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TranceTara -> RE: how deep is to deep when it comes to strapon (2/12/2009 12:13:35 PM)

Thank you Mod Eleven. And, if I am out of line here please feel free to delete this post or email me.

I thought the OP had a valid post and was brave to ask such a personal and perhaps embarassing question. There is a thread for humour for those who wish to make jokes and such. The OP was concerned, wanted to please his wife and see if he could go further.

If it were I who had made the post, I would have felt quite vulnerable and not wished to post any more questions. Yes, I can crack jokes and take pot shots at myself. I just do not like strangers to assume such familiarity with me.

I can see most of you are good friends and have a lot of fun together which is great. In my opinion this was not the place. I have always thought the BDSM community to be a community where one can get answers as well as have fun. This thread seemed to be more for answers.

And pukie, I am sorry you got such treatment. There were some good posts as to being careful and I know you got some more information in your Cmail. It is not worth getting angry or offended over. You asked a very valid question and as I mentioned in my letter I have known of gay men who have a lot of experience in this area and use it as a means of spiritual growth as well as pure pleasure.

If there are any new people out there that are very shy and had a similar question and now feel like you have no one to turn to, please do not let this discourage you. People like to have fun and that is okay. Read the posts, see who answered the questions in a way you like and vibrated with and email those people on CM. Don't shut down out of fear.

Resorting to name calling is not way to solve any problem. To say, "I felt offended and was looking for an answer," would be a better way of going about it. And sometimes, "I am sorry," can do wonders.

I like this passage in John Maxwell's book, Relationships 101:

A SHORT COURSE IN HUMAN RELATIONS
The least imporant word: I
The most important word: We
The two most important words: Thank You.
The three most important words: All is forgiven.
The four most important words: What is your opinion?
The five most important words: You did a good job.
The six most important words: I want to understand you better.

And yes, I feel that pertains to a D/s or M/s relationship as well.

Forgive me if I have offended anyone, that was not my intention. Perhaps I am too much the idealist in dreaming of a world where we can deal with each other in a respectful manner. I did not mean to hijack the thread Moderator 11. Forgive me for that.




malloves69 -> RE: how deep is to deep when it comes to strapon (2/12/2009 1:07:26 PM)

i cant belive that it was allowed for these people to take pot shots at him ...if you dont like what he writes about then dont read it ...it was a serious question as far as im concerned then people jump all over him ...if its not your cup of tea then move on ...but if theres something good you care about subject material then share it by all means ...boy was something in the air that most people /morons responded like they did ?  have fun pokie ...dont let some people negative comments change anything you do for your and your ladys enjoyment [:)] mal



Lockit -> RE: how deep is to deep when it comes to strapon (2/12/2009 1:46:15 PM)

I had no problem with his question... just his response to some people joking.  They didn't take pot shots at him... at the topic maybe, but not him.  He on the other hand, did take pot shots.  Anything offensive according to the Mod, was taken out and one post was about all I saw.

There is nothing shy about insulting people because they joked and things didn't go the way he wanted them to.. yet just a bit later... he got all sorts of serious answers.  If you want all serious, try google.  If you want answers from people, expect anything.  Can't take the heat... get out of the public setting.  We all take heat sooner or later around here and if a few jokes is heat... I would hate to see what happens when real heat is applied.  Of course, after this post... I could get some! lol



cjan -> RE: how deep is to deep when it comes to strapon (2/12/2009 2:25:19 PM)

Poor, sensitive pukie.

I noticed he never thanked anyone for the serious advice he got regarding the potential risks of damaging his innards in order to satisfy a fetish. Instead he chose to very rudely lash out at lighthearted ( and humorous ) responses from a few posters who bear him no ill will nor meant him any harm.

Perhaps some of the responses were elicited from a point of view that pukie was aking a question in his OP the answer to which was obvious, i.e., when you can't get something any further up your ass, perhaps the prudent thing would be to stop pushing.

I agree that thin skinned and overly sensitive people should, perhaps, consider the various types of responses they might get on an open, international adult forum before subjecting themselves to the possibility of getting their feathers ruffled.



Underumam -> RE: how deep is to deep when it comes to strapon (2/12/2009 3:04:46 PM)

Can anyone say "thread drift"..lol.

