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Voodali -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/17/2009 1:13:18 PM)

Not a good idea at all...though I'm surprised you have any trouble finding financial domination in real life from any number of experienced ladies here.  It seems most boys are complaining that financial domination is all they can get....




slavemick63 -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/17/2009 1:24:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Voodali

Not a good idea at all...though I'm surprised you have any trouble finding financial domination in real life from any number of experienced ladies here.  It seems most boys are complaining that financial domination is all they can get....
  Well,you are right,I dare say their will be a lot of Women who will take my money off me,but,I dont want to give it just anyone,it has to be the right one.




Lockit -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/17/2009 1:36:56 PM)

Slavemick, you were wondering about stealth domination... now wondering if you could do this.  Now you say it has to be the right one.  What constitutes the right one?




slavemick63 -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/17/2009 1:44:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Slavemick, you were wondering about stealth domination... now wondering if you could do this.  Now you say it has to be the right one.  What constitutes the right one?
You know what Lockit,you have hit it on the head..what constitutes the right one..I think honestly I am trying to get a relationship with female friends I know personally,or I imagine and fantisise a relationship with them.




dreamysubmale -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/17/2009 1:48:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: slavemick63

I need advice.I enjoy some financial domination,but not to the point were it will ruin me,but enough for it to make it hurt so to speak.I am a 45 year old male and I like the bratty princess type to dominate me financially.Now my mate has a 22 year old daughter who sometimes I will buy stuff for.The other day she said to me,' its about time you got me something as You havnt spent anything on me for a while'...Now,does anyone thing I could possibly offer her money every week...for absolutley nothing in return,but sort of let her know it is a fetish for me..Surely she wouldnt mind taking the cash ?



That sounds creepy…sounds like thoughts of a dirty old man. It is your mate’s daughter. How the hell can you have such thoughts about his daughter? He obviously trusts you by letting you into his house. Why would you want to break that trust by acting like a thief? What’s next?

I’ve read some of your previous posts, and you come across as a manipulator. And as a father of two teenage daughters, I don’t know what I would do to someone that harbors such thoughts towards them. But I can assure you it won’t be pleasant.

My apologies to other posters if my post seem a bit harsh.




Lockit -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/17/2009 1:58:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: slavemick63

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Slavemick, you were wondering about stealth domination... now wondering if you could do this.  Now you say it has to be the right one.  What constitutes the right one?
You know what Lockit,you have hit it on the head..what constitutes the right one..I think honestly I am trying to get a relationship with female friends I know personally,or I imagine and fantisise a relationship with them.


You are hungry... too hungry.  It is going to hurt you as it is making you think things would be cool, that actually could harm yourself and other's.  That is too hungry.  You are projecting things into situations with people who have no part in this, or knowledge and then coming close to taking actions on these projections.

You really need to step back and examine what you are doing.  We all get hungry... we all want or feel we need something or other... we all are not compulsive about it to the point of maybe risking harm to relationships and our live's. 

This hungry... it doesn't take anyone special to fit your need... it just takes someone you know and enteract with and in your fantasy it is a done deal.. you just need to solidify the deal.  Before you ruin things... you need to figure out why you are willing to justify so much and take such risks.




Voodali -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/17/2009 2:17:04 PM)

I don't fault you for your kink at all.  I don't even think there's anything wrong with preferring a younger domme, so long as she's of legal age.  I just think its very foolish to chose this particular girl, because of who she is, and because a friend is something you can't necessarily afford to lose.  The other thing that worries me is that she may not understand the kinky nature of your offerings.  In my mind that makes it somewhat non consensual.  Maybe you should work trying to befriend some people who are already dommes, and then you could have that personal connection before bringing up the financial thing.  I do understand that often the thing we're most attracted to is the thing that's least sensible.  I respect that.  I'd just hate to see you mess up your relationships or worse.




pinkwind -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/17/2009 2:51:19 PM)

Do you think it right to embroil a young woman into your kink, just because she has already almost taken to expecting you to spend on her when she asks? Does that make it consensual? Could be seen as grooming, which i don't think is at all what you want.

