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sub4hire -> RE: FInding Partners? (3/11/2004 11:05:22 AM)
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ORIGINAL: DomCT2002
Why must this be trolling or insulting to some. As Many know the lifestyle itself bears witness to the fact it is really an underground lifestyle not highly admired by the general public and not accepted by the general society in the United States. Yet in other countries around the world people are allowed to look for partners for what ever lifestyle they prefer without any predujice or discrimination.
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Do you realize studies have shown that 85% of the population have engaged in consentual bondage/ BDSM play? So to me that is'nt the public not accepting it.
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Second point to make is this it is not in every state as in connecticut where the lifestyle is kept and held in check by few members of it by way of the internet and chat programs. If it were so public in Connecticut or other states in the United States then it would be much easier to find partners in general.
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Actually it is very easy to find partners. Go to a munch. Get on a local list. There are always people looking for nothing more than play. You don't even need to have a relationship with them.
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Third Point to be made, these forums are for open discussions for all in the lifestyle, and for contacting other in these lifestyles for discussion and to ask questions are they not?
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I concurr with this point.
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Fourth point while munches are nice and so are clubs, some of us prefer not to attend them for different reasons, whether thay be you are looking for a poly relationship, you are cheating on a spouse or your just too damn shy to go to one. So, even though they be available in NY and some Munches are available in Connecticut, the clubs that were in Connecticut were shut down due to arrest for prostitution and other fines, at least one i know of anyway, and the others in the Hartford area to me do nothing for me.
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I happen to run a munch group. People meet others there. Yep, some people cheat. Although I have doctors..attorneys and teachers who come. If a teacher is implicated that is there job.
What I'm thinking you don't understand here because you've never been to a munch. They are a vanilla venue. Nobody knows you are a pervert.
Very hard for me to understand a munch at a sizzler or someplace vanilla was dealing prostitution. Real or imagined..real hard to believe.
Now...perhaps a group. Like a party. However that is much different than a munch. Plus if a munch got shut down at one place. They could move to the restuarant next door.
Go to a munch..find out what they are before you chastize them. It only makes you look ignorant. You're spouting off things you have no clue about.
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To come here and say ok, I am a 47 year old, white male/ 165lbs. brown eyes, brown hair looking for a submissive woman in Connecticut who maybe into the same things I am is not wrong in my opinion or trolling. To find a submissive woman who is into bondage, breast play, spankings and using toys such as vibrators, dildos, french ticklers, floggers, paddles and crops and needs a dominant controlling male to make her complete and fullfill her wishes should not be wrong or trolling. It is basically stating what I am into, what I am looking for and what I wish to be in a relationship with and who. Also, how is a submissive woman to know who or what is available out there unless it is put to the public and explained to them, as to who is looking and for what reasons? To find an intelligent, mature, individual into the same lifestyle and who has a sense of humor, one must state what one is looking for in many aspects. Such as Limitations also, like for me, no children, no urination, no scat, no permanently marking of the body, no knife play or cutting of any kind. I am not sadistic, but sensual and willing to explore the possibilities of such a relationship in the D/s or Bdsm lifestyle with a woman looking for a experienced and sensable man, who like controlling his woman in and othe rof the bedrrom to certain extents.
True if placed in your personal ad on the other side of the site. That would be totally respectable. However, did you place it there? What, not getting enough attention over there? Here there are certain rules we are all supposed to follow. Placing your ad here is unacceptable. Why? I don't know. You need to ask the CollarMe gods that question.
What I do happen to know is a great deal of wonderful people come to these boards daily. Not to be picked up but to chat about the lifestyle in general. Picking up is for chat rooms and ads. As you can see when you try to do it here all it does is ruffle peoples feathers. Aside from the fact when the collarme gods find out they may cancel you all together.
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