ETA:  As a big strapon fan, I can add that once I work up to taking all of a moderate sized one, I really see no need to try and go deeper. It's not an ego thing...



yours2command -> RE: how deep is to deep when it comes to strapon (2/13/2009 3:29:20 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Underumam

Can anyone say "thread drift"..lol.

ETA: As a big strapon fan, I can add that once I work up to taking all of a moderate sized one, I really see no need to try and go deeper. It's not an ego thing...


as for thread drift, Well salvaged.
[8D]for me there is a big difference though as a huge strap on in length means that the female is really able to get into it body and mind. i always fantasised about a Mistress shagging me with one so that she got so into it that she came and when i produced a 12 inch 3.5 dildo for a female that also had huge balls on it and she strapped it became like Dr Jackel and Mrs Hide. She was really getting off on how much she was going to give me and as she tried it out and see that she could go for it she really let go. she actually came 6 times whilst shagging me and that was the most amazing time i have ever had for strap on play. the thing about width as well means that it is a much more overwhelming experience as i am consumed by all the feelings inside as opposed to around my ring piece



pukie11 -> RE: how deep is to deep when it comes to strapon (2/13/2009 8:01:04 AM)

i would like to thank all the people that gave some inteligent answers it was very nice of you to reply to a serious question when it comes to a matter where life or death could be a reality its not a joking matter and by the way i laughted like hell to when it comes out your mouth its fun to joke around  but in the end its still a question forum and if you don't have any answers maybe you shouldn't post nothing but silly remarks over and over again thats my thought



allthatjaz -> RE: how deep is to deep when it comes to strapon (2/13/2009 8:49:25 AM)

A final note from me pukie

When you go for longer dildos, choose something soft and rubbery. Hard objects don't go round corners easily! Have you ever seen those big rubber fists that they sell in the gay shop? If you pick them up they have no stability because they are so soft and flexible but they are used up to elbow length and so they need to be incredibly giving.

All the best

Maria



SassySarijane -> RE: how deep is to deep when it comes to strapon (2/13/2009 8:50:11 AM)

Well pukie, on your topic, if it's hitting bottom so to speak, stopping at that point is the probably the smartest thing to do unless you want to possibly end up shitting in a bag or dead from sepsis.

As to your problem with how others post, unless you own the site, you have no say. It is up to mods and owners what is and is not acceptable. This is not happy, happy, joy, joy, kumbaya land. It is a bdsm site and people from all walks of life with all kinds of different attitudes, beliefs and opinions post here. You take your chances on what replies you get when you post. If you can't handle the possiblities, you may want to think on them before you post.



yours2command -> RE: how deep is to deep when it comes to strapon (2/27/2009 8:12:06 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: allthatjaz

A final note from me pukie

Have you ever seen those big rubber fists that they sell in the gay shop? If you pick them up they have no stability because they are so soft and flexible but they are used up to elbow length and so they need to be incredibly giving.

All the best

Maria


and when i am given it it is very incredible, its all very well giving a dog a bone but if you want affection give a puppy a rubber chew toy from the other end.



Scotty306134 -> RE: how deep is to deep when it comes to strapon (2/27/2009 9:59:23 AM)

Hi Pukie and Yourstocommand I'm a fan of strapons too! However I'd have to advise caution in inserting  more than 7 inches. Beyond that length You get into a 90* bend at the sigmoid colon. I believe with practice and gentle malipulation it's possible to realign part of the colon to be a reasonably straight shot for 12-14 inches going beyond that seems very dangerous. Yourstocommand You speak of hitting a 'bone' stopping further insertion......If Your are actually hitting a bone I'd be very concerned abt damaging the intestinal lining by pinching it between the inserted object and the 'bone' especially if its repeatly hit. Take care, Scotty



yours2command -> RE: how deep is to deep when it comes to strapon (2/28/2009 9:22:06 AM)

I appreciate the advice scotty but have to say i have been doing it for several years now, the expression about if it ain broke dont fix it comes to mind. thats the problem of being puppy as he is more of an edge player than safe sane etc.



BoiJen -> RE: how deep is to deep when it comes to strapon (2/28/2009 9:30:00 AM)

Umm...not to be an ass

How much dick you can take in yer butt when you LOVE to take in your butt does not make one an "edge" player...that's all.



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