Are you are looking for the right person to financially dominate you, or looking for someone to give money and gifts to that you can then fantasize into a financially dominating scenario?

If it's the latter you are going to have to be even more careful than if it were the former, because it would, to all intents and purposes be non-consensual, and you would have to keep it purely fantasy in order not to freak out the person you choose.

If it's the former then start sifting through all those responses you have already had and hope to find someone who piques your interest. But look to your motives and your methods first, be honest with yourself about what the whole of your kink actually involves before taking steps and being disappointed.

Best of luck.







antipode -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/17/2009 7:20:35 PM)

If she is leading you on, see how far you can push it - sounds like she is well aware of what is going on. Then your mate will have something to punish you for. Or maybe they'll take turns. Serves you right, with those shoes.




slavemick63 -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/18/2009 6:46:21 AM)

Its seems I have hit a nerve here with some people..She is a 22 year old Woman,who has her own place,who just happens to be my friends daughter.




SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/18/2009 11:09:34 AM)

~FR~
 
I think this is one of those times the saying "don't mess in your nest" applies.  I'm sure the young lady is lovely and you might think it's safe with her because she's your friend's daughter.  However, IMO, you're trying to get your kink on with someone a little too close to home.  I doubt your friend is going to be comfortable with it.  The girl might see it as fun and amusing at first, but unless she's also kinky, eventually she's going to start feeling like you're a creepy, stalker-ish sort of bloke.  My advice is to find a partner who can give informed consent to fulfilling your kink who is a bit further removed than this young lady. 




LaTigresse -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/18/2009 11:12:47 AM)

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ORIGINAL: slavemick63

I need advice.I enjoy some financial domination,but not to the point were it will ruin me,but enough for it to make it hurt so to speak.I am a 45 year old male and I like the bratty princess type to dominate me financially.Now my mate has a 22 year old daughter who sometimes I will buy stuff for.The other day she said to me,' its about time you got me something as You havnt spent anything on me for a while'...Now,does anyone thing I could possibly offer her money every week...for absolutley nothing in return,but sort of let her know it is a fetish for me..Surely she wouldnt mind taking the cash ?


Raising hand high!! Oh oh oh ohhh!!! I would be happy to figure out how to set up an account for you to deposit money into!!

Seriously dude, you are asking for some mega trouble here. Mega trouble. As in your buddy wanting to kill you, trouble.




FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/18/2009 3:19:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
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ORIGINAL: slavemick63
I need advice.I enjoy some financial domination,but not to the point were it will ruin me,but enough for it to make it hurt so to speak.I am a 45 year old male and I like the bratty princess type to dominate me financially.Now my mate has a 22 year old daughter who sometimes I will buy stuff for.The other day she said to me,' its about time you got me something as You havnt spent anything on me for a while'...Now,does anyone thing I could possibly offer her money every week...for absolutley nothing in return,but sort of let her know it is a fetish for me..Surely she wouldnt mind taking the cash ?


Raising hand high!! Oh oh oh ohhh!!! I would be happy to figure out how to set up an account for you to deposit money into!!

Seriously dude, you are asking for some mega trouble here. Mega trouble. As in your buddy wanting to kill you, trouble.
I know LaT...   There are 5000 financial dominants in the world, but he gets off by being taken by his friend's 22yo; how cute (or creepy) is that?  

You didn't really hit a nerve slavemick63, it's more that you sound incredibly common, and dishonest, but I may be wrong.    M




MissDaisy6767 -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/18/2009 6:51:37 PM)

Financial domination is something I don't quite understand. Tributes are something I don't understand either. I would never require such things. On the other hand, if one were to willingly and voluntarily wish to give Me a gift, I would definitely receive it graciously and be thankful.
I like to give as much as I like to receive. I had a slave once who gave Me lovely gifts, thoughtful gifts and I did the same in return. Its a pleasure to pamper, just as its a  pleasure to be pampered.





LadyConstanze -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/20/2009 2:50:47 PM)


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ORIGINAL: marie2

 I wouldn't mix the fetish with the daughter.  No way. 

But I'm not clear on something, do you engage in the financial fetish thing with the "mate"?



