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RE: Master Attire - 1/29/2009 4:38:05 PM

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It appears I am the only one here that finds this to be odd. I cannot imagine a Master wanting you to dress him the way "you want". Perhaps he is more of a Top than a Master because it sound like he wants you in control. There is nothing wrong with that but those I have met in real life who are Masters would never think about asking "Do I look OK to you?" .....However, perhaps he feels you are not being forth coming on certain fetishes and wants you to be honest with yourself. Many Doms do not like having a slave who can escape reality by "blaming" activities on their Dom they wanted to do. The famous " I only did it because he made me". Perhaps he wants you vulnerable and open to your true desires........Master may not ask what do you want to see me wearing, but he wouldn't want you to not say anything because you are to embarrassed to tell him your desires. But beware, he may just refuse your request.

That or *le gasp* the master wants her to be aroused because seeing her wet and squirming pleases him. Valyraen loves seeing me dripping for him. To achieve that, he does actually have to find out what turns me on.

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RE: Master Attire - 1/29/2009 5:21:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: AmbrosialWench

It appears I am the only one here that finds this to be odd. I cannot imagine a Master wanting you to dress him the way "you want". Perhaps he is more of a Top than a Master because it sound like he wants you in control. There is nothing wrong with that but those I have met in real life who are Masters would never think about asking "Do I look OK to you?" .....However, perhaps he feels you are not being forth coming on certain fetishes and wants you to be honest with yourself. Many Doms do not like having a slave who can escape reality by "blaming" activities on their Dom they wanted to do. The famous " I only did it because he made me". Perhaps he wants you vulnerable and open to your true desires........Master may not ask what do you want to see me wearing, but he wouldn't want you to not say anything because you are to embarrassed to tell him your desires. But beware, he may just refuse your request.

That or *le gasp* the master wants her to be aroused because seeing her wet and squirming pleases him. Valyraen loves seeing me dripping for him. To achieve that, he does actually have to find out what turns me on.

You mean……..if I tell S. I get all flushed and warm looking at his jeans clad buttocks and he still wears them…….oh, Aquatic, is that,,,,,,,,,,(I can barely choke out the words)…..topping from the bottom????????????????

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RE: Master Attire - 1/29/2009 5:28:24 PM

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You mean……..if I tell S. I get all flushed and warm looking at his jeans clad buttocks and he still wears them…….oh, Aquatic, is that,,,,,,,,,,(I can barely choke out the words)…..topping from the bottom????????????????

*sniffles and clings* I'm afraid so! It looks like no more seeing Val's ass in leather pants for me....

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RE: Master Attire - 1/29/2009 5:32:43 PM

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One of the outfits that Alandra and I love to see him in is his kilt, especially at a Leather event. It is so much fun to watch the boys watch him. He looks really good in his leathers too.

My favorite though, has to be the time he played Alandra naked at Tribal Fire in OK. Both of them were naked and the wall was filled with boys lining up to watch. I am not sure if it was the fact that he was naked or the play that drew them, but I found it very entertaining to watch others watch them.

He is really yummy to look at and in writing this I have tortured myself even more... he has not been home very much over the last few months and he is away now for another week or so. I really miss him...

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RE: Master Attire - 1/29/2009 5:35:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

He is really yummy to look at and in writing this I have tortured myself even more... he has not been home very much over the last few months and he is away now for another week or so. I really miss him...

Why yes, yes he is. Not that I'm part of the KoM fan club or anything... I'm sorry to hear that he hasn't been around. *offers hugs* I know that sucks and Val feels your pain. My family and the wedding have had me on the road a lot lately.

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RE: Master Attire - 1/29/2009 8:18:35 PM

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I'm sorry to hear that he hasn't been around. *offers hugs* I know that sucks and Val feels your pain. My family and the wedding have had me on the road a lot lately.

Yeah, it sucks. What balances it out is that it is no where near as hard as it was about a year and a half ago. Sometimes I really wonder how I made it through the first three years of long distance. One twist is that the last three months have given him a deeper appreaciation of what the first three years were like for me. Having a light at the end of the tunnel was really important for us.

