it was in their profile WHY they designate themselves a switch, and felt that you asking them was insulting ( meaning you did not bother to read the profile ). Responding back in the same manner is just as immature as you say this person was. You acted just as badly. Take your licks and move on.

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