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MsDDom -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 8:10:30 PM)
i read them...a majority (95%) i respond to...others, i delete. i find it odd that sub/slave can get mad at sharing more info (a paragraph of text) or even a picture when they have been afforded the opportunity to read full and complete profiles of a Mistress?? why is that...? u see Her pic and read Her profile, yet, u (subs/slaves) find it wrong to be asked for the same in return?? i digress as i am on another subject...

MsMillgrove -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/7/2009 1:40:20 AM)
I reply to nearly all mail unless the person has sent me the same form letter 3 times.. or I've already politely declined the potential sub twice..then I block. Even tho silence is convenient and often deserved, well just a softie I guess. But I also have a profile mentioning zero kinks, no photo and am an old lady. That reduces the mail volume. The young beautiful ones with photos are inundated, if they tried to send warm personal responses to every mail message, they'd be at the computer twelve hours a day answering mail. Some people just don't do mail well. They are great in person but not in writing. If I went only by quality of mail, I'd have missed meeting some good men. In fact, the CM initial message I got from my current CM toy, was just assinine. I am still amazed I even replied and so darn happy I did.

BondageBarbieX -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/7/2009 2:57:17 AM)
I am a sub and I rarely read messages from people I do not know anymore....I delete them all.

MissMorrigan -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/7/2009 3:31:13 AM)
I read each and every one, and reply to most. There are various reasons for not replying to some, usually it's b/c someone hasn't bothered reading my profile, others it's b/c someone is offering themselves to the unknown.

LadyPact -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/7/2009 7:19:45 AM)
(Using fast reply) I do read My mail. However, the most common reply that I send in return has something to do with the fact that the sender hasn't read My profile. As for the suggestions of limiting people from joining the site unless they were willing to display their driver's license or some kind of cum shot, all I can say is, what in the hell are you thinking? There wouldn't be any way in hell that I'd post My driver's license on the internet. Call Me a wanker if you will. I'll be perfectly content to keep playing without CM if that ever becomes a requirement.

subtex -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/7/2009 9:10:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact As for the suggestions of limiting people from joining the site unless they were willing to display their driver's license or some kind of cum shot, all I can say is, what in the hell are you thinking? There wouldn't be any way in hell that I'd post My driver's license on the internet. Call Me a wanker if you will. I'll be perfectly content to keep playing without CM if that ever becomes a requirement. I don't have a problem with that. My License Saw that coming didn't you? Bill

RichieB -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/7/2009 9:16:05 AM)
I always read all of my messages but, I reply to very few of them..I delete most of them cuz, most people do not read my profile..... Diane

LadyConstanze -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/7/2009 9:57:02 AM)
Depends on the messages, but if I am busy it might be weeks before I log in (yeah yeah I know, and not even asking peon for leave of absence)

