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Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/9/2009 2:00:50 PM   
maatsubJ


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Status: offline 		Ok so here's the deal.  I had a car accident Christmas Eve while traveling to my mother's house.  I got banged up bad enough to spend 5 days in the hospital, and won't be able to return to my home (and Daddy) until late March once I've completed my physical therapy. I'm stuck at my mother's and in the meantime the only contact I have with Daddy is via phone.  It's so hard on me mentally.  I'm irritable, find myself thinking he'll replace me even though he loves me, and I've gotten to the point where I can't even sleep.  He tries to call/text daily but due to well, life isn't always able to give me the attention I want.  The last thing that I want is to be bratty and annoy Daddy.  I just need help coping.  Has anyone else ever been in a similar position, and if so how do you handle it.  As it stands I'm desperate so all good advice is welcome.

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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/9/2009 2:16:37 PM   
maatsubJ


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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/9/2009 2:24:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		I know what you are facing sweetie. My M is down with pain meds after surgery. Where there things that you did before that you can still do, any sort of rituals or habits? Have you thought about doing a journal about how much you miss him and your life with him? More once i get him some more tea and another pain pill.

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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/9/2009 2:30:38 PM   
swan70


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Status: offline 		I just went through this--but not for as long a time period.  Due to SNOW--plans had to be cancelled several weeks in a row.  Traveling just wasn't safe.  And while i had to wait--my irratation, chaos level, and emotional life was going crazy.  Master helps keep those things level for me! 

What helped me through:
1) CAM--it is nice to be able to SEE him, HEAR him, and write to him. 
2) Writing out fantasy scenarios.  I may not be able to feel the paddle, but i can write about feeling it! 

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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/9/2009 2:49:17 PM   
maatsubJ


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Status: offline 		I've started to email him what I'm feeling, like journal entries.  I feel like I'm making myself sick, stomach aches and headaches and such.  I just miss him so badly, this came at a horrible time; things between us are deepening.  I just got to the point of fully belonging to him and stopped fighting my submissiveness, Oye!

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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/9/2009 2:55:52 PM   
ISOHOH49


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Status: offline 		Maybe he can send you a care package:
1) a shirt that smell like him.
2) maybe something that he gave you, that mean a lot to the both of you.
3) wite about when you first knew that he was the one.
4) keep a journal, but not to whin, but to tell why he is so special to you
5)  you get the picture.

We tend to  see alway what is missing and forget the side that is there..  .
I'll sure that he miss you just as much and feel bad that he is not there with you.

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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/9/2009 5:04:39 PM   
maatsubJ


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Status: offline 		thanks for the advice so far... anyone else?

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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/9/2009 7:11:00 PM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		Hi maatsub
I do hope you are feeling better.

I do not have an understanding of a daddy/little girl relationship, so if some things don't fit just disregard. First i would recommend you use the search button and look up sub frenzie, and LDR. This might give you some idea of what you are experiencing.

I was hoping to spend time with Sir last month but between him being sick, me being sick, needing to take care of a house problem I had, him getting sick again, it has been 6 wks. The longest we went was 2 months and yes it is hard. Sir though does not like whining  and expects me to be creative in my day. I do work from home, and am writing a book, so this takes up a lot of time. We email a few times a week. Life happens and sometimes we just cant see each other, so now I look at these times as opportunites to build my trust in him. That means not worrying about if he is with another submissive, or if he is not desiring me anymore. It is learning to trust from afar, which is different then right under your nose. I found it has build up our relationship. I have a deep well of trust for him and am grateful everyday that i am permitted to serve him. I serve him by all that i do daily in my own life, since to me it is a reflection on him. When Mom was real sick, we saw very little of each other. Instead of whining, I turned it around to really be supportive to her. It was this time that the walls came tumbling down between my family and me. Sir was very pleased.

I  hope some of these things I said will help you find creative ways to enjoy life now.

