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NYLass -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/4/2009 7:33:30 AM)

Humiliation or degradation would get the man a right hook to the jaw or a kick in the balls.  None of the "Let's talk about this first."  It's right in my hard limits, spelled out right away.   It doesn't float my boat, just makes me pissed off.  (You don't want a red haired New Yorker getting her Irish up.)  I'm running out of places to hide the bodies.

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chiaThePet -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/4/2009 7:38:51 AM)


I don't.

As for that little 'toilet paper on the shoe incident' of 2004,

I've completed the twelve step program and the toilet

tissue industry and I have reached a satisfactory settlement.

chia* (the pet)



littleone35 -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/4/2009 8:34:57 AM)

It is not part of our play.  So not only would i not deal well with either, i won't have to.

Matt's littleone



Respergo -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/4/2009 9:52:33 AM)

Degradation depends - physical, no. Verbally I can put up with a lot, considering my childhood of a similar pattern. But humiliation isn't really my thing, I'd prefer to serve contently rather than being cajoled, in a way, to do anything.



akisha -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/4/2009 10:08:58 AM)

Degradation is a hard No for me. If you feel the need to degrade me then you will not be with me. simple as that. I had a nilla bf and that was the reason the relationship ended. His constant need to put me down in public, in private, what ever.

Now as for humiliation, well there are 100's of different versions of this.

Things like Master making me go furniture shopping in a short dress with no undies on, is yes humiliating cause i know ppl can see peeks of my parts lol but it's not something that makes me want to curl up and cry, i just blush. ALOT.

Calling me dirty names is hot as long as it's not around my parents and the little ones.

Calling me a stupid cunt when we are grocery shopping is going to get a really really negative reaction.

If he's using humiliation to make me uncomfortable or overly self aware and embarrassed that's fine. If he's trying to make me feel stupid or unsure of myself as a person that is not fine.




beltainefaerie -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/4/2009 10:15:41 AM)

I always love what Mercnbeth have to say, because, whether I agree or nor, it is always well thought out and enjoyable to read.  In this case, I also do agree.  I do things, which might be embarassing, and outside of this context might be humiliating, but overall I know I am being of service, which makes it safe and good rather than distressing or damaging.  Master does not want to do anything to damage his slave, especially psychologically.

I also agree with akisha, though I would call that embarassment, rather than humiliation, as it is not actually damaging.  This may just be a matter of semantics.



feydeplume -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/4/2009 11:49:04 AM)

Thank you for being so clear about the difference between what outsider observers might think and what you enjoy together. I don't enjoy being humiliated, but with my M it isn't humiliation or degradation, its fun and sexy or educational or something totally else. Thanks for saying words I just couldn't put together.



GaryandBarb -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/6/2009 2:03:09 AM)

My Dom has come up with a new form of punishment (he likes to experiment to find new ways of obiedience training), iam currently on a 2 week restriction from using the bathroom. When i have to go i am to use a kitty litter box that he has set up in a shed outside.

While i do consider it humiliation, i does get his point across that he is in charge



akisha -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/6/2009 8:40:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: GaryandBarb

My Dom has come up with a new form of punishment (he likes to experiment to find new ways of obiedience training), iam currently on a 2 week restriction from using the bathroom. When i have to go i am to use a kitty litter box that he has set up in a shed outside.

While i do consider it humiliation, i does get his point across that he is in charge


This is just plain curiosity here....

What if you aren't home? Like if you are up town shopping or over at a friends or your mom's or something?



GaryandBarb -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/7/2009 1:58:04 AM)

The 2 week restriction, means i am fully grounded.

  barb



DesFIP -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/7/2009 5:13:02 AM)

I'm curious as to what this teaches you. Except that he's indulging his sadism. After all what do you learn in two weeks that wouldn't have been learned in one? And what if it needs three weeks to be learned? And how can you learn it if he doesn't explain it to you first?

Beyond that, it must be good weather. Here the shed is unavailable until March or April when all the ice melts.



iwearpanties -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/7/2009 5:14:58 AM)

would it be ok for a sub male too chime in on this topic?



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/7/2009 6:47:45 AM)

quote:

How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation

i don't - extreme hard limit

however my pet enjoys it immensely to the point i can turn him into a bubbly sissy crybaby. 



T1981 -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/7/2009 6:54:49 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: iwearpanties

would it be ok for a sub male too chime in on this topic?


Sure! Submissive's of all sorts usually have to come to thinking about this issue at least once anyways, so feel free!



oceanwynds -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/7/2009 8:41:42 PM)

Sir has only used humilation on me a couple times, and it was a punishment. I do not care for it, but each time [2] used drove His point in clearly.



carly2day -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/8/2009 12:21:39 AM)

public humilation will make me feel happy an excited  While intense verbal humiliation makes me feel scared and desire punishment and more pain. I respond an enjoy it because it also makes me feel safe.



Gwynsbitchboi -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/9/2009 8:40:28 AM)

it kinda depends, are we talking about taking a strap on or wetting yourself in public? lol, kind of a scale there...



gauguin -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/16/2009 5:49:08 PM)

It was general question, so general answer - no technicalities.

I am "assertive prick" in vanilla life. Humiliation from BDSM play gives me whole "new" spectrum of feelings.
As well it is kind of test I put myself through.



pinkwind -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/16/2009 6:03:26 PM)

It was found very early on that what elements of humiliation Andy wanted to use on me did not have the desired effect, of making me feel humiliated. i just loved the emotional challenges that this kind of activity threw up and thrived on it. Degredation, that is something else, Andy does not go there, negativity is not something he wants to engender in me.

Deal with humiliation? i have been humiliated by experts from an early age, so i suppose i have reached that stage in life where my brain just goes "bring it on", the coping mechanism automatically kicking in.



bamagirl4u -> RE: How do you as a Submissive or slave deal with humilation and degredation (2/16/2009 6:27:30 PM)

I don't care much for humiliation or degradation.  If it makes you feel better, that is great...but me?? I would just cry..[:(]



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