HellsMichelle -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/7/2009 10:20:38 AM)
After hunting online for many years myself, I took an oath to myself to answer as many as possible and to definately read them all. I have written an entire series of journal entries titled "How NOT to approach a femdom" based on the emails I get from folks who have no real reason to write to me. My first book is going to be based on this experience. I feel I have made it very simple for someone to decide if they want to approach me or not. In bright colors at the beginning of my profile it clearly states "*READ THE BIO AND BLOG BEFORE YOU EVEN THINK OF SENDING ME AN EMAIL - IF I ASK YOU FOR SPECIFIC INFORMATION IN REPLY THEN PROVIDE IT OR ELSE BE RIPPED A NEW ONE!!"* This is a more than fair warning....and yet...I still get emails from people who just really want to wank off to my photos because they are so selfish and not truthful in their hunting... For those who do decide they want to see what will happen if they do write, I vary my responses based on their email....But I do read all their profiles and make sure my replies are personalized to each contact...[I do as I preach!] If they are from out of Texas or [even worse] the US, it goes directly into my bulk box...When I see they aren't local I immediately ask them to go into my profile and quote the exact sentence that excited them about me...OR I ask very specific questions that are already answered in my profile -- such as What exactly am I looking for? I point out that approaching someone without reading their bio is just plain rude... If they say they are willing to relocate I tell them to go ahead and move...If they can reply to me with a local address then I might consider interaction...I explain that if they are so damn unhappy with where they live then stop trying to shove the responsiblity of moving onto a non-existant relationship, get off their asses and find a new place! Let's just say I call their bluff... If they keep coming at me after I have pointed out all my points of contention, then I block them. IF I get a form letter, I tear it down sentence by sentence to make it clear to them how we can all tell its bullshit...Or I go through their bios and make suggestions on how to improve their odds...Rarely do I just write and say "hey you are stupid. I know it. I don't like it so go away." although I realllllllly want to some days... To the OP directly here: Dude. 20 and you are flippin' out? Oh jesus. Get fucking over it. Maybe you are approaching the wrong people, maybe you are needy, maybe you are...maybe you are...JUST TOO YOUNG FOR MOST PEOPLE... If you really want to see a reason to whine look at ALL the men over 50 who have been looking for a Dom for the majority of their lives only to be passed by...They don't have the advantage of youth on their side like you do! Buck up and figure out how to modify your approach and appeal to get lucky. At least you are young enough to still have a few years to hone your skills before you move in [and out] of the prime years... I can tell you one fact though -- desperation smells as bad as death and if you stink of it NO ONE will want you...M

Naberius -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/7/2009 10:38:05 AM)
When I read a profile, I read it through not once, but twice. I'm quite choosy on who I wish to speak with and need to know deep inside myself if the girl I am writing is really worth my time. I'm very well versed at reading those who are fantasy seekers and those who are one timers and those who are real and through the mess of b.s. finding those who are real takes time and effort. What I do not do immediately is send a photo. I do eventually, but being that I'm a community figure and nationally known speaker, I have to be very cautious as to who I speak with, thus take great care in my own safety...yes, even a dominant needs to be safe. I prefer to get a reply from an intelligent woman who responds to an intelligent note or small letter. But, I do not at any time give a resume of my past...blah, that is for jobs, not finding a mate. Nor will I get into sex as too many yahoos think that is what the lifestyle consists of. I also wont talk to a girl in a disrespectful manner, ordering her to write back or else...again, yahoo whoopla by idiots who know nothing of the lifestyle or what it is to be true dominant. Anyone has a right to protect themselves and if they feel you are not worth talking to, yep, hit the delete button. The only thing I would recommend to people is those who take time to write decent responses, give them a heads up that one is not interested, THEN delete the response.

StrictnSaucy -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/7/2009 4:24:57 PM)
I read my messages but I never respond if it is clear that the sender did not read my profile. That means I only have to respond to about 5% of messages

LadyConstanze -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/7/2009 4:42:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: StrictnSaucy I read my messages but I never respond if it is clear that the sender did not read my profile. That means I only have to respond to about 5% of messages If they are not courteous enough to read my profile, I don't think I owe them the courtesy of a reply... But hey, how are things with you? Been a while ;)

subtex -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/7/2009 5:50:19 PM)
joe13sheff, By the way, even I have deleted a couple of emails without answering. I made the mistake of posting to introductions without a picture. I never thought of the fact that my nick is androgynous. I got a couple of emails from Dom men looking for a sub woman. Apparently they saw my post. They didn't actually read the post though or my profile for that matter or they would have known I'm male. So I went and found Dilbert to be my anti-Dom male gate-keeper. He's been doing a good job. Hmm, at least I assume he's only filtering out male Doms... Bill

beeble -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/8/2009 3:36:13 AM)
[quick reply] I would just like to mention that the OP deleted his profile on collarme, which may or may not influence anyone's desire to follow up here.

littlesarbonn -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/8/2009 6:55:54 AM)
Most women I write all seem to be interested in responding. I guess it's because they know who I am, and I rarely seem to be trying to "hook up" rather than just have a friendly conversation. But I rarely find myself the victim of the filter folder, unless I write a woman who states beforehand that she has all mail from males go directly to her spam folder, and then it's just my stupidity for trying to be conversational with someone like that in the first place.

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