RiotGirl
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Yes i have felt similiar. In scene, out of scene and in just daily life. In daily life. Certian things he does, i find utterly boring. Heck, i'll even go so far to say some of the things Master enjoys are dumb. In BDSM life, some things that he enjoys i hold NO interest in. i wouldnt go so far to say boring, but just plain uninteresting.
What i do is i try and find "His" perspective. Why does HE enjoy it? i try and find something to relate to whatever the subject matter is. For instance, Master LOVES Chastity. i have abslutely NO, i mean NO interest in it. If all thoughts of chastity were to fall off the face of the planet i could care less. BUT, Master LOVES it. So i keep an open mind about it. i look for things i can relate too. Chastity has elements of control in it. i like control. So i focus on the control. i try and understand what is it about it that makes "chastity" so great. And focus on that. i hope i'm explaining well.
Like with ANY fetish i dont find any excitement in and/or understand. i seek to understand it. With the whole footstool thing. Yeah it could be boring, abit hard on the knees. But why does she like it? What's so great about it? Find these things out. Maybe its the objectification of it? Maybe its the humilation? Maybe its alot of things or one thing. i've no clue what you are into. But with certain things you can "talk" to yourself about them. Maybe you like humilation. Talk to yourself as a footstool. "i'm worthless, nothing better then a stool" and so on. (Granted i know very little about humilation)
Okay and my last attempt to explain it as i feel i'm doing so poorly. Try and find something to relate too when it comes to whaterver activity/play/interest.
(Granted it doesnt always matter if you enjoy something, its not about what you enjoy, but sometimes the Top enjoys it much more when you do)
i REALLY dont think its about talking to her.. i dont think you need to communicate with her. i think you need to communicate with yourself. i do it ALL the time, every second of every day and sometimes too much. Ug, or you could just try "this is really great, she loves this, i am making her happy" Say it over and over enough in a variety of different ways, TALK to YOUrself.
ug hope this helps!
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