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RE: Seeking Ideas - 2/11/2009 11:39:23 AM

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As usual Steel.. you nailed it.. it is just plain scary...

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RE: Seeking Ideas - 2/11/2009 12:15:23 PM

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SteelofUtah wrote: The main issue I have with this is you just want to know what to do you are not asking HOW YOU DO IT.

I agree that how to do these things is massively important and it's good that you've brought the matter up.

But the OP was just asking for ideas so I wouldn't castigate her for not asking for details, yet. After all, it would be a terrible waste of time for somebody to say, `You could try X' and give huge amounts of information, links to websites and threads here, instructions on how to do X safely and so on, and then get the response, `Yeah, thanks, but X isn't appealing to me.'

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RE: Seeking Ideas - 2/11/2009 12:23:32 PM

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so let Me guess, you and the OP are related to Sybil?

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RE: Seeking Ideas - 2/11/2009 12:28:43 PM

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Thank you beeble,

My Issue isn't with giving out ideas but here is the deal

I tell person A that they should try Bastinado.

Person A Asks what is that?

I explain that it is the Beating of the feet.

Person A says that sounds Wicked and goes off to do it.

Person A's sub is an undiagnosed Diabetic and Person A is unaware of how dangerous bruises on the feet are to a Diabetic and Person A's sub unknowing of their own health issue submits to the activity and ends up having to have one of thier feet amputated.

Okay so that is a very Extreme Example and something that could even happen to a qualified and well educated Dominant, the point being is that there are things that one should know before they just haul off and try a new kink. Knowing the Pros and the Cons of what we do simply makes you a more responsible person, doing something for the sake of kink, being ignorant to the risk is just well .... Ignorant.

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RE: Seeking Ideas - 2/11/2009 1:01:08 PM

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So far she asked if making him eat his own cum is dangerous, surely not a high risk activity that can lead to hospitalization and serious health risks. She even asked if there was any danger in that.

From the way it looks she's just looking for ideas that are relatively harmless but humiliating for him. We all started somewhere and I don't think any of us was born with a whip in each hand, she wasn't expecting a crash course in domming here or trying to do some high risk activities. It's her partner, they're interested in humiliation, of course she could put him in female lingerie but make sure he won't become strangled by a bra strap...

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RE: Seeking Ideas - 2/11/2009 2:19:29 PM

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Fair Enough LadyConstanze,

I have just seen harmless fun go REALLY REALLY WRONG. Not just stories heard of, but I mean people I have known who requires medical attention due to what was thought to be "Harmless Fun" and it is always concreted with "I didn't know it could be that dangerous.

I am FAR from one of those Fear-Mongers who says don't ever do this because it will end with someone being dead. Nor am I the kind of person who says that the second a guy isn't willing to give up certain information does that make him Married. What I am say is that what we do involved a certain amount of Risk. If you go about this lifestyle with a Do first Ask questions Later Mentality then eventually something usually can and will go wrong.

Mine is not to cause the OP to cease and desist all acts untill they are rated in each activity they engage in but rather to know something about the Health and Physical implications of the things that they want to do.

Sure I used a very Extreme Example I even said so, the point remains it is a danger and lots of people engage in these activities without knowing what that danger is. When a little Education can go a long way in Kink basic Anatomy helps and knowing what is UNDER what you are hitting on the surface is a keen skill to have.

More people should educate themselves on what is beyond the kink get away from the excitment ... Just for a second.. and see what else is going on.

Just my two cents in a sea of pocket change.

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RE: Seeking Ideas - 2/11/2009 7:32:42 PM

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Posts like this always make me think there should be some kind of huge BDSM idea bin in the sky.

But seriously, a big giant bin in the sky would be awesome, especially if you had to take a superfast elevator there.

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RE: Seeking Ideas - 2/11/2009 7:36:15 PM

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I want to thank you for all your responses. The reason I knew about this site and message board was because a friend of mine told me about it. So I came on here looking for ideas to start doing things to my new slave. What things have you done to you slaves or sluts? I am new to this and looking at starting somewhere. We have talked about things but want to surprise him with new things as well.

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RE: Seeking Ideas - 2/11/2009 10:28:28 PM

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Learning how best to skull-f*ck is massively appealing imo but some people just want physicalities. < shrug >
If it's all about physicalities, study anatomy. As others have said, it's easy to do damage.
If it's not all about physicalities, open your mind, take a mental jaunt, see where it takes you and where you may go together. Then, study some more upon anatomy, psychology, bdsm, D/s, etc., etc., etc.
If you're just looking to have some kinky fun for the weekend, why not contrive a scenario of basic servitude. Use it as a point from which to begin exploration and better communication as well as to get off. And, no, there's no danger in eating cum as long as it isn't infected with anything and since it's his own, that's a moot point too. Most it'll do is upset his stomach.
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RE: Seeking Ideas - 2/12/2009 10:41:12 AM

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How can anyone give you ideas on how to push his limits if you don't even say what his limits are?

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RE: Seeking Ideas - 2/12/2009 11:43:24 AM

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How can anyone give you ideas on how to push his limits if you don't even say what his limits are?

Well, how about it Domhorse? What are his limits?

Your nick makes me think of a sawhorse...

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