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LadyExcrutia -> RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... (2/12/2009 5:56:04 PM)
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My brother is still in the Army and he took us down to a firing range at a club and showed off on their shooting range. He just took his gun and like it was the wild west, drew it fast and emptied the clip on a target....then he taunted my husband into it and like he is sometimes, he took the gun and did the same, but he wasn't even looking at the 3 target silhouettes he shot at. Untilt hat day, and after almost 5 years together, he had never even said he knew how to fire a gun, let alone like that.
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Some people are natural born aces at certain things. Or, it was beginners luck, which happens.
Hmm..I need to learn how to do this editing thing without messing up my posts...anyways....my husband also defended me and beat up 3 street punks who tried to snatch my purse as we took a walk. He did it against 3 young and able men with knives. And he moved like he was one of the power rangers. I don't see how he could learn in the nearly 5 years we have together, to do this, but now I am worried and I see him work out to keep his physique, it makes me thinkt hat he isn't an athlete maitaining his level, but more like a butcher sharpening his culling blade, worries me much.
I missed the part that was edited out.
Have you asked him how he knew how to do that?
I am not trying to place any blame on you, but how much of your husband's life prior to knowing you did you invite him to share with you... was he in the military perhaps?
It is only a secret if you asked him about his life and he lied or misrepresented himself.
If you did not ask him... it might have been something he wished to put behind him.
It sounds as if you are feeling afraid of him...?
Well....I am not. I had a bad experience with a problem due to the death of my father when we married and he truly stood by me for better and for much, much worse. I know for a fact he is uncapable of hurting me, or any woman for that matter, I mean truly incapable.
I asked him how did he do that, and he just said that it's science. Gave me a long talk on biomechanics and human anatomy and physiology and neuromotor psychology and stuff I needed 3 hours and half his books to understand with my niece's dolls and some drawings. He just confused me more because he said "it's normal in my country for a man to know hwo to do this and protect his wife" and well, I did recall that a friend of mine once told me that men from his country were dangerous because they are all trained for war but I regarded it as simple ignorant racism or bigotry against him and nothing more as some display towards Latinos, even if we are just a little bit away from the border.
It's just that I worry because he's always been the type of man who keeps to himself his pain, his doubts, his fears and it is not because we lack communication, it's because he just "doesn't want to bother me for nothing" and doesn't bring anything up or comment further on something.
I don't know much about his life before he came here and started working, his life isn't a secret for me because he evades my questions or lies on the answers, it's because I've never had the need to ask and I was happy with him for who he was and not what he did or had done, I just don't want anything fromt he past I don't know about come and screw up the present we enjoy and the future we want for our relationship and it was already very hard to make him enter the lifestyle and then to teach him basic things such as that it was ok to say a safeword or tone down the play with a yellow or red and we had a big list of mistakes we made, well, that I made for that and scars to show for it which add to the ones he already had from an accident he suffered before coming here so I worry.
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