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nobleslave -> Why so hard (2/5/2009 4:09:27 PM)
Hello Every One I have been reading through the forms and i see that munches are the best place to start and meet a Mistress. So i joined up to a belfast yahoo group. And when i went to the munch it was all men that liked to dress up as women there was like 15 men there. I have nothing agented this but there was know women in sight am i just destined to be alone for the rest of my life and never get the chance to be owned. There just doesn't seemed to be any Mistress in belfast at all i am starting to give up hope. 7 hole years i have been looking. Thank you noble slave

Madame4a -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 4:18:31 PM)
move then

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 4:20:57 PM)
Take heart nobleslave, 7 years really isn't all that long. Some people search all their lives. My slaveboy? He searched for way longer than you've even been on the planet. Keep in mind that what you're searching for should be well worth the wait, in the end. I know its hard, but be patient. In the meantime, work on yourself so that you'll be the kind of person your owner would want to own, when she finally does meet you. Look at this time as a positive time, of growth and exploration for you.

MissIsis -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 4:20:58 PM)
Munches are my preferred method of meeting people, but it takes awhile to get to know people. I would never decide to take on a new submissive on the basis of one munch, but it would be over a long period of seeing someone in attendance on a fairly regular basis. I don't attend all of them, but I go when I can. The ones I go to, seem to have a good mix of people from all over the spectrum. there are always a few cross dressing men that like to attend them, but usually, they are in normal male clothes. We try to provide a welcoming environment to whoever wants to attend. You might want to ask someone in your local group if women ever attend the munch you went to. If not, perhaps there is another munch group you could attend in a neighboring area.

Andalusite -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 4:29:17 PM)
I don't really find munches useful for developing relationships. For the most part, conversation tends toward small talk, geek talk, and gossip. When I was able to find someone interesting to talk with, other people always seemed to flock to us and shift the topic back to one of the above. shrugs I met my Dom of 3 years (we split up recently) on another BDSM-oriented site, and a previous boyfriend who was a switch at a playparty/kinky birthday party. Otherwise, I've had the best luck (including my submissive of almost 5 years who got me into this) meeting people through vanilla interests/events. Good luck in your search, and I really hope you find the lady of your dreams!

MoGa -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 4:29:30 PM)
Nobleslave, Might I comment on your profile? You say you are worthless. I don't know many domina's who would want someone who has such a low self esteem as to say he is worthless. I, personally would like my sub to feel worthy of me, just as I would feel worthy of him. You also claim you have no limits. Again, I would not want a sub who has no limits. No limits means that I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, without a thought to him, whatsoever. I don't want someone like this. There may be others who see it differently, but what good is a sub who calls himself worthless? If you are worthless, then why would you feel you are worthy of being owned? Just my two cents.. MoGa

nobleslave -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 4:32:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissIsis Munches are my preferred method of meeting people, but it takes awhile to get to know people. I would never decide to take on a new submissive on the basis of one munch, but it would be over a long period of seeing someone in attendance on a fairly regular basis. I don't attend all of them, but I go when I can. The ones I go to, seem to have a good mix of people from all over the spectrum. there are always a few cross dressing men that like to attend them, but usually, they are in normal male clothes. We try to provide a welcoming environment to whoever wants to attend. You might want to ask someone in your local group if women ever attend the munch you went to. If not, perhaps there is another munch group you could attend in a neighboring area. This is so true when i do meet my Mistress it will be well worth the wait :) and i really cant wait till that day comes. May i ask do all slave wait tis long to be owned? Its a very long time and your slave was waiting longer than me. Why does it take so long? But your right train my self up to be a good slave for when the time come's to be owned by a Mistress.

nobleslave -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 4:42:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: nobleslave quote: ORIGINAL: MissIsis Munches are my preferred method of meeting people, but it takes awhile to get to know people. I would never decide to take on a new submissive on the basis of one munch, but it would be over a long period of seeing someone in attendance on a fairly regular basis. I don't attend all of them, but I go when I can. The ones I go to, seem to have a good mix of people from all over the spectrum. there are always a few cross dressing men that like to attend them, but usually, they are in normal male clothes. We try to provide a welcoming environment to whoever wants to attend. You might want to ask someone in your local group if women ever attend the munch you went to. If not, perhaps there is another munch group you could attend in a neighboring area. I am a slave of course i am worthless lol. And no limets is being a slave at the end of the day i am here to serve not to say i want this i like that do that to me and do this to me. I do what Mistress want and when Mistress wants it cause i have what i want i am serving Mistress. And its to make Mistress life easier in every way :) it's not about me it about Mistress. Thank you noble slave

