Does what I define as a "pet" exist?

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TwilightsKitten -> Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 3:57:22 AM)
For me, a pet is a submissive that while you own them and they do as you say, is cared for, loved, and appreciated. They have a desire to do as their Dom wishes because making their Dom happy makes them happy. They are in no way a doormat, or viewed in the same way someone looks at a shovel. Outside of the kinks and their role as a submissive, they are a friend and a lover. Someone you can talk to, watch a movie snuggled up with, and share your interests and thoughts with. In the few years I have known I wanted this kind of life, I have only met one person that was what I sought in a pet. After going through a lot of profiles here, I noticed many subs seek someone that's, for lack of a better term, a "bad boy". Someone that is harsh, maybe arrogant to an extent. And, there is nothing wrong with that, to each their own. I'm not criticizing anyone, or trying to put people down for what they like. All I'm really trying to get at is, while I know what I personally want, am I being silly in thinking they have to be out there? Am I being too picky in my definition of what I'd want in a pet? I have a feeling part of this is due to another V-Day spent alone, and in part to it being 7 am and me not having been able to sleep. Me being bored just leads to me thinking, which leads to questions like this. Anywho, I'm sorry for the slightly depressing tone of this post, I tried to keep it objective but...feelings have a way of sneaking in. This kitten is off to curl up with his stuffed kitty and dream of cute kitty girls. Hopefully you all aren't too rough on me for asking this. Mew.

crazyredhead1957 -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 4:06:05 AM)
i'd love to be that kind of pet.

eyesopened -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 4:39:50 AM)
When I was young and pretty I found that I could have anything I wanted. I was fawned over, cherished, and there was no lack of guys who would roll over and expose their belly if I wanted. I thought I was a freak because if I could get anything I wanted, if I could control the guy....I didn't want him. I never knew what was wrong with me. Later when I wasn't so young and then just mildly attractive, I found that guys would break up with me and I never knew why. I felt tossed aside, thrown away, it felt horrible. I needed someone who was "bad" enough to let me know in uncertain terms if I displeased him, I needed someone who loved me enough to punish me and discipline me so that he could keep me, not someone who thought I was worthless. Punishment, correction, discipline, restrictions, all show me that He loves me enough to want to keep me forever. I never want to go back to the kind of guy who says nothing, is silently unhappy, who doesn't care enough to correct me, but then one day dumps me. For some reason, a lot of men have to feel they have to be "bad" in order to be disciplinarians. Example, a puppy pees on the carpet, you set it outside, it comes in and pees on the carpet and you never do anything to stop the behavior, you just take the puppy to the side of a dirt road and leave it there cuz it would be cruel or bad to crate the puppy or tap its nose with a newspaper. A responsible pet owner has to be willing to be "bad" and exercise some tough love. I believe that's what a lot of pets need and desire.

CatdeMedici -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 5:24:36 AM)
Different strokes for different folks, it doesn't mean bad boys aren't loved and cared for---the mushygooshy isn't for everyone---however, for Me, if he thought for one moment he wasn't loved and cared for, then I am not doing My part.

MissEnchanted -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 5:32:44 AM)
Kitten, Welcome to cm! People define pet differently and what you seek as a beginner is surely to be found. I am sure there are matches out there for you! I suggest finding a local bdsm group and attending local munches so that you can observe, learn, and find friends to make you their pet, or to be your pet. There are so many who come here just to chat and never actually want to meet. they can create any profile, say anything, be nasty, etc. That's why I suggest that you 'get out there' and meet some local people. I know this idea can be scary, however, there are many groups with people from both sides of the D/s line that will be kind, help you to grow in a safe and consensual way, and take you under their wing. Good luck, and have fun!

hejira92 -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 6:24:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TwilightsKitten For me, a pet is a submissive that while you own them and they do as you say, is cared for, loved, and appreciated. They have a desire to do as their Dom wishes because making their Dom happy makes them happy. They are in no way a doormat, or viewed in the same way someone looks at a shovel. Outside of the kinks and their role as a submissive, they are a friend and a lover. Someone you can talk to, watch a movie snuggled up with, and share your interests and thoughts with. In the few years I have known I wanted this kind of life, I have only met one person that was what I sought in a pet. On a day-to-day basis, Master and I have this relationship. He calls me His puppy all the time (He even bought me a pink doggie bowl, although we haven't used it in a while). But, as eyesopened stated, we also have the other side- He will be obeyed and I will be discilined if I disappoint Him. He has a wondeful sadistic side, He makes the decisions, and our dynamic is in place always- even while snuggling up watching a movie. As He says, at the end of the day, it's a relationship- we are best friends and lovers. We just also get all the thrill, chills and adventure! It is out there for you. Just get offline and find real people who have real lives. I think online gets too into the fantasy of 24/7 locked on a chain. I, myself, had a lot of adjusting to do in my mind between the fantasy and the reality. Master also says "life sometimes gets in the way of living". A realistic balance is the key.

