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antipode -> RE: Looking for help/mentoring/guidance (2/6/2009 9:11:03 PM)
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I know that I am opening myself up for people to ridicule me and to say that I am not real
Nah... you're young, inexperienced, you're here, talking, that'll do for real.
Whenever I see that two people do D/s but vanilla, too, and in your case, adding a mistress to the fray, I wonder why you make your life so complicated. In your case, considering your age, you are likely to be trying to run before you can walk. If there is one thing I know never to do is to combine two different kinds of relationship into one. I know some do, I know some are even successful at it, but I know that it can get very complicated, and that the vast majority that try end up having neither relationship.
Then, and she is not here to talk to, you say that your partner's "submissive side is getting greater". That, I am afraid, is a figment of your imagination. While people need to learn to live, and learn how they are stuck together, someone is submissive, or they're not. If you mean she is discovering herself, that'd be fine. But from the way you talk I think you all may be pushing square pegs into round holes, manipulatively, and that can only be done with a sledgehammer, which hurts. A good and golden rule is that you should never attempt to change another person, they can only do that for themselves. And the only change you can effect is the change you create in your self. If you read your own post back, you will see that you announce that you think you know what people will say about you, and raising that as an introduction of yourself is normally the hallmark of a manipulative personality.
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