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spoiledbrat -> What if you are too excited (1/15/2006 11:50:31 AM)
[:)] I have a question, I think I might of found someone special on this site, he seems to good to be true, but I know in my heart that he is true. I had started off by saying that I would never move to where he was, but since have fallen for him and his friendship and he I, so I think. Ok, My question, Have you ever been to excited to meet someone and if so what did you do to keep your excitement to a low level so not to get disappointed if something didn't work out?

JohnWarren -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/15/2006 12:06:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spoiledbrat [:)] I have a question, I think I might of found someone special on this site, he seems to good to be true, but I know in my heart that he is true. I had started off by saying that I would never move to where he was, but since have fallen for him and his friendship and he I, so I think. Ok, My question, Have you ever been to excited to meet someone and if so what did you do to keep your excitement to a low level so not to get disappointed if something didn't work out? It's called "being human." On the plus side, swinging for the fence means you occasionally hit one out of the park.

yourMissTress -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/15/2006 12:16:40 PM)
Good Luck to you and him as well!!! I met the love of my life online. He was far away and we decided to meet in the middle. I was so excited I drove 95 mph the whole way. If it didn't work out, at least I could say I tried. BTW, we are living together today.

seaturtle50 -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/15/2006 12:24:50 PM)
quote: Have you ever been to excited to meet someone and if so what did you do to keep your excitement to a low level so not to get disappointed if something didn't work out Yes, i am there right now, and get "high" from the mere thought of Her. i feel excited, honored, and blessed for even the opportunity (chance) and for being considered by Her. What i do is intermittently remind myself that my feelings are just that "feelings" and really have no bearing on what may happen between us. Somehow i feel much better moving forward in the whole thing when i remind myself of the "lessons" that i have learned so far in life. It is more than just my feelings involved. It is also Hers, reality, timing, both of our "thoughts" (more important than feelings in many ways), compatibility, etc, etc., (and i consider myself a romantic [:)]) Somehow i feel better and safer walking into Her flame with both of my feel firmly on the ground. Have Fun though. You are in fact a valid human being, and you do DESERVE your hearts desire. If you care for, and love yourself ... you shall have it too! michael

Sensualips -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/15/2006 4:19:06 PM)
There is nothing wrong with enjoying the excitement and energy of a potential relationship. That being said, you have several things going on with you I would have concern over. You recently posted about leaving a long term and unhappy situation. I would examine if I were in the proper headspace to really make big decisions -- like moving -- at this time, especially when considering a partner I have not spent real time with. Also, I would reflect on my own emotional and mental state and what I had to offer a new relationship. Perhaps I might need time to recover from the old relationship rather than simply transitioning into the next thing. If you were in a unhappy situation for many years, it is natural to jump up and cling to a situation that appears to promise happiness. If something seems to good to be true...well, we all know the saying. This is not a suggestion that your new suitor is an evil man. However, you may be placing unrealistic expectations on the relationship. He is not perfect. You are not perfect. I think it is great you recognize you need to lower your excitement level. I see it more as lowering your expectations though. Be excited and be happy -- but take a breath and realize there is a strong attraction but there is lots of time to get to know each other and determine what type of relationship it may evolve into. Consider carefully. You don't need to control your emotions of enthusiasm and overflowing anticipation, but think about how you act on them.

spoiledbrat -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/15/2006 6:09:31 PM)
That is so great to hear, Congratulations, I have not gotten to that part as of yet. RE: What if you are too excited Logged in as: spoiledbrat [/quote]

xxblushesxx -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/15/2006 6:57:26 PM)
I agree with Sensual Lips. We all want that something special (ok, most of us!) but, now is the time for you. Take a deep breath, and slow down. Talk to him for another six months, (or a year even) on the phone and net...give yourself time to heal, and find yourself once more. If, after that amount of time, you still feel as strong, then, make plans to meet. Good luck!! Christina

fastlane -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/15/2006 7:54:43 PM)
"No, it's not being human....It's being horny" Not that I would know anything about that? peace, Kevin

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/16/2006 6:10:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spoiledbrat Ok, My question, Have you ever been to excited to meet someone and if so what did you do to keep your excitement to a low level so not to get disappointed if something didn't work out? I have no idea how to keep from being disappointed other than repeat to yourself "I don't know for sure, it's too soon to tell" so that at least INTELLECTUALLY you won't be beating yourself up later. Emotionally I have no idea how to keep those things from happening. But you know you will live through them. And time will tell. Please don't make any commitments for 4 months.

