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Humiliation.... :D - 2/8/2009 10:08:08 PM   
CollaredChicklet


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Status: offline 		So, Master and i have been experimenting a bit with humiliation (both private and public).  We've done everything from spitting to wearing cum... :)  hehe.  but, we are strapped for ideas on how to progress in terms of more public acts..  Y/you have to remember, that i am a pre-service teacher, so my job/credibility is at stake.  there is probably places/stores that we can go to where i wouldnt be known... this city is fairly large (16th largest in the US, actually!).  We've just been hitting a wall when it comes to more public acts... any ideas?  doesnt necessarily have to fall under the umbrella of 'humiliation'....


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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/8/2009 10:16:01 PM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		I am sorry I can't help you...humiliation is a hard limit for me.

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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/8/2009 10:47:16 PM   
iSyllogism


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Status: offline 		The canned answer here is: Humiliation is largely unique to each person, so you will have to find your own way.

If you're just looking for humiliation ideas, try googling "humiliation+ideas", or "humiliation+ideas+BDSM". Should turn up a hit or two.

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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/8/2009 10:51:11 PM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		Haha, C and I (ok just me) are a little chicken with full on public acts, but semi public is entertaining. The car (road head anyone?), dressing rooms in a slow store, and playing around on a porch on a rual cabin have all been things we've enjoyed.

None of it is humiliating, as I'm not into exposure, but the almost-public aspect is fun.


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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/8/2009 10:56:59 PM   
peppermint


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there is probably places/stores that we can go to where i wouldnt be known


This makes me believe that you wish to do something that strangers will see and understand and perhaps could damage your reputation.  I do not think it's right to include strangers in our play if they have not consented to being involved.  I'm sure you have heard the term Safe Sane Consentual.  This applies to those who are playing as well as those who might be exposed to seeing what they do not wish to see.  If your city is that large then there's a good chance there is a munch and parties where such play would not be considered unwanted in your area.  You might consider doing your humiliation in those parties. 

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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/8/2009 11:20:55 PM   
MissMorrigan


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Status: offline 		Women still like to maintain a 'pretty face' especially infront of other people. Look into nose hooks - they're tremendous fun to use especially when the recipient is turned into a 'piss piggy' as Reality was yesterday. Humiliation will be unique to each individual, so what do you find humiliating? For Reality, he doesn't like losing his 'stocism' despite the fact he does actually get off on being forced to lose it, and the quickest way for me to get him there is to have him on his knees, arms firmly restrained behind his back, spreader bars between his knees/ankles, nose hooks connected to his collar at the back so that they can't slip off, ring gag in his mouth then all I need to do is torment him as he begins to dribble all over himself before taking my time in squirting my urine up those upturned nostrils while he snorts, retches, pleads for it to stop - as his piggy face turns redder and redder.

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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/8/2009 11:42:46 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I ditto iSyllogism- giving you a list of ideas is pretty wasteful since it's so dependent on what turns YOUR personal screws.

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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/9/2009 5:55:32 AM   
VeryNastyDom


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Status: offline 		I agree that humiliation is highly specific to the individuals involved.  I likewise agree that you should not normally foist your kinks on unconsenting strangers, but in any large city there are "kink friendly" districts where public acts are common and even expected.  I would head down to where the fun people live and explore what might be available on a Friday or Saturday night.

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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/9/2009 6:12:36 AM   
subangi


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Status: offline 		A Domme friend of mine shared a public moment with me concerning her sub.  She instructed him during the course of lunch to get on his knees 3 times. The 1st, he tied a shoelace then went into kneeling position before getting up. 2nd, he "accidentally" dropped his fork. Lastly(is that a word?) he let the bill cascade from his grasp onto the floor.  I was very impressed with his creativity and not causing a public display. I enjoy performing acts similar to this...it is fun, makes you express your creativity, and mostly you are being obedient in carrying out the task set forth.

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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/9/2009 6:26:03 AM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		I have enjoyed:

Wearing pee
Wearing a lock through my nose
Having my skirt "accidenatally blow up"
Being made to sing a made up mermaid song in a museum
Being made to scream I want to suck cock, at the top of my voice at a kinky camp out
Being fed treats and needing to beg for them in a room of 300 people

I have also enjoyed with others
Making him warm the butter at a resturant with his thighs
Making him use silly honorifics "yes my sexy georgia peach goodess"
Peeing in his shoes
Making him walk on the balls of his feet as though he was in heels
Making him beg to use the rest room
Making him kneel and put sunblock all over me while on a whale watch boat






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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/9/2009 6:28:16 AM   
feydeplume


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Status: offline 		under clothes bondage is a pretty common public "humiliation". There are LOTS of things you can do that don't show under a thick jacket


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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/9/2009 10:06:52 AM   
akisha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CollaredChicklet

So, Master and i have been experimenting a bit with humiliation (both private and public).  We've done everything from spitting to wearing cum... :)  hehe.  but, we are strapped for ideas on how to progress in terms of more public acts..  Y/you have to remember, that i am a pre-service teacher, so my job/credibility is at stake.  there is probably places/stores that we can go to where i wouldnt be known... this city is fairly large (16th largest in the US, actually!).  We've just been hitting a wall when it comes to more public acts... any ideas?  doesnt necessarily have to fall under the umbrella of 'humiliation'....



I don't do the whole humilation things other then dressing with no underthings or wearing toys when out shopping with Master at his demand. Thing is, what one finds humiliating, others won't, so its hard to tell you what would work for you.

