What Makes a Good Mistress?

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secretdreams -> What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 2:23:22 AM)
Hi Everyone, I'm new to the site and still fairly new to this lifestyle. I'm looking to try and find out what makes a good Mistress? Thanks x

beeble -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 4:30:17 AM)
Your profile lists you as a switch. I'm going to assume you're asking how you can be a good Mistress, rather than how you can identify a good Mistress, though the two questions are rather similar.. Just be confident and, most important, be yourself. Don't feel you have to be a bitch all the time. Don't feel you have to think of something to do at every second of every session. If you do find you're stuck for something to do next, you profile says you're curious about foot worship so you can always get your sub to worship your feet until inspiration strikes. [;)] Some things, like whipping and intricate bondage have to be learnt and practised; for most other things, you can just go with the flow but be aware of any safety issues around the activities you participate in. Most important, don't feel you have to live up to some ideal of what a Mistress is: you are your own person and you dominate in your own unique way. The best submissive for you is somebody who is interested in you, not somebody who's only interested in you as a Domme. beeble.

ALAstella -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 4:30:31 AM)
A female.

malloves69 -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 6:32:19 AM)
a woman who is confident with her body and her sexuality i think [:)] once she has that and portraits that to her male or for that matter female subs that can be very appealing to alot of people [:)] her having a very kinky and playfull mind and not afraid to push the limits when need be can create alot of great times together i think [:)] women have the power of the pussy and to me that can be very powerfull indeed [:)] plus the female body is incredible sexual even with such simple things as her touch that can drive any person crazy when they want to give up their submissiveness to someone and to share and grow with those experiences that 2 people can do to each other and for each other when they are comfortable with each other [:)] once the clothes come off and hit the floor so should the inhibitions i think as those social boundries are broken and rebuilt by the ones the 2 people want to share together [:)] just my opinion of course coming from the sub male point of view ...at least mine anyways [:)] have fun ...mal

LunaVenus -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 8:24:21 AM)
I LOVE teasing my slaves with my PUSSY, TITS and ASS . .Assuring them they are not worthy of climbing this throne. And will never do so. Lucky indeed is the slave that climbs this mountain...There has been one... Only one. I am a perpetual feline, especially when I am aroused. When I am pissed off heads may literally roll and blood will flow like the rivers....to satiate my unquenchable thirst.. Don't worry, I clean up all the evidence LOL

jstmi -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 9:36:20 AM)
hello secret dreams imho i believe She is loving, kind, secure in Herself and confident. She is also a good listener , a good teacher and One who strives to mold or teach Her subs to be the best they can be. She guides them , helps them, protects them and helps them to feel loved and safe. She needs to be strict sometimes and consistent as this is what gives Her credibility, fairness, an openmind and a sense of humour. sexy, beautiful, warm .. well quite frankly i think i am describing GoddezzT` to a letter. She is a wonderful Mistress and such a beautiful person inside. best of luck to you jstmi

YoursMistress -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 9:45:55 AM)
It seems to me that a good Mistress is best defined in the context of a relationship, and that a good Mistress for one may not be good for another. If you know yourself, and are true to yourself, I think you stand the best chance of finding a sub who appreciates what it is that you bring. yours

chiaThePet -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 10:02:34 AM)
Hasbro or Milton Bradley from what I understand. chia* (the pet)

Lashra -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 11:15:31 AM)
It depends, everyone is going to have a differing view of what makes for a "good" Mistress. For myself it is someone who is intelligent, confident, independent, patient, compassionate, caring, has a sense of humor, is creative and very at ease with her sexuality. I think a good Mistress cares for her property and take the time to train them properly and gives them guidance. She is also a good listener as well as a speaker and is not afraid to do either. ~Lashra

dreamerdreaming -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 12:49:50 PM)
Pay attention to the needs and desires of your servant, and learn what makes them tick. Make sure your own needs and desires are well addressed too of course, but remember that if your partner isn't getting his/her needs met out of the relationship, he/she can leave you. The relationship should be fulfilling for both of you. Don't try to be a fake, cardboard Domme, like in a porno film. Just be yourself, learn, and have FUN!

AAkasha -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 12:56:26 PM)
I think it's the combination of a sincere desire (need) to see your male partner suffer for your pleasure combined with an unpredictable, cruel and mischievous streak. That's always worked for me. Akasha

Wickad -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 1:41:44 PM)
You're a guy, right?? I have never seen a woman post the types of anti-woman things you do. Well, unless they really hated themselves that is. Wickad

eponastar -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 1:49:25 PM)
A good Domme is one who is confidant and in control of her own life. Someone who can teach just as much as she learns and pushes herself, her submissives and those around her to be a better person. Someone who can take her sexual prowess and use it to bring pleasure to her and her submissive. (And being able to wield a paddle with menace is always good)

secretdreams -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 2:02:34 PM)
Wickad, No I'm not a guy and this is my first post so not sure where the anti-guy stuff has come from?

MsDDom -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 2:49:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: YoursMistress It seems to me that a good Mistress is best defined in the context of a relationship, and that a good Mistress for one may not be good for another. If you know yourself, and are true to yourself, I think you stand the best chance of finding a sub who appreciates what it is that you bring. yours i agree--- there are the basis for which one's personality or character deems them dominant, thereafter, She must channel that into the realms of Her D/s encounters. e.g., some say a sadistic Mistress is not a good Mistress...but to the desiring sub, She is perfect.

hardbodysub -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 3:24:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: secretdreams Hi Everyone, I'm new to the site and still fairly new to this lifestyle. I'm looking to try and find out what makes a good Mistress? Thanks x I think that, before answering that question, I'd need to ask "good for whom?"

dreamerdreaming -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/1/2009 5:11:47 PM)
secretdreams, Wickad's post was in reply to LunaVenus, not you. Look at the lower right corner of the message, to see who it is in reply to. To reply to a post, hit reply at the top right corner of that post.

beeble -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/2/2009 2:55:32 AM)
quote: chiaThePet wrote: Hasbro or Milton Bradley from what I understand. You can get Barbies in lingerie (aimed, I believe, at adult collectors) so why not a leather-clad Barbie Domme? beeble

beeble -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/2/2009 3:00:12 AM)
quote: dreamerdreaming wrote: secretdreams, Wickad's post was in reply to LunaVenus, not you. Look at the lower right corner of the message, to see who it is in reply to. To reply to a post, hit reply at the top right corner of that post. Indeed. But, if you are replying to a specific person without quoting any of their text, it's a good idea to start your reply with their name, as you just did but Wickad didn't. And, unless your reply is the very next post, it's useful to quote some text, just to save people from having to scroll up the page to find out what was written. (And, especially, when the person has written more than one post in the thread.) beeble.

chiaThePet -> RE: What Makes a Good Mistress? (2/2/2009 6:23:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: beeble quote: chiaThePet wrote: Hasbro or Milton Bradley from what I understand. You can get Barbies in lingerie (aimed, I believe, at adult collectors) so why not a leather-clad Barbie Domme? beeble "What are hiding behind your back boy?" "Nothin" http://video.aol.com/video-detail/leather-clad-barbie-raises-hackles/2099679890/?icid=VIDLRVENT08 chia* (the pet)

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