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On my own head… - 2/2/2009 12:22:28 PM

DemoiselleDaphne

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Rant mode on!

You'd think I'd know better. Cut this creep off after diagnosing him as a do-me bottom with no bottom to the degree of energy he was willing to vacuum off of me, and that was after I had foolishly given him a second chance.

So he comes pleading, wah, wah, you're the only domina I feel submissive to, yadda yadda, and I made the mistake of not blocking his first message. Negotiated way carefully for a single instance play session, no long term relationship (he's married with permission to play but always reacts like a guy sneaking around), etc. Just because…sigh, be honest now—because it was flattering.

We had an agreement. We were talking schedule. He's been sending me an average of three messages a day.
And, poof, he falls silent. No comments whatsoever. I leave it be, he had the conversational ball in his hands.

I gave it ten days, figuring he might have been on vacation, had business travel, caught the flu, been in a car crash, whatever.
Finally sent him a message expressing mixed concern and frustration, and does he reply? No. He disappears.
I did a little basic checking, and he's hidden his profile, not deleted it; but he has also blocked me.

So. I'm pissed. I'd like to wring his scrawny chicken neck. He wants, he wants, he wants…and then he doesn't even have the BALLS to back out.
He wanted humiliation, and now I'd like to give it to him—right here, where he paddles routinely in his little play pool. In a way that he will NOT find endearing or erotic or pleasurable.

Suggestions, ladies?
Rant mode off.

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 12:33:19 PM

LunaVenus

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How much information do you have about him. Do you have his phone number, his real name his address?

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 12:34:35 PM

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at this point, seriously, it is good u didnt reconnect w/ him as it may not have been a pleasurable experience at all (my mind goes into sadist mode now)...

nevertheless, chalk it up as a learning experience...tighten ur reigns and become a bit more critical w/ subs/slave that approach u (here). some of these CM subbies want instant ownership and the likes thereof...not happening w/me. i had this sissyboy get upset w/ me b/c after my "process", i told him he wasnt prepared (in all aspects) for me. so be it...if a subbie is ill prepared (for me), he is ill prepared...period.

sweep that dust out the door and move on...it wasnt meant to be.

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 12:37:14 PM

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Meh, he's just another greasy little wanker with not enough balls to back up all of his big talk on the internets... there's lots of them.

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 1:05:10 PM

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My new rule is if they do not give me their phone number, and real name the first day or 2 I will not chat with them. If they will not give you that information and are supposedly sincere, they are hiding something. Probably just into only chat. I just uncovered a fraud myself just now. Block them immediately and move on.

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 1:07:50 PM

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Um first day or two? Bugger that. I gave my number out once, 25 phone calls in the space of half an hour later I changed my number and now NEVER give it out

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 1:15:23 PM

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Well you would not chat with ME if I can't verify who you are! I will not chat with any stranger more than 1 or 2 messages from now on...They do not deserve my time if they want to be anonymous. For your own SAFETY insist on it or don't give them the time of day. There is no point in chatting with a total stranger anyways unless you are totally desperate and lonely.

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 1:21:35 PM

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Hmmmm, thinks I should know this name so I can torture them ....lol.

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 1:27:12 PM

MiLadyDiane

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lmao . Was the little guy's name mike ? ( Rolls eyes ) sounds suspiciously like the same " Bruiser Brody " looking thing that begged and begged because he " had SOOOOOO much to learn.... " and then became offended ( AND blocked me ) because I was " non-accepting " of his personal limits , which were ...... cooking , cleaning , personal attendance , lol , and DARED I to critique the overall appearance and offer a few cosmetic suggestions ( I can't help myself sometimes. I spent years coordinating stage productions ) ........this coming from a male that approached ME wanting training suggestions. I sent back a note describing what a male in submission to MY world would be like...... Bless the poor thing ,

He goes into a spastic snit , blocks me , then 4 weeks later sends me an apology , stating that he " does not take criticism well.."

Talk about not worth your time ! Sorry about just jumping in , but it sure sounded like the same person.

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 1:32:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LunaVenus
There is no point in chatting with a total stranger anyways unless you are totally desperate and lonely.

Ahh see thats my problem

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 1:34:56 PM

LunaVenus

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There are a lot of them on here.Dare I say most the men on here are mentally unstable and insincere.
I am learning very quickly to treat them as such and keep them at an arms distance unless they prove themselves quickly.

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 1:38:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin

quote:

ORIGINAL: LunaVenus
There is no point in chatting with a total stranger anyways unless you are totally desperate and lonely.

Ahh see thats my problem

You are not that in need darling. Many will give you what you need. If they don't, you find out early that it never would have worked without wasting too much time and energy.

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 1:54:14 PM

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quote:

LunaVenus wrote:
My new rule is if they do not give me their phone number, and real name the first day or 2 I will not chat with them. If they will not give you that information and are supposedly sincere, they are hiding something.

There is no way on this earth that I would give my full name and phone number to somebody after a couple of messages on a kink board. I'm not telling you who I am until I feel I can trust you and that's not going to happen after a couple of days.

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 1:55:44 PM

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Suggestions? Honestly--forget the loser and move on. Any energy spent on him, even to be angry, is not energy well-spent.

There are other men, men who are worth your time and will reward every minute you spend with joy.

Find one. Do terrible, wonderful things to him. Be happy.

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 2:03:42 PM

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You took him back, seems you didn't learn your lesson.

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 2:13:18 PM

ALAstella

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Got to love these threads written by those who don't anticipate disappointment and expect complete strangers to behave predictably.

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 2:17:07 PM

LaTigresse

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Actually Stella, I think it was that they did act predictably.

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RE: On my own head… - 2/2/2009 2:33:43 PM

ALAstella

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Actually Stella, I think it was that they did act predictably.

Ah yes of course... silly me.

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