CatdeMedici -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 4:47:50 PM)
ok, why is your profile written so well and your post so hmm filled with mispellings and poor usage--anyway, your profile says you have no limits, so what's the deal about CD's and Trannies??

nobleslave -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 4:48:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MoGa Nobleslave, Might I comment on your profile? You say you are worthless. I don't know many domina's who would want someone who has such a low self esteem as to say he is worthless. I, personally would like my sub to feel worthy of me, just as I would feel worthy of him. You also claim you have no limits. Again, I would not want a sub who has no limits. No limits means that I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, without a thought to him, whatsoever. I don't want someone like this. There may be others who see it differently, but what good is a sub who calls himself worthless? If you are worthless, then why would you feel you are worthy of being owned? Just my two cents.. MoGa Sorry that last reply was ment for this quote. I am a slave of course i am worthless lol. And no limets is being a slave at the end of the day i am here to serve not to say i want this i like that do that to me and do this to me. I do what Mistress want and when Mistress wants it cause i have what i want i am serving Mistress. And its to make Mistress life easier in every way :) it's not about me it about Mistress. Thank you noble slave

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 4:53:51 PM)
OP, it is good that you have a handle on what you want. I will add that it is a distinct red flag for me if someone comes to me willing to hand over ownership when we barely know each other. So you would like to be owned some day. Great. How about describing what kind of person you would like your owner to be. Do you want a wife? A mommy? Someone sadistic and cold, or someone who will guide your every moment? You say that you are the toy of ANY woman. Well, that makes me feel really special! So anyone bossy enough will do for you? That is another red flag showing that you have no interest in the person you are serving, you are just chasing some fantasy. What do you have to offer this owner? Skills? Anything? It takes more to find a partner than sitting around waiting to be noticed.

nobleslave -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 4:54:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici ok, why is your profile written so well and your post so hmm filled with mispellings and poor usage--anyway, your profile says you have no limits, so what's the deal about CD's and Trannies?? I took my time with the profile as i am dyslexic took me a while to do it. And people on here go by the profile and the name. And if a Mistress wants to dress me up like a women then i will do it :) Thank you noble slave

nobleslave -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 5:01:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus OP, it is good that you have a handle on what you want. I will add that it is a distinct red flag for me if someone comes to me willing to hand over ownership when we barely know each other. So you would like to be owned some day. Great. How about describing what kind of person you would like your owner to be. Do you want a wife? A mommy? Someone sadistic and cold, or someone who will guide your every moment? You say that you are the toy of ANY woman. Well, that makes me feel really special! So anyone bossy enough will do for you? That is another red flag showing that you have no interest in the person you are serving, you are just chasing some fantasy. What do you have to offer this owner? Skills? Anything? It takes more to find a partner than sitting around waiting to be noticed. These are very good points thank you so much. Your right i never explained what type of person i would like my owner to be and what i can offer them. And now that you say the toy bit it does seem to be silly. I really am greatful for your reply it has made me think. Because this is not a fantasy this is real for me i have did alot of research on real and fantasy i will need to write out another profile. Thank you noble slave

Usako -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 5:08:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: nobleslave quote: ORIGINAL: MoGa Nobleslave, Might I comment on your profile? You say you are worthless. I don't know many domina's who would want someone who has such a low self esteem as to say he is worthless. I, personally would like my sub to feel worthy of me, just as I would feel worthy of him. You also claim you have no limits. Again, I would not want a sub who has no limits. No limits means that I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, without a thought to him, whatsoever. I don't want someone like this. There may be others who see it differently, but what good is a sub who calls himself worthless? If you are worthless, then why would you feel you are worthy of being owned? Just my two cents.. MoGa Sorry that last reply was ment for this quote. I am a slave of course i am worthless lol. And no limets is being a slave at the end of the day i am here to serve not to say i want this i like that do that to me and do this to me. I do what Mistress want and when Mistress wants it cause i have what i want i am serving Mistress. And its to make Mistress life easier in every way :) it's not about me it about Mistress. Thank you noble slave Really...why would a woman who you think is amazing enough to serve want someone who is worthless? I think (dare I say, assume) most women looking for a submissive type to be in any sort of long term relationship with (be it just play, love, just service, whatever) wants someone who is worthy of her. If you're worthless then why should she bother? Honestly, you're profile (and responses) make you seem devoid of any personality and just desperately waiting for some woman to take care of you. You have this fantasy to serve serve serve and really (as I mention up above) I believe most legit dominant women (or hell, women in general) want a man with substance who has more to offer the Earth than just serving.