Congratulations on your wedding; you have something bright and wonderful to look forward to. Our best to you both. It is so much fun to see people happy.

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RE: Master Attire - 1/29/2009 10:25:34 PM

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I can't say that I am all that visual. I'm more of a tactile kinda girl. Skin is what gets me. We rarely 'dress' for play. Most of the time it's jammie bottoms for him! Soft, comfortable, easy to maneuver around in ... It goes with our cuddly style. Honestly, I can't really say what I would 'want' to see him in other than that. I guess it's food for thought.

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RE: Master Attire - 1/30/2009 2:03:25 AM

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

Congratulations on your wedding; you have something bright and wonderful to look forward to. Our best to you both. It is so much fun to see people happy.

Aww, thank you. I'll pass that onto Val.

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RE: Master Attire - 1/30/2009 5:52:18 AM

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I cannot imagine a Master wanting you to dress him the way "you want".

I guess for us it is a bit different. We are married and I am 100% submissive to Sir. He is in complete control but decided he wanted to "dress for role play" a bit more for times we are in "play mode" than he does now. During an "open convo" which we set time aside for daily he informed me that he wanted new "play clothes". He made it a task for me to do some searching to give him some ideas of what would be a turn on for me. I am grateful that he is willing to include me in this!!

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RE: Master Attire - 1/30/2009 7:10:10 AM

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I love tribal (especially a long black sarong and topless), uniforms, well cut suits with white shirt and collar studs, kilts, good jeans and t-shirts, jeans and topless, burlesque

I hate rubber, PVC, leather unless its a kilt but particularly hate long leather coats, masks and belts that have straps for all the tools to hang off

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RE: Master Attire - 1/30/2009 4:12:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: masterericslave

OK...my Master has asked me to search for some 'clothing" I may wish to see him in when we are in "play" mode. Can anyone suggest a good website?? Thank you!!

~ Slave Madison

Hi, Madison

So your Master has given you control of his clothing. Well, that's kinda flipping the rolls to my thinking, but hey, everyone has their own kink.

Might I suggest you update your OP to include perhaps what style of dress you like for his look of Domliness? Given your ideas of what makes him look Domly, I might be able to better suggest a website or store where you could begin your search. On the other hand, if you have no idea what that would be, perhaps you might put the onous back on your Dom to wear what he feels best in.

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RE: Master Attire - 1/30/2009 4:25:39 PM

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He wants her opinion; thats not the same as giving her absolute control.

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RE: Master Attire - 1/30/2009 4:45:29 PM

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ORIGINAL: opposingtwilight

He wants her opinion; thats not the same as giving her absolute control.

Hi, opposing

I have followed about the last 30 or so of your posts to the CM forums. And all I can tell is that you are queen of the one-liner. Perhaps, I could get a better understanding of your point if you were to put a little more meat in your responses. Of course that's completely within your sovereignty as you know.

I might point out that my post did not have the word 'absolute' in it in any form. My implication as you probably well understood, is that the Dominant usually has the control and clothing-choice is a common part of that control.

As you might know, not everyone even expects to want or need absolute control over another's clothing. That is fairy-tail land, in my opinion. Yes, some dominants wish it and try to achieve it. But, the majority of us understand that we have important events in real-life that may at times preclude us from taking the time to search through the girls closet and drawers looking for the perfect outfit for the day for them. For mine, I allow her to pick out what she wishes to wear and if it doesn't please me, then I send her back to make a better choice, or do it myself.

Thanks for the side-track... now back to the OP.

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RE: Master Attire - 1/30/2009 5:03:32 PM

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As a guy... and a Dom... I could care less what I look like... as long as I'm comfortable...

As a guy who cares about his girl's happiness... I would be happy to dress in a way that got her juices flowing... provided it didn't compromise my comfort...

Regadless of D/s... or roles within D/s... a relationship is still give and take... and both parties are responsible for pleasing the other if the relationship is too last...

Suggesting the Dom in this situation is surrendering control is very presumptous to say the least... pretty shallow to be blunt...

But you're right... everyone has their own kink ;-)

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RE: Master Attire - 1/30/2009 5:06:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: opposingtwilight

He wants her opinion; thats not the same as giving her absolute control.

