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StrangerThan -> RE: Past or Present ? (2/1/2009 7:58:14 AM)
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This topic has been beaten around in one form or another several times. Interestingly enough, it gets different answers from folks at different times. Maybe because the answer is relative to whatever or whomever they have in mind at that given time. One thread may have a "its wrong to judge", while another from the same person contains an exercise in judgment when someone posts about Dom A or Dom B having a history of lying, stringing submissives along, or just hurting them.
Does the past matter? Yes.
People judge all the time. They may be as kink acceptable as one can be, as racially and socially acceptable as one can be, but put someone or something they fear, despise or just can't stand in front of them and the scales come out. The word recidivism exists for a reason. Past actions do not necessarily foretell future ones, and in many cases even if they did, it wouldn't ncessarily be a bad thing. It depends on what those past actions were, when they were, the circumstances surrounding them, and behavior in the interim. Judging usually isn't the issue. Condemnation is. Even then, some behaviors are so reprehensible that it may not even be condemnation, but more so separating ones self from the mindset that allowed it. You didn't give much direction in what past meant. Past is generic. The reality of whether you do separate yourself from someone else over a given issue is going to be specific.
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