I wanted to touch on the part I bolded and underlined.....

Know matter where you are there is ALWAYS a chance you will run into someone you know or someone that knows you. I don't care how big the city is.

My mom was 3000 miles from home and ran into a guy she grew up with.

I have been in a totally different city and ran into co-workers, friends of my boss, etc etc.

Don't ever think you are safe just because you live in a big city or because you are in a different city.

If you are going to engage in an activity that can harm your career then take the responsibility of that and go with it. That's a personal choice but don't ever think you are safe to do what ever you want cause you just never know who is on the other side of the dressing room. LOL

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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/9/2009 10:38:29 AM   
Jeptha


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Status: offline 		There are probably adult bookstores in your city that have arcade areas. Some opportunities may exist there. Some cities have adult theaters where people play and experiment with exhibitionism.
If you are doing humiliation scenes, it might be good to forewarn your potential audience. Though if you're at a porn joint, most of your fellow wanderers likely won't be too startled, porn being what it is these days.
Another thing about porn arcades; some are strictly gay cruising alleys, so your scene may not meet with an interested audience there.
But a little poking around on Craigslist will turn up more local references, as well as plenty of willing voyeurs (in case you want to stock the pond, as it were).
I've experimented with some of these things in the past and enjoyed it.
As a voyeur, I would have loved to have seen a couple in one of these skeevy places, but never did. I have to admit that part of me enjoyed the performance aspect of thinking that some random perv like myself might enjoy the show.
Good Luck!

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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/9/2009 10:51:14 AM   
slaveboy291


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quote:

ORIGINAL: peppermint

quote:

there is probably places/stores that we can go to where i wouldnt be known


This makes me believe that you wish to do something that strangers will see and understand and perhaps could damage your reputation.  I do not think it's right to include strangers in our play if they have not consented to being involved.  I'm sure you have heard the term Safe Sane Consentual.  This applies to those who are playing as well as those who might be exposed to seeing what they do not wish to see.  If your city is that large then there's a good chance there is a munch and parties where such play would not be considered unwanted in your area.  You might consider doing your humiliation in those parties. 




Also you never know when your gonna run into those strangers again.  You might not remeber, but they will remember you though.  And that may not be a good thing. 

If there's a worry about a rep, maybe public humiliation is something you shouldn't do.  Because as I said even if you do it in front of people you don't know it still might come back and bite you on the ass.

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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/9/2009 10:58:04 AM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		It would be something if you participated in something dumb and lost your ability to pursue your career.

People seem so up tight about a woman fucking herself with a dildo at the mall on Sunday and then on Monday teaching our children...I don't get it.

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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/9/2009 11:05:26 AM   
SirRussellP


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Status: offline 		Here is one that is simple, try wearing extra high heels ones that make walking a little dangerous.  Worn with a short skirt would add to it but when worn with a long skirt or pants would cause little public attention.

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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/9/2009 11:07:24 AM   
Lynnxz


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ORIGINAL: SirRussellP

Here is one that is simple, try wearing extra high heels ones that make walking a little dangerous.  Worn with a short skirt would add to it but when worn with a long skirt or pants would cause little public attention.



But faceplants are not sexy....  :(


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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/19/2009 11:19:49 AM   
Sandor6


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Status: offline 		Being slapped in the face has always been humiliating for both the giver and the receiver. You just can't laugh immediately after the slap or the observers will catch on.

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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/19/2009 12:09:39 PM   
Leathersandals


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Status: offline 		I noticed you liked foot worship.

What about going to a crowded beach and licking his toes in front of everyone? Or have him use your face for a foot rest while laying at the beach. These things also wouldn't get you fired :)

If no beach.. maybe go to popular trail/hike spot and do it where the passerbys can see you. You can make it seem like you are massaging his feet after a long hike or run. Except. . . with your tongue..

Again less likely to get you fired, more likely to get a WTF from people.

I know from experience.



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RE: Humiliation.... :D - 2/19/2009 12:17:30 PM   
CreativeDominant


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CollaredChicklet

So, Master and i have been experimenting a bit with humiliation (both private and public).  We've done everything from spitting to wearing cum... :)  hehe.  but, we are strapped for ideas on how to progress in terms of more public acts..  Y/you have to remember, that i am a pre-service teacher, so my job/credibility is at stake.  there is probably places/stores that we can go to where i wouldnt be known... this city is fairly large (16th largest in the US, actually!).  We've just been hitting a wall when it comes to more public acts... any ideas?  doesnt necessarily have to fall under the umbrella of 'humiliation'....

How effective humiliation is depends on the two people involved. There were things I could do to my first submissive that were extemely humiliating...and thus arousing...for her that didn't do a thing for a casual submissive partner of mine; on the other hand, there were things that were humiliating...and thus arousing for her...that would not have done a thing for my first submissive but which would have excited my second submissive also. You just don't know what will work for someone unless you sit down and talk and delve into those areas of your psyche that sexual humiliation appeals to in the first place.

One more repeat of the note of caution...if your career is on the line, then be careful which acts you choose to do in public. Some very creative ideas are given above that involve the two partners in play which is humiliating for one without being overt. I have done several of these and have several of my own favorites. One of them being taking her to dinner in a short skirt and having her slip her panties off at the table unnoticed and handing them to me slowly. Then after dinner, going to a book store and having her bend over slowly to reach me a book on the bottom shelf , having her remain bent while searching for the title.

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