RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them

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Gauge -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/18/2006 9:33:51 PM)
You know, I hear things like this and I shake my head. I know that this is a match making site and that certain amounts of personal information will be exchanged but you have to use caution. You should create an email account that is disposable like a hotmail or yahoo email account. It is free and if you get a freak, you can delete that name and they can't touch you. It is great advice to check for any kind of malicious Spyware or Malware. Ad-aware is a good one that is free and Spybot Search & Destroy is decent as well. You get free updates with both. If you don't have anti-virus software... get some. Anyone on the Internet that doesn't have anti-virus software is just asking for trouble. There are good, free anti-virus programs out there. AVG Antivirus comes to mind and BitDefender has a free one. They all have free updates. I use one anti-virus program and I do free online scans also. BitDefender has a great free online scan and so does Housecall and Panda Scan. I will post the URL's for them at the end of this. Also, if you have any questions about your online security, get a firewall. Anyone with broadband that doesn't have a firewall is just begging for bad things to happen. I do not know of a free firewall program except Zone Alarm. Take the time, get the protection you need and be secure. If it comes to a phone conversation, in this day and age, there are cell phones that are pre-paid... not the cheapest option but it is better than giving out your own home number and having them show up on your doorstep a few days later. I wish you the best with this situation. http://www.bitdefender.com http://www.grisoft.com http://housecall.trendmicro.com http://www.lavasoftusa.com/software/adaware/ Spybot Search and Destroy http://www.pandasoftware.com/products/activescan.htm http://zonealarm.com

NakedOnMyChain -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/18/2006 9:59:26 PM)
quote: I wonder what other actions I might take based on others experience. Well, have you ever heard of a Dirty Taco? Seriously, though, I'm no help in computer matters, but best of luck to you in getting things cleared up.

SlavenationArmy -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/20/2006 8:41:04 AM)
Thanks Gauge, These are all good points and good advice to anyone who exposes themselves on the web. However in this case my computer wasn't compromised, it seems my name was leaked with him hearing my name through "a friend of a friend" method. [sm=rolleyes.gif]

MHOO314 -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/21/2006 5:37:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SlavenationArmy Thanks Gauge, These are all good points and good advice to anyone who exposes themselves on the web. However in this case my computer wasn't compromised, it seems my name was leaked with him hearing my name through "a friend of a friend" method. [sm=rolleyes.gif] We all like to hear about closure at times, has this issue ended for you T/two?

krys -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/21/2006 6:53:08 AM)
Get an unlisted phone number. Or at least, if you are listed, make sure you take the time to request that it be removed from Google Search. By typing in a listed telephone number in goggle, you can get someone's address and directions to their house. And good luck.

krikket -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/21/2006 8:21:09 AM)
Shigglyboom I went thru something similar about 10 years ago on the net. Because the technology was so new (at least to me) back then it really scared me, and made me extra cautious. i wish this list had been available to me back then, and i hope that those who are new today will keep your list tucked away on their hard drive somewhere. (i know i have.) Thank you so much for laying it all out in clear, concise words. cheers jimini

TexasMaam -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/21/2006 8:32:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger quote: So my question is this: Has anyone had a similar problem to this and what did you do about it? For a modest fee... I'll come out to Dallas and put a dead fish on his door step, half-ass wrapped in the obituary section of the Times....[8D] Hey, Ranger! That post I liked! ; ) TM - The Ranger

MHOO314 -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/21/2006 11:55:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TexasMaam quote: ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger quote: So my question is this: Has anyone had a similar problem to this and what did you do about it? For a modest fee... I'll come out to Dallas and put a dead fish on his door step, half-ass wrapped in the obituary section of the Times....[8D] Hey, Ranger! That post I liked! ; ) TM - The Ranger I JUST spewed!! That is priceless!