IrishMist -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/16/2006 1:07:16 PM)
quote: Ok, My question, Have you ever been to excited to meet someone and if so what did you do to keep your excitement to a low level so not to get disappointed if something didn't work out? Nothing wrong with being excited. As for the possiblity of disappointment...it exists in every aspect of life...all you can do is say to hell with it, take a chance, and hope that it works out right. I wish you luck [:)]

spoiledbrat -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/17/2006 7:31:00 PM)
[:)] Yes we are going very slow, we have been sending emails back and forth for what seems like months (more like two) and will not actually meet for at least two more. He was recently given a promotion at work and will be away. We have only just started chatting on phone, due to the fact that were he lived was such a turn off for me in the beginning. His preservernce and friendship did win out. I will not make same mistakes and rush into anything as even if I fall head over heels when I meet him, I will still step back for a while and think and mean really think.

spoiledbrat -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/17/2006 7:34:00 PM)
[:)][:)] Yes bad bad past, but I am not dumb and will not repeat the same mistakes as I did last time. I will not rush to meet this person as I have already stated and even when I do meet with him it will be for small amounts of time and then spaces to see if we mesh into eaches lives with the right amount of time to think about it in between. Your wise words are very helpful thanks

spoiledbrat -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/17/2006 7:36:12 PM)
[:)] That will be a easy promise to make you to you. Four months hell I wasn't planning on at least meeting him for another two months and have been emailing him for two already and then even after meeting him the first time there will be three other visits before I actually take the plunge, that is if the plunge is even offered or wanted at that time.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/17/2006 8:09:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spoiledbrat [:)] That will be a easy promise to make you to you. Four months hell I wasn't planning on at least meeting him for another two months and have been emailing him for two already and then even after meeting him the first time there will be three other visits before I actually take the plunge, that is if the plunge is even offered or wanted at that time. Actually I'd advise you meet sooner rather than later. The longer you take, the more time you have to build up unrealistic expectations. Better to just make a go for it, start the relationship off now.

Petruchio -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/17/2006 10:25:50 PM)
I mitigate my excite because I know that on-line chemistry often doesn't translate to real-life chemistry. I want it to, but I don't feel face-to-face the chemistry perhaps 4 out of 5 times. And at least once when we had a superb first meeting, she suddenly ran back to Atlanta to try to patch things up for an ex-husband. (And spent the next 3-4 years suggesting we meet again.) Of course the one out of 5 times that does work and be wonderful. Just spend some time together before you commit to moving– you still have a lot to learn about each other. Good luck.

amayos -> RE: What if you are too excited (1/17/2006 11:33:21 PM)
We live in a society of acute goal-making. We are trained from an early age to visualize our perfect idealized ends and settle for nothing but that. In attempting to live up to these sometimes impossible standards, we essentially set ourselves up for failure. Simply, don't project and visualize too much. It will distort your experience and degrade it to nothing but a checklist of goal posts to be passed. This is not to say that we should not project success and happiness in our future, but that we are realistic about ourselves and others as human beings—which are organic and flawed. Emotion is a race car. You can choose to step into it and have it take you too fast to places you'd rather not go to or are not ready to go to quite yet. Visualize choosing to not step into that car and instead walking at your own pace; you'll notice and appreciate things much more if you do. At least, given the short amount of time in which I wrote this, that's best how I can describe it. Good luck.

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