chiaThePet -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 6:25:52 AM)
BARK BARK BARK BARK I just love doing that. chia* (the pet)

ThundersCry -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 6:29:55 AM)
Twue pets just have a great ability to show they have not lost their fuckability... So sweet they...are...

DarkSteven -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 6:32:21 AM)
/Squirts chia with water bottle/ I am in no way an expert, but I have been talking with a girl who is a puppygirl. What that means is that she is a normal submissive, but every so often she slips into puppy mode and will fetch, worry things with her teeth, and otherwise become a puppy. The thing that confuses me about you is that you have described a very straightforward D/s pet scenario, but your sig line seems to indicate that you want you AND your woman to both be kittens, and you're a switch. I've never heard of both partners assuming the pet role, unless you intend to alternate.

TwilightsKitten -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 6:53:32 AM)
I understand what you are getting at. Being willing to be corrective and "bad" are not the same thing. For me, I don't enjoy punishment, and the few times I have done it, it was explained why it was being done, and was fitting to the incident. I was never fast to punish, it always had to be something deserving of it. I'd much rather give them the opportunity to show me they are sorry in a positive way after discussing the matter. Perhaps I just come across as way too soft, and that I won't express disappointment or being upset. I was taught early on, to never punish while being angry, and to never be quick to punish. So, for me, if my pet disappointed me, it would be discussed, and depending on what happened, there might be some form of punishment, or a chance given to allow the pet to make up for what has occurred. I'm not afraid to express myself, I just won't do so by using my pet as a punching bag. I have a cat named Luna, and she use to go on the carpet and floor, and it drove me nuts. So, every time it happened, she got a swat, and I carried her to the litter box, put her in it and held her there for awhile. After a few days, she figured it out and it never happened again. I didn't abandon her on the side of a road or kick her across the room for it, and despite what I did, she still eagerly climbs up in my lap and purrs. Matter of fact, she is sitting on my desk looking at me right now. I guess the point of this story is to illustrate the kind of person I am when it comes to punishment. I express myself clearly, but calmly, and never go too far because I am disappointed or upset. Luna learned her lesson and doesn't do it anymore, but she still knows I'll care for her and love her and isn't afraid of me. And thats how I am when it comes to punishing a sub. I express the problem clearly, and do what is appropriate to the situation. The problem ends up resolved, a lesson is learned, but the sub still knows I love and care for her and doesn't fear me. I don't want my pet cowering in the corner in fear of me, I want her to scamper over eagerly to meet me, knowing that even if something goes wrong, it'll be worked out. Mew.

TwilightsKitten -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 6:59:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven /Squirts chia with water bottle/ I am in no way an expert, but I have been talking with a girl who is a puppygirl. What that means is that she is a normal submissive, but every so often she slips into puppy mode and will fetch, worry things with her teeth, and otherwise become a puppy. The thing that confuses me about you is that you have described a very straightforward D/s pet scenario, but your sig line seems to indicate that you want you AND your woman to both be kittens, and you're a switch. I've never heard of both partners assuming the pet role, unless you intend to alternate. I'm a kitten personality wise. I'm cuddly and affectionate. In the past, I have had both a Dom and a pet that enjoyed being a kitten. For the Dom, she enjoyed doing it with me, or me being one by myself, and for the sub, she enjoyed being the kitten all by herself, so I let her. I'll always be a kitten at heart, I just don't always play the role out if that makes any sense.

subtlebutterfly -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 7:02:16 AM)
If you have this idea of a pet then another person with this same idea probably exists too. It might just be more difficult to find, even though I don't think it should be very difficult..

