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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 1/29/2009 5:18:14 PM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		About the only thing I expect (which some may see as a requirement) is that he be himself.

When I was looking for a partner, I did not know that I was looking for someone to have complete authority over me.  I was looking for someone that I perceived as dominant.  I wanted someone with integrity and a sense of honour that I could appreciate.  I wanted someone who clicked with me mentally, emotionally and physically (listed in order of importance for me).

Those are the things that I needed in order to develope enough trust in order to be in a relationship and the person that he is exceeded what I wanted in a partner.  Once I started interacting with him, everyone else kind of faded to the background.  There is not anyone that I have met before or since then that is capable of pulling my focus off of him. 

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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 1/29/2009 5:55:43 PM   
BalletBob


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Status: offline 		Who in their RIGHT MIND, can't love the Bee Gees and ABBA?

Take them away, hee hee, ho ho, ha ha, to the Funny Farm.

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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 1/29/2009 8:36:57 PM   
Opalescence


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Status: offline 		I gave up on strict requirements. More or less, he has to mesh with my personality, have good hygiene, and he has to be in control of him self (this goes along with the whole him being dominant in general but, I figured that was a given).

Anything beyond that, I leave up in the air.

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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 1/30/2009 4:08:53 PM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		He has to be true to himself and his ideas.

Physically he has to be thin.

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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 1/30/2009 11:08:20 PM   
HardToTame


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Status: offline 		Imagination and respect. 


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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 1/31/2009 12:01:05 PM   
slaveluci


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BalletBob

Who in their RIGHT MIND, can't love the Bee Gees and ABBA?

Take them away, hee hee, ho ho, ha ha, to the Funny Farm.

I totally agree, Bob, but when Master read this He said He'll only need to go the funny farm if He has to listen to them and their ilk.  Oh well, no accounting for musical tastes.............luci

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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 1/31/2009 12:06:05 PM   
feydeplume


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Status: offline 		My M really doesn't do the ABBA disco thing, but he is supportive of me listening. He says I am cute when i am dancing around cleaning house to "Dancing Queen". He also has an aversion to musicals... *sigh*

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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 1/31/2009 12:12:34 PM   
gumshoe


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quote:

ORIGINAL: feydeplume

So there is this big thread about how slaves can or can't have requirements. The general opinion of many slaves is that they do and must have requirements. 


If slaves did not have any such requirements, then what other motivation would they have to enter into a relationship?

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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 1/31/2009 2:49:09 PM   
BondageBarbieX


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Morals
Integrity
self respect
monogamous
non smoker
non drinker
no drugs
straight
handsome
rich
good in bed


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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 1/31/2009 5:57:04 PM   
feydeplume


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Status: offline 		That is why I asked that question, to see what the real "requirements" are. Not all the fancy stuff about being good with a whip or rope, but things like the people here have listed. I hope a few passing "new" D types read this and see what we really require.

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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 1/31/2009 7:32:51 PM   
blacksilk


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Status: offline 		Honesty above all else.
Honour in his dealings with others.
Sense of humour (the wackier and sicker the better ;)
Quiet inner strength, self-confidence not arrogance.
Knows the slave is a person even though only property and that there will be rough days in with the good ones.
Physically fit and healthy (how can he be trusted to take care of a slave if he can't take care of himself)
Reliable, does what he says - no empty promises.

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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 1/31/2009 11:57:40 PM   
HardToTame


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Status: offline 		I think, its all about opposites.  A slave is the opposite to a master, so I think the most general answer would be for a mistress to be the ying to the yang.  One supply's one demands, they balance eachother. 

If I had to run off a indepth list of what I want in a mistress, I'd get slammed from everyone here for it.  But basically,  imagination and respect.  (And yes all that sexyness and shit aaswell, but maybe thats for another thread)

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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 2/1/2009 3:02:18 AM   
VioletAshes


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Status: offline 		I have only one requirement. Respect.

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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 2/1/2009 3:14:06 AM   
sirsholly


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quote:

Who in their RIGHT MIND, can't love the Bee Gees and ABBA?



i like ABBA...but the BeeGees don't sing....they squeak


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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 2/2/2009 6:06:06 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Holly. Take a chance on me.

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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 2/2/2009 8:09:55 AM   
YourSwtBrat


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Status: offline 		i think to not have some kind of requirements is inhuman. as submissives we are still real people with real needs and real feelings. we need more in life than to just submit. if that were the case than anyone would be able to control anything about you. For me to submit everything to a person there are a few things i think i need in return....the basic  things....do we match? Does what i am looking for in life match what She/He is looking for in a submissive...for example, i am a med student....i want to be a Dr. If He or She is looking for a house pet, who doesn't work outside the home...that's not going to work for me. Unless they are independantly wealthy and willing to pay off all my student loans! if You are this person...please contact me!
i guess i'm trying to say there are degree's of compromise in every relationship. i think it's smartest as a submissive or a Dominant to KNOW WHAT YOU NEED and WANT....before looking for the perfect someone. Sure things change a bit but there are those certain things a person can not be like for a relationship to work....im myself am playful and rarely serious,except when i need to be. i then can not seek a Master who takes things seriously all the time. We just won't match. even if we can't make a list of things we require, subconsously those requirements are there....

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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 2/2/2009 9:45:25 AM   
Twicehappy2x


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Status: offline 		Lol, first and foremost for me is they must ride, biker types only, ever.
 
Then, honesty, a sense of humor, trust worthy, laid back, i cannot do the high protocol types.
 
Somebody who i can see is responsible, pays the bills on time, is not hugely in debt.
 
Somebody with good personal hygiene, bathes and brushes their teeth regularly is important.
 
They must be a person who sticks to their commitments,somebody who if they start something they need to be the type that will finish it, whether it be a discussion or extending their education. I see nothing dominant in those who "punk out" so to speak.
 
A person whose authority comes naturally to them. The first time i hear the words  "Respect My Authority" coming from somebodies mouth (aside from the South Park mental flash) it is over. If you feel like you need to demand respect in that particular manner, well, it never was yours to begin with.
 
A person who is respectful of the home/environment we personally occupy.
 
Somebody who is not lazy, who helps out where need be.
 
Most important, somebody i can love.

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RE: slaves what do you require in a M - 2/2/2009 11:31:43 AM   
missfrillypants


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Status: offline 		a potential dominant must first be able to carry on a decent conversation with me, and not just about BDSM. they must not mind that i babble on occasion, they must be attracted to who i am and only wish to make small changes in me... no one who wants me to lose 30 pounds and start wearing jeans and tshirts every day when i do not own a pair of pants. i won't talk to anyone who is rude to me or if they're expecting me to submit right away. they cannot be old enough to be my grandparent. they must know how to read and be willing to do so at least occasionally for recreational purposes. i also require that they be unattached or that their current attachment is all right with them being with me, and that i'm at least somewhat physically attracted to them. making fun of me or those i care about in a serious and non-joking way is awful and wanting me to speak in the third person is right out. they should be able to take a suggestion when it is offered politely at least about some things, and be able to laugh at themselves on occasion. if they can't do these things then they're probably a waste of time.

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