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Discpline - 1/18/2006 2:11:13 PM

littleone35

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Greetings Mistresses i posted a similar thing in the sub fourm but i think asking mistresses may be better. i am a sub but my husband is about 50 lbs over weight and we read something on diet discpline. When he gets paddled 3 times a week if he gains weight or does nor lose. he does not like the paddling. I cook healthy food but i don't know what he eats in work. If i don't feed him he will just eat anyway and i cannot make him eat anything he don't like. Do you have any advice on another form of displine that may work?

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RE: Discpline - 1/18/2006 2:45:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: littleone35

Greetings Mistresses i posted a similar thing in the sub fourm but i think asking mistresses may be better. i am a sub but my husband is about 50 lbs over weight and we read something on diet discpline. When he gets paddled 3 times a week if he gains weight or does nor lose. he does not like the paddling. I cook healthy food but i don't know what he eats in work. If i don't feed him he will just eat anyway and i cannot make him eat anything he don't like. Do you have any advice on another form of displine that may work?

littleone

The only thing changed here is the location, the advice won't change.

Your profile indicates you are a submissive and he isnt in the lifestyle, why would he submit to paddling?

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RE: Discpline - 1/18/2006 2:45:55 PM

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I cook healthy food but i don't know what he eats in work. If i don't feed him he will just eat anyway and i cannot make him eat anything he don't like. Do you have any advice on another form of displine that may work?

littleone
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no. i am no Ma'am.
yes. i understand your part in this.
love, caring, worry, ..et cetera....

hmm
what to do?
i am unsure BUT......does this hubby like paddling n such...and he doesnt change much coz of it..

or

is he stuck in a hole..like so many ladies..doing the dieting-thing...cant lose no matter what he does?
are there ANY local clubs he can afford to go to..for a program there?
how about doctor's advice?

i really do not know.
i myself found out i gained 40 lbs in 6 months..and am waiting for warmer weather..so i can start a walking program..and start using Her equipment in the house...
just too cold in here AND outside to be down to my skivvies exercising...

i wish you luck
take care
best wishes

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RE: Discpline - 1/18/2006 3:15:23 PM

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he submits to it because he thinks it may work.

To add to my post he has been checked out by a dr and dr can't find any medical reason he should not be able to lose weight.

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RE: Discpline - 1/18/2006 3:51:31 PM

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Why don't you both exercise together...? Go for walks..... maybe do a little up-hill walking in the woods.. or in some open grass area (depending on where you live).. or shovel together... have a snow fight... move... (edit: by move i mean exercise - of course)

Maybe take a swim aerobics class at the YMCA...? it's low impact and not "sweaty" so it can be nice and since it's indoors it can be done all year round.

Eating healthier won't necessarily make you lose weight (if you eat 10 bran muffins in place of 10 cupcakes it's really not going to do much to help you drop the pounds.. you know?)... ~ not that i'm the fitness queen... but i'm working on losing weight myself and am just suggesting things that might work.

On an aside.. about the spanking.. Maybe he needs to get more than 3 spanks a day? .. maybe they need to be harder... or less fun.... and last until maybe he actually cries. ~ if that might really work... though... i kind of wonder if maybe he "likes" being spanked.... even if he denies it to you... 'cause if he really disliked it i can't see why he wouldn't have lost at least a little weight (a pound or two) so far. ~ then again, maybe he has lost some... you didn't actually say....

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RE: Discpline - 1/18/2006 4:12:38 PM

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Ragdoll the swimming is a great idea he does like to swim. I should have been more clear he has lost 3 pounds i guess i am just looking to make him lose it more wuickly he is 59 and his dad had heart attack at 63 i don;t want the same thing to happen to him. it still may happen but if he is in better shape he has less of a chance. At least i think so.

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RE: Discpline - 1/18/2006 6:26:35 PM

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i know how you feel...my fiance is overweight and getting him to stick to a diet is hard as hell. i don't think paddling would work though

. We've tried to stick to a couple of different diets. i just keep trying to throw out the majorly bad junk food (sweets and stuff). maybe try and get rid of the junk food as soon as he buys it? or throw out leftover pizza, etc. instead of it becoming a meal for several days.

i agree exercise together..we just started going to a local rec center to work out together...its helpful motivation, or try to do fun, physical activities together (hiking, biking, volunteer work).

does he understand how worried you are about it, and just lacks the motivation to stick to it? if he cares about how you feel about it, you may have the leeway to push it more.

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RE: Discpline - 1/18/2006 11:32:27 PM

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I should have been more clear he has lost 3 pounds i guess i am just looking to make him lose it more wuickly

Your concern for him is probably warranted, but only "he" can make the choice to make the necessary changes. Your support is wonderful, but "he" needs to decide for himself to lose weight. You're wanting him to lose weight may not be enough for him right now.

Losing weight "quickly" is not the way to keep it off. "Losing" weight is quite easy...it's "keeping it off" that is difficult. If you want him to lose weight, and be healthy, it might help if you both educate yourself on nutrition, and begin a fun exercise program. Don't work to get him on a "diet"...maybe work with him to make lifestyle changes.

Paddling someone for not following a diet usually only creates resentment and a red bottom...it won't curtail eating, in the long run (and in spankos, it might actually prompt MORE eating

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RE: Discpline - 1/19/2006 10:07:26 PM

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Why don't you both exercise together...? Go for walks..... maybe do a little up-hill walking in the woods.. or in some open grass area (depending on where you live).. or shovel together... have a snow fight... move... (edit: by move i mean exercise - of course)

Great advice..... But it only works if he's really up for taking off the pounds. If he's a real slouch, then it's gonna take a near life-altering event to get him to change his ways {especially if you're cooking and cleaning for him}. Once someone turns into a couch potato, it's hard as hell to get them off their lazy ass.

Best of luck to you.

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RE: Discpline - 1/20/2006 6:13:49 PM

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he submits to it because he thinks it may work.

To add to my post he has been checked out by a dr and dr can't find any medical reason he should not be able to lose weight.

Check his wallet for receipts from McDonalds and his lunch pail for evedence of twinkies.

Unless he is provided the correct things to eat (only good things available) and they are in his lunch you're not setting him up for success. Either he wants this or not, pushing when you have no idea what he's doing after he leaves the house is how he's dieting and gaining weight.

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