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housemouseinoz -> Question on Protocol (2/16/2009 11:19:09 PM)
i would like to ask a question of the Doms on the board please. Being quite new to the lifestyle and also to this site, i am unsure about making contact with others. i have created my profile, and it stated that i am in a 24/7 relationship with my Dom and He is also a member of this site. today i got a personal message from a Dom saying he would like to get to know me better, he was interested in my profile, we could be friends and then take it from there......perhaps i am old fashioned.....but being as my profile states what type of relationship i am in, i thought it was quite disrespectful to my Dom and also myself. i have not ticked any of the many boxs that are there obviously to give more information about ourselves, and perhaps that is something i should do and be more clear about so others know what i want and what i don't want. i had a look to see what posts this Dom had posted to the boards and he hasn't, so he may be a tyre kicker for all i know. would him sending me the original message and the content be classed as disrespectful........that's my question :-) Thank you for taking the time to read my post housemouseinoz

NormalOutside -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/16/2009 11:22:12 PM)
No, I don't think it's disrespectful necessarily. Perhaps he was just spamming every female submissive inbox he could find, and therefore is more of a spamming asshat than a disrespectful dominant. It's pretty common for people to spam everyone that is even remotely suitable for them, and hope to get 1 or 2 replies. Sad tactic, but that's how it goes on websites where it's free to sign up and even free to send messages. I would (personally) block the sender, don't reply, and inform your dominant. But I'm not you, so you'll have to make your own decision there.

GreedyTop -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/16/2009 11:30:41 PM)
chances are the guy didnt bother to read your profile at all. I've been on CM for a while, just got married to my Dom (which is stated in HUGE, BRIGHTLY COLORED LETTERS at the top of my profile....) and I still get those emails... I usually just laugh and delete. If I'm feeling snarky..I reply in a snarky manner.

FelineFae -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/16/2009 11:31:05 PM)
that isn't likely to be the last c-mail you will get like that. we all get them. subs get letters from people want to be dom'd. doms get letters from people asking if they are will lick some womans boots. block them and it'll all be fine. hope this helps- feline

came4U -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/17/2009 12:09:01 AM)
If mails are that disturbing to you, make a couples profile and state that you are the one using it. If anyone still writes they obviously didn't view it or they want to be a third. Nothing you can do about that, except turn off pm's from males, females and couples and never check your bulk mail folder.

Focus50 -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/17/2009 1:54:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: housemouseinoz i would like to ask a question of the Doms on the board please. Being quite new to the lifestyle and also to this site, i am unsure about making contact with others. i have created my profile, and it stated that i am in a 24/7 relationship with my Dom and He is also a member of this site. today i got a personal message from a Dom saying he would like to get to know me better, he was interested in my profile, we could be friends and then take it from there......perhaps i am old fashioned.....but being as my profile states what type of relationship i am in, i thought it was quite disrespectful to my Dom and also myself. i have not ticked any of the many boxs that are there obviously to give more information about ourselves, and perhaps that is something i should do and be more clear about so others know what i want and what i don't want. i had a look to see what posts this Dom had posted to the boards and he hasn't, so he may be a tyre kicker for all i know. would him sending me the original message and the content be classed as disrespectful........that's my question :-) Thank you for taking the time to read my post housemouseinoz Well I just had a quick squiz at your profile and even though you may not have ticked "any of the many boxs that are there", you have volunteered the most relevant information for horn geeks. IE, you're female, submissive and apparently have a heart beat. What you do is accept that geek mail is a fact of life for females and the best way to deal with it is to forget about who's much mighty dom or master etc and treat them with the same respect that they treat you. It doesn't matter what you put in your profile; most geeks don't read beyond "female" - another fact of Net life! Unless you get off on being slave to your keyboard, you don't indulge rude or uninvested timewasting arseholes. It's not hard to spot sincere and respectful mail once you get past the "profile" (Master, Sir, Lord etc) protocol bullshit - just keep it simple and do what you'd do with any everyday person who you feel is disrespecting you or your relationship.... Good luck. Focus.

IronBear -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/17/2009 5:41:17 AM)
Daily I get emails from females from Africa, Europe, UK and the USA swearing they will servemefaithfully or wanting to getto know me.Since it clearly states in my profile that I live in Australia and a possible slave is required to live close by and that I will not ship her here, it is a reasonable bet that they haven't read my profile at all. If they have a decent profile I'll respond briefly respond, commenting on the profile and reminding her where I live. Others I simply block the sender and delete the message. My time on line is curtailed by life and I choose to get the best out of that time.

