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Madame4a -> RE: References please (2/3/2009 12:35:28 PM)
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For me, and I can only speak for me... if you're a part of the local community here, I could provide references within the community that are people that a lot of folks know -- one of the local dungeon owners knows me very well, as well as other people. I think only someone I'd been with, in a relationship could speak to somethings.. but I do play publically, my skills on some level are on display in that sense. I believe for the most part, the references I can provide will tell someone I am who I say I am, have the kind of experience I claim, and that the history I present is in fact real.
That said, I've met VERY few (only folks I knew already) people in the local scene on CM -- most that I've met have no clue about it, so I can't check them out.. and any references I might provide would be meaningless. For me, if I ask for a reference, I either have to trust the person giving it, or have some idea that this person is on the level (known to someone else I know). It doesn't work so well online, but it does in RT. If I meet someone at a local club, if they are not completely new, its possible I can get something about them from someone else.
When I met 'distraction', I went to the dungeon owner that night and said "hey, do you know him" .. he said.. by sight.. but go make friends *grin* ... I went without references.
They are not essential for me, but they cut down on several things -- and they save some time. They should be taken with a grain of salt however, they are not a substitute for getting to know someone face to face.
And while its not an absolute for me, or a deal breaker, I'd rather someone who has had some experience outside of their bedroom -- clubs, munches... play parties.. etc.
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