ModeratorThree -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/21/2006 11:20:01 PM)
For the record, I have not recieved any email in regard to this situation, and have yet to hear from another Moderator that has. I am sorry that you have gone through this, however CM.com does not share any information about it's users. I just wanted to make that clear, in case some mistakenly believe your id was somehow obtained from the site. The information was gathered in another way, either directly from you or indirectly from someone you shared it with on another occasion. This is also another reason we do not allow personal email or other information in your signature lines. To try to protect the users, if you choose to share it via site email with others then it is up to the user to be sure the person they share with is trustworthy and reputable. The reason we offer on site email and the chat is so that you can in fact determine if you desire to give out any personal information. This is to protect the members of the site from unwanted harrasment. I wish you luck with this situation and hopefully the harrasment will cease. If you need anything further or have questions please do not hesitate to contact me or another Moderator on the other side. Mod3

girl4you2 -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/21/2006 11:36:48 PM)
Mod3, thank you for taking the time to write all of that to clarify the positions of collarme. it's reassuring to have it reiterated, and to know that we've a safe haven to be in.

UtopianRanger -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/22/2006 1:15:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TexasMaam quote: ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger quote: So my question is this: Has anyone had a similar problem to this and what did you do about it? For a modest fee... I'll come out to Dallas and put a dead fish on his door step, half-ass wrapped in the obituary section of the Times....[8D] Hey, Ranger! That post I liked! ; ) TM - The Ranger Thank you Texas Maam... Every once-in-awhile, my Sicilian blood gets the best of me{And the worst} Wink - The Ranger

mons -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/22/2006 2:37:34 AM)
hello i had two things that scare me silly, the first one was a bill collector now mind this the bill was paid he became the nightmare of nightmares, i had one phone at this time thiswas many yearsago he would call and i try to reason with him but he call me names and would leave the phone where it was on and could notcall out he know where i live i was scare toleave my home ihad to call the phone company who put a trap on my phone i had to call the police i worked at a school and this made it a special thing i was under the public school protection he was so unbalnce that they were scare he wouldcome to the school he curse and made the secreaty cry so he would not stop until they trace him and the police when he is now under the watchful of the collection agency so if he call mefor any reason i can sue him and the company he was working for and get this he was fired and all that time he was harshing me he never worked there. my secod was when i thought and test out if i were asubmissve i had one dom who terror me to take him he would not leavealone i ask andplead but he would say he had myheart first and all of the things that scare me to the point where i was unable toget online this to was many years ago and i wasso new i was lolscare to say no to him if i went into a room he would follow me i amstronger now but then i wasconfuse and scare i finaly put him < and i did not know i had it but the place where you can put that person scream name and then they cannot im or email you so i did this but he would still bein the room screaming at me i am lucky i am a gift of knowing when someone is a danger to me, it sound strange but it has helped me so many times i can tell hwo is agood person and i been wrong one time in 10 years. now you need to call the police or you service provider it is a crime to tthreaten stalk, any number of things online there is a departemt in each city that handle this for you dont innroge him. have you phone if he is using it trapped called the phone company first then they wil give you special number then when you have it call the phone company then you can have a trap for up to 19 days and they will find him. now i think anyone who does this is sick ass &*^% and they need to know they can not get away with this then go to your service prodvir and get his name theywill cut off his account iwish you luck mons P.s. i am dyslexic my spelling and word placement it not well so bare with me i try very hard

SlavenationArmy -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/25/2006 7:45:23 AM)
Thanks for the reply. I did send an email to the moderators and reported one or two of his emails to me. This is only a request, as I know how hard it is to maintain a website this large, but I feel the reporting system needs a little work. Instead of a few pre-chosen infractions listed on the report feature, would you consider a textarea where the user can better explain their grievances? This means more work on your end, reading every grievance that comes along, but it also will allow the user to put the problem in centext and allow you to make more informed decisions. The other thing is, for each "report" it would be nice to have a copy of it in my sent folder. It can be very useful to have a record for every report made, and in my case it would be nice to have that documentation for legal reasons. My 2 cents. BTW - the leak of my personal information came from my slave's family. This information was provided to them so they had a means of getting in touch with me or my slave while she was with me. How this guy became familiar with her family and why the hell her relations thought it was OK to give away my personal information, I may never know... but I am also looking into the legal situation with that (with little or no hope for resolution). quote: ORIGINAL: ModeratorThree For the record, I have not recieved any email in regard to this situation, and have yet to hear from another Moderator that has. I am sorry that you have gone through this, however CM.com does not share any information about it's users. I just wanted to make that clear, in case some mistakenly believe your id was somehow obtained from the site. The information was gathered in another way, either directly from you or indirectly from someone you shared it with on another occasion. This is also another reason we do not allow personal email or other information in your signature lines. To try to protect the users, if you choose to share it via site email with others then it is up to the user to be sure the person they share with is trustworthy and reputable. The reason we offer on site email and the chat is so that you can in fact determine if you desire to give out any personal information. This is to protect the members of the site from unwanted harrasment. I wish you luck with this situation and hopefully the harrasment will cease. If you need anything further or have questions please do not hesitate to contact me or another Moderator on the other side. Mod3