VeryNastyDom -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/17/2009 7:51:28 AM)
Most people do not read profiles - period. I at least skim them from top to bottom, and I never contact a sub who is in an existing relationship unless the profile clearly states that the sub is looking and open to new experiences and partners. I do think that contacting a sub who has expressed that she is owned in her profile shows disrespect. That said, it is perfectly OK to contact others in the lifestyle for friendship purposes or to get more information about the local scene, etc. However, the first email needs to be clear on what it is that you are looking for.

hopeful68 -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/17/2009 8:15:31 AM)
collar me is full of trolls.. fact of life.. a lot of disrespect on this site.. a lot of men just looking to use and abuse.. sad fact.

KatyLied -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/17/2009 8:20:52 AM)
I think you should reply to him and engage him in lengthy conversations. Tease him, play with him, then block him, but only after you've had some fun.

SirTIEandTeaseU -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/17/2009 12:19:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied I think you should reply to him and engage him in lengthy conversations. Tease him, play with him, then block him, but only after you've had some fun. Not that I would condone a submissive to do that, but I have to tell you, I burst out laughing at the idea. (after you've had some fun). Classic... Great Post! Take care, SirTIEandTeaseU PS - To the op, simply block and move on, no reason to even reply. And inform your Dom as well, or ask him what to do? Because it will happen again. Was the other Dom who wrote it disrespectful, yes if it was stated on your profile, he should not have done it, but as others have stated, this site is full of asshats who will desperately send off a mail to anyone they perceive to have a pulse. Best of Luck.

MyWorldCT -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/17/2009 12:27:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied I think you should reply to him and engage him in lengthy conversations. Tease him, play with him, then block him, but only after you've had some fun. ... and also send him some pictures that you farm online and tell him that those pictures are of you. Make him drool and let his tongue hang-out before you slam his mouth shut on his nasty, dripping tongue!!! [sm=evil.gif] <--- me OR... just block the loser... your choice [sm=microwave.gif]

IronBear -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/17/2009 2:58:36 PM)
Weh some one starts getting too pushy and demandsmyphone number. I give them: Dial a preyer Dial Legal Aid Dial a Satanist Dial a Politician For the US person I give them 202-456-1414. People who do get my phone nukmber get first my mobile (cell) number and later the home number. Both have security attached. Suprising how many do not understand the simple word NO. "N" for nyet and "O" for ouch when my foor connects wi[:D]th their posterior..

barelynangel -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/17/2009 4:30:51 PM)
If all you are here for is the message boards and you aren't looking for anything, you can always hide your profile and put the relevant info in your signature so people see it on posts. People are able to send you c-mail through the pm part on the lower left hand corner of your posted message on here and you can send cmail to profiles or people if you wish and they can respond to you if you initiate a cmail to them. Then you don't have to worry about trollers looking through profiles and sending a hey baby, do you like fat dudes with no money emails to every female profile they encounter. Otherwise you will just have to put up with it. Its not a question of people being disrespectful, its a question of acknowledging you get all types of people here. If you are going to worry about people being disrespectful, you are in for a rude awakening lol even on the message boards. angel

antipode -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/17/2009 6:24:16 PM)
Block. There are plenty of trolls.

micah1 -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/18/2009 11:19:46 PM)
It was very disrespectful of him.....period do not respond amend your profile to say that you are not allowed to talk, IM or email other Doms and if any want to talk to you they need the permission of your Dom give your Dom my compliments.....even new, you understand ....respect

BondageBarbieX -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/19/2009 3:31:31 AM)
A lot of the Doms do not even read the profile...probably this one didn't either.

Leonidas -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/19/2009 3:39:17 AM)
I think you were mislead about the statement on the home page that this is a "BDSM" community. There's a BDSM community here, but it's smack dab in the middle of an internet site that has pictures of naked girls on it who seem like they might like to fuck. It's fair to say that 90% of the men here are here for that reason alone. As with any internet "sex personals" site, the sexually desparate are going to write to anyone with a profile who is (roughly) female. They don't care about, or even read, your profile. You have a pussy, and they'd like to use it, if you wouldn't mind. Or, if that's not possible, if you could at least flirt a little and pretend like you might let them use it, they'll take matters into their own hands, and be most appreciative. Hope that helps.

Usako -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/19/2009 3:59:13 PM)
Protocol smotocol...it's a bloody e-mail. Why over think things? If you didn't like it then delete and move on. The same way you would an unwanted e-mail in your yahoo or hotmail folder.

GreedyTop -> RE: Question on Protocol (2/19/2009 4:30:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Leonidas I think you were mislead about the statement on the home page that this is a "BDSM" community. There's a BDSM community here, but it's smack dab in the middle of an internet site that has pictures of naked girls on it who seem like they might like to fuck. It's fair to say that 90% of the men here are here for that reason alone. As with any internet "sex personals" site, the sexually desparate are going to write to anyone with a profile who is (roughly) female. They don't care about, or even read, your profile. You have a pussy, and they'd like to use it, if you wouldn't mind. Or, if that's not possible, if you could at least flirt a little and pretend like you might let them use it, they'll take matters into their own hands, and be most appreciative. Hope that helps. Brilliant!!

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