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RE: Speculum fear - 1/18/2006 1:52:06 AM

Sirandlittle1

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thankyou people, you have given some sound advice.
We have read through this thread together, and discussed various suggestions given. It has also opened up discussion more, which is always a good thing, rather than pivoting around my thoughts, my fears, my suggestions, to hear others opinions creats a more colourful solution in this case
Thanks from us both.

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RE: Speculum fear - 1/18/2006 2:16:24 AM

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. Its really not rocket science is it? And he will of researched first. Thoroughly, as hurting me would be something he'd avoid, knowing how edgy this is.

Well...no, but, those are pretty important parts, (at least for me) and I have been hurt having a regular 'pap' done...it was only one time, and it was a long time ago, but I still cringe today. And it was done by a nurse, not someone who had just 'studied' how to do it.

I would consider that perhaps, at this particular time, your fears are legitimate.

Be careful, and be safe!!

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RE: Speculum fear - 1/18/2006 11:09:07 PM

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keep the reassurance coming xxblushesxx lol

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RE: Speculum fear - 1/18/2006 11:35:58 PM

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Reassurance is all well and good when appropriate...

But if someone could get hurt in places that should never be hurt, by someone who has no experience, I think someone who is not invested in the situation should at least point out the possibilites...

Maybe they'll talk about it more, and maybe he'll get more training before attempting something like that...idk...

If she were my lil sis, that is what I would have said. I try to look out for others and hope others would do the same for me.

That being said, op, be safe, and have fun.

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Gaping? - 1/18/2006 11:58:35 PM

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Gaping is a work of art to Him.

What the hell is 'gaping'? Which meaning of the word?

Have you told your Dom how you feel?

I like Sonelle's idea of allowing you to initially insert it.

I wouldn't think the speculum would be cold if (a) it is plastic and (b) it can be warmed first. That said, we've played with ice in non-BDSM fun.

John Warren's idea of the vibe is interesting.

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RE: Gaping? - 1/25/2006 2:24:28 AM

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Gaping, is when the anus opens, dilates. Usually due to pleasure stimulus, so that when you remove the inserted whatever, it remains open, ie. gaping. Not for ever, but until you clench it shut. Its not permanent i mean.
So to of stimulated someone to the point of gaping, is a reward for the good skilled anal player.
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RE: Gaping? - 1/25/2006 5:56:09 AM

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Hi there

As someone who has had colposcopy's done every 6 months for the last 3 years (sufficed to say .. more involved than a smear and a lot more embarassing), and had a procedure under local which was even more invasive, I can reassure you, that if done correctly, you hardly even notice its being done. Yes it feels a little strange, but (for me) it is not one iota uncomfortable. However, I think any chance i ever had of finding medical play to be fun has been destroyed by having endless streams of strangers looking between my legs and taking biopsies and the like .. *smiles*

I hope it all works out for you :)

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RE: Speculum fear - 1/25/2006 7:24:50 AM

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Have you done fisting if so do you go through the same kind of emotions up evil when you do fisting? This is something you both need to take your time and talk about it and take it real slow with. If you get freaked out then you must be able to say your safe word. I got my hands on one and really enjoy playing with them. It does take time to get use to using them also I add a massage to it so it would vibrate also have you tried it when you had been sexually stimulated. Just take your time and go slow. HoosierScorpio

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