Personally, I love a woman that is succinct in her answers. Just keep on posting my dear, I love reading them.
I like all the wonderful ladies and their personal styles.
Women are just so damn cool.

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RE: Master Attire - 1/30/2009 5:14:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: LarabysLair
My implication as you probably well understood, is that the Dominant usually has the control and clothing-choice is a common part of that control.

For some, it isn't about control. The basis of our M/s relationship is authority. He has it and Alandra and I only have the authority that he has delegated to us.

He hates picking out his own clothes, so he has exercised his authority and instructed Alandra and I to pick them out for him. When he is here, his clothes are picked and laid out every morning when he gets in the shower. Yep, we have control over what he wears, but it is his authority that has given us that control and his authority that can take that control away whenever he chooses.

I don't see it as flipping roles at all. As the one with the authority he gets to make the decisions that will make his life easier. Part of that is putting Alandra and I in charge of things that he wants us to take care of. I would find it pretty sad if he structured our relationship in a certain fashion because others do it that way and not because he wants it that way.

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RE: Master Attire - 1/30/2009 6:06:56 PM

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I was going to type out a long post but Kyra said pretty much everything I was going to say.

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RE: Master Attire - 1/30/2009 6:20:38 PM

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Suggesting the Dom in this situation is surrendering control is very presumptous to say the least... pretty shallow to be blunt...

I completely agree.... for me it's about using my time effectively and in the way I want. I like to maximize my time to do the things I enjoy and I make decisions to promote that. My girls pick my clothes and mow the law and wash the dishes and fix the leaky shower and anything else that they are capable of doing that I do not enjoy or want to do. I know someone that would only have sex with his slaves in the doggy position... he did so because he wanted to show he was in control. I found it amusing because my Alandra in particular enjoys that position most of all and not because it conveys the person having any control but because of the pleasure it gives her. It is even more amusing when we did a scene together where he fucked Alandra in that position and she felt like she was controlling him at that point in the scene. It was a sure example that the doggy was controlling her tail.

As Kyra shared... I have a few things I wear. I don't wear anything that I don't want to wear and the girls pick out what things that are appropriate for sitaution and sometimes they are told what to get. The fetish wear I enjoy is varying and I do like alot of different looks. Much of what I wear will reflect my mood and sometimes it is more practical. Kyra shared that I once played in the nude at a public event. I stripped down because of the temperate of the room. We actually played in front of an air conditioner that did little to keep me cool. Even after the play I was sweaty and hot. I can only imagine how unconfortable I would of been if I would of played in my leathers that night.

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RE: Master Attire - 1/31/2009 1:03:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

For some, it isn't about control. The basis of our M/s relationship is authority. He has it and Alandra and I only have the authority that he has delegated to us.

He hates picking out his own clothes, so he has exercised his authority and instructed Alandra and I to pick them out for him. When he is here, his clothes are picked and laid out every morning when he gets in the shower. Yep, we have control over what he wears, but it is his authority that has given us that control and his authority that can take that control away whenever he chooses.

Just for clarification on that point... I have angel set out my clothes most mornings too, if I am busy with something else at the time. Particulaly, since I am the own who goes to the store to shop and picks out all of the clothes for me and her. So, I know I will just look good in whatever she picks out. Also, as she knows my likes and dislikes and my general taste in appearance, there is no problem or loss of authority or control. Too, I can and have occasionally went back and changed a shirt or a tie after she picked them out. She's good but not perfect.

So, as you say it is about authority moreso than control. Control is only a result of authority.

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RE: Master Attire - 1/31/2009 4:16:54 AM

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So your Master has given you control of his clothing.

"Objection, your Honor!

"Grounds?"

"Council is testifying and introducing facts not in evidence."

"Sustained."

"Move to strike, your Honor."

"Jury will disregard."

Moving on ...

OP - Google is your friend. Try a keyword search using some or all of the following:

Costumes
Uniforms
Leather apparel
Denim apparel
Cultural apparel
Clothing

... and anything else you can think of that strikes your fancy.

Have fun! Getting the opportunity for input is a good thing. :D

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