MHOO314 -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/25/2006 6:29:44 PM)
sounds to Me, you leaked too much too soon and if it was My slave--a good beating is in order--

MistressDREAD -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/26/2006 2:24:36 AM)
quote: I wonder what other actions I might take based on others experience. _____________________________ + SlavenationArmy + Sik another PSYCHOPATH on him like Me [:D] Meet Me on the other side and do tell some details I can work off of.

candystripper -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/26/2006 3:21:34 AM)
i have been hacked --a generic term -- three times, each disappointed suitors. Once in a vanilla chat forum, and i had PLENTY of information on him but did not pursue it. He entered my business email and added 3rd party billing to my phone & cable bills, but the companies cleared it up and have now got passwords and fraud alerts. This is what i have learned from all this -- threats must be direct, immediate, and specifically speak of physical harm. They must be accompanied by a photo of you at home, etc., to establish that the hacker is preparing to physically harm you. In such an event, after much who-ra, you may get a restraining order, which will probably only make things worse. And they can rarely be served since no one knows where the hacker is. The law enforcement agencies -- Secret Service, FBI, and local law enforcement -- will act if a theft of $25,000 occurs. Thefts of lower amounts may also inspire action. But if you think they'll handle harrassment, no matter how annoying, think again. Get a decent firewall; do not give out too much personal information; report threats of harm to CM; and if necessary, abandon Yr ID's and get new ones. Sorry but in my experience, no one's looking out for you but you. candystripper

Arpig -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/26/2006 5:06:28 AM)
I haven't the time to read through all the responses this morning, so this may already have been suggested. Contact your ISP. They can block that person from being able to contact you (or anybody else on that same ISP (at least from their home computer...not much can be done about them using a different computer/account. You can also contact their ISP, the info gained from the full headers option can be used by them to figure out who it is. I work for an ISP, and happen to know that we do cancel the accounts of people who engage in illegal activity with their account...and last I heard, threatening bodily harm is illegal.

Lordandmaster -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/26/2006 10:09:15 AM)
The one time I had a real phone-harassment/stalker situation, I went to the police, and they put an end to it very quickly. They found out who she was and told her to stop what she was doing, or she'd go to jail. Funny how so many psychos start to act nice and rational as soon as they're threatened with real consequences.

xxblushesxx -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/28/2006 1:44:25 AM)
But, LAM I WAS being nice in the first place...remember?!!! sheesh... send a guy some e-mails...call him a few thousand times, and all of a sudden you're a stalker!! sheesh!! (you know you really liked my calls...I could tell. You were saying 'no, no' but your voice...your voice was saying 'yes...oh please..yes!') g it's my lie...I'll tell it the way I want to!

SlavenationArmy -> RE: first class, grade-A psychopath... and what to do with them (1/28/2006 8:25:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MHOO314 sounds to Me, you leaked too much too soon and if it was My slave--a good beating is in order-- Maybe, probably I did give her relatives too much info. But I don't think I can be faulted for trying to be safe with my girl. Her closest relatives or people she trusts should be notified on how to reach either of us in case of an emergency. It just bit me in the butt this time. Punishing her for what her relatives have done isn't right either, IMO. It wasn't her fault.

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