Absolutely, leave the daughter out, if he feels like he has to indulge in it, how about talking with the partner, if the partner doesn't like it, heck, plenty of women (or not) online who enjoy that....




Tavane -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/20/2009 5:26:25 PM)

I wouldn't care much for a young woman who had no romantic interest in me, and whose interest in me seemed to be centered around how often I bought her things. What kind of person is that? It's great when you are a couple. My ex-girlfriend loved the phrase "Buy me buy me buy me!" She'd say that quite often and laugh. She was shameless about it, and we laughed so much about that and other stuff.

I'd love to be in a relationship where I turned over all my income to my mistress, and only had what money she permitted me to have, if any. That's incredibly exciting, and embraces some actual slavery, since  you can't do anything or go anywhere without money (thus the permission of your mistress), as a matter of reality.

That would need to be in the context of a continual and mutual mistress-slave relationship, though. I note many mistresses (as opposed to pro doms whose main goal is to make money), aren't too interested in this. It's part and parcel of being a service submissive, for me, but seems to be attractive to other subs, too, perhaps because it is so realistically slavish. Let's face it, there are many types of male slavery, but all of them are worthwhile.




LadyConstanze -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/20/2009 5:50:43 PM)

I think it is whatever floats somebody's boat, if you do have a relationship and you are open about wanting to be dominated financially, I think it is significantly different than involving a young girl into it. I wouldn't say that it's something I would be looking for, but if my partner would tell me he gets off on it, that's a different story and I possibly would really get into it in a big way like "Oh you want to eat something else than rice today? Earn it, here's the ironing...." But I would only enjoy it if it was 100% consensual or else I would really feel like a parasite leeching off, not a thing that does turn me on!




MsDDom -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/20/2009 7:19:54 PM)

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Now,does anyone thing I could possibly offer her money every week...for absolutley nothing in return,but sort of let her know it is a fetish for me..Surely she wouldnt mind taking the cash ?


ummm...huh?
i think u can answer that one on ur own. u entered that situation and fueled the "fire"...why do u think it would have been different?




Tavane -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/20/2009 9:12:57 PM)

LadyConstanze: It's not a parasite thing, but rather a 24/7 total control thing which is so incredibly exciting to some slaves. You can bank the money for the slave if you want, though it's a pleasure to know the mistress is buying stuff for herself instead of you with money you earn for her. Ownership means exactly that. The mistress owns everything the slave works for, and I'm sure lots of slaves would appreciate it if the mistress accepted that, and enjoyed it. There isn't much point in buying much for the slave, when the slave would prefer she buy stuff for herself. That shouldn't be too hard to accept for a mistress, once she understands that, and how much pleasure it gives the slave (assuming she enjoys giving the slave pleasure when  it is easy for her to do so). She gets two incomes, which is a practical benefit, especially if she enjoys the things which money can buy, and the slave get the pleasure of seeing these things he knows she could buy for herself with money he worked for. I'd certainly love that, and not being able to buy anything without her permission, since she has all the money. I dont know how common that is, but it's very exciting to think about. 




dreamysubmale -> RE: Financial Domiantion (2/20/2009 10:16:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Tavane

LadyConstanze: It's not a parasite thing, but rather a 24/7 total control thing which is so incredibly exciting to some slaves. You can bank the money for the slave if you want, though it's a pleasure to know the mistress is buying stuff for herself instead of you with money you earn for her. Ownership means exactly that. The mistress owns everything the slave works for, and I'm sure lots of slaves would appreciate it if the mistress accepted that, and enjoyed it. There isn't much point in buying much for the slave, when the slave would prefer she buy stuff for herself. That shouldn't be too hard to accept for a mistress, once she understands that, and how much pleasure it gives the slave (assuming she enjoys giving the slave pleasure when  it is easy for her to do so). She gets two incomes, which is a practical benefit, especially if she enjoys the things which money can buy, and the slave get the pleasure of seeing these things he knows she could buy for herself with money he worked for. I'd certainly love that, and not being able to buy anything without her permission, since she has all the money. I dont know how common that is, but it's very exciting to think about. 



Have you thought what legal ramifications this might have in the future? Not so much to you but to the person agreed to claim your earnings? Just asking




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