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weeding out trouble - 2/8/2009 4:23:59 PM

kissmehardX

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thank you all for your comments

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RE: weeding out trouble - 2/8/2009 4:26:43 PM

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You seem a little rooted in fantasy, perhaps if you can come down to earth a bit it might help. :)

Experience rooting through emails and people is really the only thing that helps weed out wankers. It *is* the internet... it's the breeding ground of stupidity. (and porn, but that has nothing to do with this)

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RE: weeding out trouble - 2/8/2009 4:42:25 PM

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thank you Sir Mike and others for your valuable input

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RE: weeding out trouble - 2/8/2009 4:46:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: kissmehardX

let me re- ask...to the MASTERS...

Whoops. You may have just done yourself in with that one, kiddo.

Take it from a fellow subbie - we're in the same boat as you when it comes to weeding out the idjits. Trying to shove one of us overboard will just result in a bunch of hair-pulling, and not the fun kind, either.

Red flags: The ones who demand you call them "Master" upon first contact, the ones that promise you a collar by the first meeting, the "kneel bitch" Doms (those are the ones that believe because you listed as a submissive, you are honor bound to do exactly as they say), that sort of thing.

Lynxx's comment was valid in the sense that it is very easy for a Dom to say "I'll be your great protector" when what you have in your profile is a mish-mash of a romance novel. It can bring out the ones who think they'll never have to meet you if they just string you along with pretty words. What do you like to do, or what do you like to have done? That sort of thing can really be a good start to weeding out troublemakers.

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RE: weeding out trouble - 2/8/2009 4:54:07 PM

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Kissmehardx,

You are new here, anyone who feels they have something to offer does on these forums. If you want only advise from Masters then filter what you read. In fact I would think you would get better advise from another female sub on this one. enough said.

If is sub goes down any path that I feel could be wanking material, I change the subject. For example, if they ask to tell them about what I want to do to them, I simple tell them all I want are you limits, I will choose what I want to do at that time and no I am not going to discuss it with you now. You could do the same don't talk about how you want to worship there cock, talk about how you want to provide full service to them and what that means to you. Housework, cooking cleaning, etc. If they keep coming back to sex, it's a good chance they are wanking, end the conversation and move on. There may come a time when talk about sex is fine, but most wankers are not going to hold out for a week waiting to get to that point.

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RE: weeding out trouble - 2/8/2009 4:55:58 PM

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Whoops. You may have just done yourself in with that one, kiddo.

Agreed.

T1981 has given a pretty good list. I just got one who referred to me as "little one" and signed his one line note "Sir"

I also agree that your profile could use a little work. Telling more about you, as in who you are, likes, dislikes, hobbies, etc. will help with the weeding process. Personally, I don't answer anyone whose note does not refer to something listed in my profile.

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RE: weeding out trouble - 2/8/2009 4:58:19 PM

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Just a thought, but maybe she is looking for wank fodder and wants to know how to get it and the sort she likes. It's not like men are the only ones that like to talk about sex or fantasize after all.

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RE: weeding out trouble - 2/8/2009 5:57:47 PM

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Your welcome, kissmehardx - we're all allowed at least one foot in mouth comment (I've had mine, no doubt about that!) once in a while.

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RE: weeding out trouble - 2/8/2009 6:52:16 PM

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i am truly sorry for not realizing that my comment was harsh. it wasnt meant to be. my thinking was , us girls can see right thru other woman...i asked for a masters opinion in "ask a Master"because i thought one might be transparent to another...you know... like one guy might might see certain things in another guy and go..yeah right uh huh, sure.. i meant no insult to submissives or slaves. i withdraw what is now obviously a foolish question asked at a weak moment. i am hurting ..suckered in all the friggin way by a "dom".... i believed him. now for a moment i doubted my own wisdom. i was looking for some light, red flags, help. i withdraw the question.

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