Best of luck
blessings
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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/9/2009 7:26:10 PM   
maatsubJ


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Status: offline 		Thanks oceanwynds I guess a large part of the problem is that I can't do much due to my injuries. So I'm at a loss when it comes to distraction. Also there's the "freshness" of the relationship since we're about 7 months in. I could have handled a planned seperation but the accident just kind of tore my world apart. So I'm dealing feeling guilty for getting hurt in the first place and missing serving Daddy. I'm usually a crafty girl but all my work requires the use of both hands... So frustrating

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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/9/2009 7:32:14 PM   
oceanwynds


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ORIGINAL: maatsubJ

Thanks oceanwynds I guess a large part of the problem is that I can't do much due to my injuries. So I'm at a loss when it comes to distraction. Also there's the "freshness" of the relationship since we're about 7 months in. I could have handled a planned seperation but the accident just kind of tore my world apart. So I'm dealing feeling guilty for getting hurt in the first place and missing serving Daddy. I'm usually a crafty girl but all my work requires the use of both hands... So frustrating


opps I forgot to write my comment. I am getting tired. You know it sounds like you are being given an opportunity to work on you right now. Build up your self-esteem etc. You can use the computer so I would suggest you look up things on google for that. best of luck. if you want email me on the other side. i getting tired

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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/9/2009 8:45:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: maatsubJ

Ok so here's the deal.  I had a car accident Christmas Eve while traveling to my mother's house.  I got banged up bad enough to spend 5 days in the hospital, and won't be able to return to my home (and Daddy) until late March once I've completed my physical therapy. I'm stuck at my mother's and in the meantime the only contact I have with Daddy is via phone.  It's so hard on me mentally.  I'm irritable, find myself thinking he'll replace me even though he loves me, and I've gotten to the point where I can't even sleep.  He tries to call/text daily but due to well, life isn't always able to give me the attention I want.  The last thing that I want is to be bratty and annoy Daddy.  I just need help coping.  Has anyone else ever been in a similar position, and if so how do you handle it.  As it stands I'm desperate so all good advice is welcome.


well girl my Master is deployed so i live day to day knowing ill will talk to him again soon we never say bye its always talk to you soon. so just write a journal of how you feel and whats going through your mind for your Master to read so he knows how you are feeling and such. and go day to day talking and living on the talk to you soon basis that you will talke and see each other again very soon.

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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/10/2009 10:05:28 AM   
MasterTslave


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Status: offline 		Master T had surgery late last year...he was not really wanting any close contact and was wanting his space for some time.  It gets better and do not worry...if he replaces you, he didn't really connect with you...now, before you get mad at me..if you say I would not replace him like that...he would not do it to you either...so unless you would replace him for that situation, don't feel he would do it to you.  Sorry if that was confusing...been long day.

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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/10/2009 10:21:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		The best service you can perform for him is to take care of his property.  Stop being selfish and start the healing process and grow.
 
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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/10/2009 10:54:19 AM   
ISOHOH49


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Status: offline 		[I'm usually a crafty girl but all my work requires the use of both hands... So frustrating]

Sorry, I missed the part where you said you had limited use of your hand. So writting a journal may not be something that you can do. Maybe you could get a tape recorder and record a journal. 

Nothing that I can say will stop you from missing him, but just believe that he miss you and love you and can't wait until you are back with him.

Take care of yourself and get better.


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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/10/2009 11:44:38 AM   
camille65


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ORIGINAL: maatsubJ

Any advice :(



I've been in an LDR with him for a long long time. (10 years in a couple of weeks!!) I know well the difficulties when you can't reach out and touch him. The struggle to maintain.

So I journal and he reads it. When I go about my daily activities I keep in mind that I want to do them well, that I want to excel because it makes him proud of me. Sort of like that WWJD thingie... I keep in my head what would He want me to do.

I hope you heal quickly and fully so you can return to him soon.


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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/10/2009 3:30:28 PM   
maatsubJ


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Status: offline 		thank you all so much.  I appreciate all the advice.  I've come down from the anxiety, but i definitely don't want a repeat. Good news is I get to start rehab for my leg next week. Walking on it hurts so much right now, but I'm determined. So Darcy no worries I'm taking care of Daddy's property lol.

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RE: Withdrawl from your Dom/me - 2/10/2009 3:42:14 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		i feel like there's not a lot left for me to contribute.....However, having said that if it were me i would try and find ways to make His day easier/better. When He and i lived three hours apart i  would frequently send Him cards. He always said He loved them and they always surprised Him...{Truth is i thought He was exaggerating...i've been living here a year today and about six months ago i found all of them together}.  One time i picked up this molding clay kind of stuff and made Him a heart out of it and then put his initials on it. The reality for me personally, is it's really about the small things and paying attention. For example if He mentions He has an important meeting for work You could text Him that morning and make sure He's up....You could wish Him good luck a few minutes before hand...
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