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phoenix1 -> RE: A Master Who Steals (2/6/2006 10:07:28 AM)
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This is such a convoluted mess, the only good I can see coming from this thread is that it lets you three vent.
It may appear to be convoluted because you are only reading a few typed paragraphs on a screen, that only gives a few tiny snapshots of a situation that is actually comprised of 7 lives (all the people involved) who's life paths all hit a crossroad at the same time.
A nice smooth "story" that is condensed enough to be portrayed across a computer screen in only one or two posts... one that every John Q. Public can read quickly and understand fully... and makes perfect sense... also, showing maturity and good judgement on the part of each person involved... uhmm... you're probably thinking of Reader's Digest. This is the internet.
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
There are positive things here that one can walk away with though. It would be nice if people read this and realized that while helping out another human being is a wonderful thing to do.....rescuing them generally does not work out for anyone involved. At the very least, before you take on that type of responsibility you should certainly be able to step back and determine if you are indeed prepared to handle the problem at hand.
If someone asks you to take care of a package for them....and that package is clearly ticking, it would be best to bow out gracefully. Unless of course you are a bomb technician who has been sufficiently trained and is highly skilled at disarming explosive devices. If you are not and you take that package home and set it on your dining room table.....eventually it is going to blow your dining room to smithereens.
People are no different...if you know the issues a person is dealing with are far beyond your capablities....you only have yourself to blame when it all blows up in your face. The most unfortunate aspect though of dealing with people is that they generally come attached to other people who end up being unwitting victims of our lapses in judgement.
These 3 paragraphs are priceless. It's been a very long time, since I've read advice as good as this. I'm going to copy this to read from time to time here, at my desk. Thank you so much for posting it.
Some people (like myself) are natural-born "rescuers". Spending our entire lives trying to help others. When the situation looks tough or bleak, I do not lose heart. I become more determined than ever to improve the life/lives of those I am helping.
To walk away from people who need help badly.... makes me feel like I am part of the problem... like that lady who was stabbed to death in a city street... and all the neighbors looked out their windows and saw it happening, they all heard her begging for help while it was happening... and not one of them wanted to get involved... so they closed their curtains and turned their tv's up louder...
and that woman crawled along the sidewalk slowly... as she was being stabbed hundreds of times...
the assailant left when he was done... and she slowly bled to death...
the nation was shocked that not one of the neighbors who looked out and saw what was happening, heard what was happening... bothered to call 911...
they didn't want to get involved...
so... when do we help someone who is suffering?
To be honest? I don't know. I'm starting to believe that sacrificial love may not be such a good thing after all. It's not the sacrificing that makes it too difficult... it's the hissing, boo-ing, and occasional kick in the ribs from those who become aware of what you are doing.
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