TwilightsKitten -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 7:10:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissEnchanted Kitten, Welcome to cm! People define pet differently and what you seek as a beginner is surely to be found. I am sure there are matches out there for you! I suggest finding a local bdsm group and attending local munches so that you can observe, learn, and find friends to make you their pet, or to be your pet. There are so many who come here just to chat and never actually want to meet. they can create any profile, say anything, be nasty, etc. That's why I suggest that you 'get out there' and meet some local people. I know this idea can be scary, however, there are many groups with people from both sides of the D/s line that will be kind, help you to grow in a safe and consensual way, and take you under their wing. Good luck, and have fun! I don't suppose there is some sort of listing of these groups and meetings, is there? I'd be willing to give it a try at least, maybe just look around and talk with people. I honestly don't know a lot about the public scene with the groups and meetings. The experience I have to date has been in private with people that I knew and trusted. Mew.

SunNMoon -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 7:14:13 AM)
I think what you’re looking for does exist. I personally don’t think it’s that outside the norm for most relationships, its just the more day to day things your focusing on versus the more heavy play or more high protocol relationship aspects. If you’re having problems finding it, you might want to focus more on people that are into pet play or that aren’t looking to have a punishment dynamic. They are out there. Its very similar to the past relationship which I had with Cat.

thetab -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 8:37:59 AM)
First, let me say that your definition of a pet is pretty much the same as mine. Friendship, love, adoration. Sitting in front of the TV, at the feet of my owner. So, there's definitely people out there with the same description as you. Now I just need to find one, myself. quote: ORIGINAL: TwilightsKitten quote: ORIGINAL: MissEnchanted Kitten, Welcome to cm! People define pet differently and what you seek as a beginner is surely to be found. I am sure there are matches out there for you! I suggest finding a local bdsm group and attending local munches so that you can observe, learn, and find friends to make you their pet, or to be your pet. There are so many who come here just to chat and never actually want to meet. they can create any profile, say anything, be nasty, etc. That's why I suggest that you 'get out there' and meet some local people. I know this idea can be scary, however, there are many groups with people from both sides of the D/s line that will be kind, help you to grow in a safe and consensual way, and take you under their wing. Good luck, and have fun! I don't suppose there is some sort of listing of these groups and meetings, is there? I'd be willing to give it a try at least, maybe just look around and talk with people. I honestly don't know a lot about the public scene with the groups and meetings. The experience I have to date has been in private with people that I knew and trusted. Mew. Since you live in New York, there's probably a ton of local clubs, though it might depend on what part of the state you're in. Quickest way to find out is to do a google search of your city/state, and "local bdsm". See if you can find a TNG group nearby, since they're geared towards the 18-35 crowd, and you'll likely find some people with 'vanilla' interests in common. Don't be too scared about going to a munch. Everyone is usually pretty nice, especially to new comers (results may vary between groups, though).

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 8:44:21 AM)
They exist but they're a rare breed and most of them are already taken. I'd like to have one myself. You can find one here, but don't expect it to happen quickly. Be prepared to spend months or years searching for her.

DesFIP -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 9:59:45 AM)
I am very much cared for, indulged, and petted but it has more tones of a D/lg than a pet dynamic. As far as people getting in touch with their inner animal, yes there are lots of those. If you have two dogs, one will be the alpha. I don't know if it works that way with cats also.

VampiresLair -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 10:17:21 AM)
What you describe as a pet is what I describe as a slave. That is Fox's relationship with me. He is my pet, my property, my lover, soon to be my husband. Worry less about finding someone who matches your terminology and more about someone who matches your desires and you will have better luck. There are many many submissives who are looking for loving dominants, even if they do not refer to themselves or their positions as pet. DV

FelineFae -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 4:47:38 PM)
Hello, i am the pet artist and slave of my Master. i love being owned completely as i am, and to please. my mindset is just not "normal human", and i'm cool with that, and my Master and m'Lady love me for this. i know that i am loved and valued beyond measure. it is my way to show my love through service... so i do. Everyone is happy here.[:D] erg the typos...

FelineFae -> RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? (2/14/2009 5:31:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP I am very much cared for, indulged, and petted but it has more tones of a D/lg than a pet dynamic. As far as people getting in touch with their inner animal, yes there are lots of those. If you have two dogs, one will be the alpha. I don't know if it works that way with cats also. Can't help myself. Cats do form hiarchies. An alpha queen is normally on the top, but there may be a superior tom that keeps other males in check, if in a colony setting. For an outsider cat to be accepted into a colony, they must be submissive to the leader of the colony, and present no treat to the domain. Okay, hijack over, i'll be good.

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