nobleslave -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 5:16:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Usako quote: ORIGINAL: nobleslave quote: ORIGINAL: MoGa Nobleslave, Might I comment on your profile? You say you are worthless. I don't know many domina's who would want someone who has such a low self esteem as to say he is worthless. I, personally would like my sub to feel worthy of me, just as I would feel worthy of him. You also claim you have no limits. Again, I would not want a sub who has no limits. No limits means that I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, without a thought to him, whatsoever. I don't want someone like this. There may be others who see it differently, but what good is a sub who calls himself worthless? If you are worthless, then why would you feel you are worthy of being owned? Just my two cents.. MoGa Sorry that last reply was ment for this quote. I am a slave of course i am worthless lol. And no limets is being a slave at the end of the day i am here to serve not to say i want this i like that do that to me and do this to me. I do what Mistress want and when Mistress wants it cause i have what i want i am serving Mistress. And its to make Mistress life easier in every way :) it's not about me it about Mistress. Thank you noble slave Really...why would a woman who you think is amazing enough to serve want someone who is worthless? I think (dare I say, assume) most women looking for a submissive type to be in any sort of long term relationship with (be it just play, love, just service, whatever) wants someone who is worthy of her. If you're worthless then why should she bother? Honestly, you're profile (and responses) make you seem devoid of any personality and just desperately waiting for some woman to take care of you. You have this fantasy to serve serve serve and really (as I mention up above) I believe most legit dominant women (or hell, women in general) want a man with substance who has more to offer the Earth than just serving. Slave means to serve not a submissive. You are looking for a submissive or have a submissive. I am looking for a Mistress that wants a slave. And for you to atteck my personality like that after just reading my replys and profile i dont think is on as you dont know me. I was asking for help and you atteck what i am looking for and my personality after 4 replys and 1 profile.... Thank you noble slave

PeonForHer -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 5:17:43 PM)
NS - I think you strongly need to show off how good you'd be as a companion to a woman, rather than a 'slave' to one.

MoGa -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 5:21:05 PM)
quote: Sorry that last reply was ment for this quote. I am a slave of course i am worthless lol. And no limets is being a slave at the end of the day i am here to serve not to say i want this i like that do that to me and do this to me. I do what Mistress want and when Mistress wants it cause i have what i want i am serving Mistress. And its to make Mistress life easier in every way :) it's not about me it about Mistress. Thank you noble slave You say this as if it is a known fact that all slaves are worthless. I know many who post right here on CM, who would not say that they are worthless, but are fully functional human beings with thoughts of their own. It still doesn't negate the fact that a Mistress or Owner (If you may) would want a slave, sub or whatever your title is, to be worthy of her. I stand by my original post. MoGa

nobleslave -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 5:27:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MoGa quote: Sorry that last reply was ment for this quote. I am a slave of course i am worthless lol. And no limets is being a slave at the end of the day i am here to serve not to say i want this i like that do that to me and do this to me. I do what Mistress want and when Mistress wants it cause i have what i want i am serving Mistress. And its to make Mistress life easier in every way :) it's not about me it about Mistress. Thank you noble slave You say this as if it is a known fact that all slaves are worthless. I know many who post right here on CM, who would not say that they are worthless, but are fully functional human beings with thoughts of their own. It still doesn't negate the fact that a Mistress or Owner (If you may) would want a slave, sub or whatever your title is, to be worthy of her. I stand by my original post. MoGa Sorry that was meant as a joke i am so sorry. I am a human being aswell but the no limet thing is how i see it i am there to be what ever Mistress wants me to be. I have taken on board about the worthless bit and your right i am sure thats not what a Mistress wants to read in a profile and i thank you so much for your help and pointing that out i will change it. I am just not really good at wrighting profiles its some thing i will have to work on. Thank you #noble slave

RedMagic1 -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 5:34:03 PM)
Dude. It's hard for you to find a mistress because you are not listening. Take some advice, or don't. But if you actually want to meet a woman in real life, pull your head out of your ass, clean the shit out of your ears, and listen to what the women are telling you.

feydeplume -> RE: Why so hard (2/5/2009 5:39:21 PM)
Dear nobletoy. I too am a slave (female) and spent years searching for a good and loving Master. I spent that time learning better English (it is not my first language), learning useful skills and working on becoming and interesting person that would be a good confidant and companion to my dream Master. I wrote many silly profiles and got told how they were silly. It hurt because i thought i was being open and honest, and I was, just not a good kind of open and honest. I have been with my Master 15 years now and he makes sure I know how worthwhile I am to him and to other people as well. He says good self-esteem reflects well on him and on our relationship, that I am to be humbly proud. I know I am a woman and you are a man, but consensual slavery is consenual slavery. Take what the Mistresses/Ma'ams tell you and be thankful for their help and guidance. Thanks Ladies for letting me toss my two cents in!

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