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Abuse Question - 1/17/2006 12:32:22 AM   
TeachByRod


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Status: offline 		I have seen Slaves and Subbies on the internet asking for abuse ( they do not say if its verbal or physical abuse they seek ) and what im asking is in peoples experiece what are the abuse acts most commonly asked for .


Thank you for your replies

be happy , be safe live your life full.
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RE: Abuse Question - 1/17/2006 3:12:06 AM   
sweetpettjenny


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Status: offline 		ive never asked to be abused . i session hard as i am a masochist....does that mean its abuse?? probably not.

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RE: Abuse Question - 1/17/2006 5:07:38 AM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TeachByRod

I have seen Slaves and Subbies on the internet asking for abuse ( they do not say if its verbal or physical abuse they seek ) and what im asking is in peoples experiece what are the abuse acts most commonly asked for .


Thank you for your replies

be happy , be safe live your life full.


Hmm, I never ask to be abused. I am an extreme masochist, who enjoys a high level of pain. But that is not abuse in any way shape or form.

You might want to redefine what you are reading as to what these submissives are asking for.


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RE: Abuse Question - 1/17/2006 7:08:53 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Usually they mean they want to be beaten or treated like a passive object.

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RE: Abuse Question - 1/17/2006 10:44:49 AM   
TypeWriter


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Status: offline 		Maybe I am over reading this but I think when someone is asking for "abuse" they are hoping to get some psychological need met by verbal or physical harm done to them.

nNw before everyone jumps on me I know this is different than pain. Slapping my littleone's ass hard is painful, but not abusive.

All I am saying is, as a Dom, I would be worried about anyone demanding or requiring abuse without a freeing effect. It is not my cup of tea.

God you are all going to jump on me now. =)

M

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RE: Abuse Question - 1/17/2006 11:14:01 AM   
amayos


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Status: offline 		It is my experience that many who ask for abuse do so without due reflection upon the word.

Mainly they seek to be verbally humiliated, spoken of as if they are not human, or treated like an object in some extreme degree.

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RE: Abuse Question - 1/17/2006 11:17:52 AM   
michaelGA


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Status: offline 		for me, growing up it was both physical and verbal abuse...but never sexual

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RE: Abuse Question - 1/17/2006 6:27:59 PM   
BeingChewsie


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Mainly they seek to be verbally humiliated, spoken of as if they are not human, or treated like an object in some extreme degree.


mmmmmmmm...yes that about covers it!

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RE: Abuse Question - 1/17/2006 6:30:02 PM   
Hallittlelolita


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Status: offline 		i tottally agree with that statement LOL

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ORIGINAL: BeingChewsie

quote:

Mainly they seek to be verbally humiliated, spoken of as if they are not human, or treated like an object in some extreme degree.


mmmmmmmm...yes that about covers it!


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RE: Abuse Question - 1/17/2006 6:44:11 PM   
amayos


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ORIGINAL: BeingChewsie

quote:

Mainly they seek to be verbally humiliated, spoken of as if they are not human, or treated like an object in some extreme degree.


mmmmmmmm...yes that about covers it!


LOL

You, dear, are a rare natural.

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RE: Abuse Question - 1/17/2006 6:56:55 PM   
IceyOne


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TeachByRod

I have seen Slaves and Subbies on the internet asking for abuse ( they do not say if its verbal or physical abuse they seek ) and what im asking is in peoples experiece what are the abuse acts most commonly asked for .


Thank you for your replies

be happy , be safe live your life full.


As everyone else has already said, most often it is humilation, degradation, objectification...along those lines


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RE: Abuse Question - 1/17/2006 9:28:03 PM   
Slaveless1


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ORIGINAL: TypeWriter



God you are all going to jump on me now. =)

M



Nah..that is just to easy and besides you might like it to damn much............

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RE: Abuse Question - 1/19/2006 1:33:09 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		I was abused as a child.
My coach made me play Right field.
Now, I abuse my kid.
I'm the coach and I make him play Right Field.

Now, who needs pain, please raise your hands?

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RE: Abuse Question - 1/19/2006 2:26:26 PM   
IceyOne


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ORIGINAL: fastlane

I was abused as a child.
My coach made me play Right field.
Now, I abuse my kid.
I'm the coach and I make him play Right Field.

Now, who needs pain, please raise your hands?


That's not abuse...my coach made me play center field AND catcher....now that's abuse.

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RE: Abuse Question - 1/19/2006 3:07:52 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		And Catcher? OMG

Who, may I ask, was the pitcher?

Sorry!

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RE: Abuse Question - 1/19/2006 3:17:09 PM   
justheather


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ORIGINAL: IceyOne


quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

I was abused as a child.
My coach made me play Right field.
Now, I abuse my kid.
I'm the coach and I make him play Right Field.

Now, who needs pain, please raise your hands?


That's not abuse...my coach made me play center field AND catcher....now that's abuse.


I feel your pain. I played catcher too.

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And the table perfectly level
When you cut me out of my life
And paste me in that book you always carry.
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RE: Abuse Question - 1/19/2006 4:07:29 PM   
IceyOne


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ORIGINAL: fastlane

And Catcher? OMG

Who, may I ask, was the pitcher?

Sorry!


some scrawny little sob...the only reason he got to was because he was older than me

/shakes head sadly

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RE: Abuse Question - 1/19/2006 8:44:38 PM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		Uhm...me...I need abuse...

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RE: Abuse Question - 1/19/2006 9:39:25 PM   
LaMalinche


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TeachByRod

I have seen Slaves and Subbies on the internet asking for abuse ( they do not say if its verbal or physical abuse they seek ) and what im asking is in peoples experiece what are the abuse acts most commonly asked for .


Thank you for your replies

be happy , be safe live your life full.


I just wanna be loved, is that so wrong?



Can anybody find me somebody to love?
Each morning I get up I die a little
Can barely stand on my feet
Take a look in the mirror and cry
Lord what you're doing to me
I have spent all my years in believing you
But I just can't get no relief, Lord!
Somebody, somebody
Can anybody find me somebody to love?


Well, I suppose abuse works too - as long as there are shiny boots involved.

Taste the whip, in love not given lightly
Taste the whip, now plead for me

I am tired, I am weary
I could sleep for a thousand years
A thousand dreams that would awake me
Different colors made of tears


LaMalinche

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Some prices are just too high, no matter how much you may want the prize. The one thing you can't trade for your heart's desire is your heart.

His mother had often said, When you choose an action, you choose the consequences of that action. She had emphasized the corollary of this axiom even more vehemently: when you desired a consequence you had damned well better take the action that would create it.

But pain... seems to me an insufficient reason not to embrace life. Being dead is quite painless. Pain, like time, is going to come on regardless. Question is, what glorious moments can you win from life in addition to the pain?

-LMB

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RE: Abuse Question - 1/20/2006 6:01:42 AM   
TeachByRod


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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Uhm...me...I need abuse...



Hello xxblushesxx

Forgive me if you find my question rude as i only seek clarity to understand your words better.


can you enable me to understand your need for abuse better , what deads of abuse do you refer to , what acts give you the satisfication of the hunger for abuse. I realise such desire can be dark , personal and not for sharing with the whole board let alone community. But hope your hand can guide me to illumination on this matter..

Thank you for reading this. If my words offend you , they are only words and have no magic just delete them and forget them.

May you walk in the love that your hearts fines the food to bloom on .

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