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MARIEL -> SEX!! (2/21/2009 3:24:23 PM)

Thoughts from my other thread leading me to ask you, how many experience/had experienced orders concerning webcam sex or showing your self off,when talking to a potential Dom from the very first beginning?
I am NOT used to that, so Im asking you



RCdc -> RE: SEX!! (2/21/2009 3:34:11 PM)

If it makes you happy, and you are into exhibiting to strangers, go for it.
If you are doing it just to keep someone, it pretty much sucks.
 
Don't forget that you can be filmed and recorded - so if you wouldn't send a nude photo, don't cam.
 
Personally, I wouldn't of done it.  If that's what it takes to 'prove' my submission or anything like that, then that person just isn't for me.  And personally, it isn't 'sex' either.
 
the.dark.



InTonguesslave -> RE: SEX!! (2/21/2009 3:37:08 PM)

there are so many people out there just looking for a wank - if youre up for that then fine, but dont expect a person like that to stick around for long.

since youre not used to it and so, im going to assume here, not especially into it i think that maybe you should make youreself a personal rule, that youll only do cam/phone sex when you feel a genuine connection thats been given time to develop, but only if you want to and are comfortable. personally i wouldnt do it with anyone i hadnt already fucked and shared - it just feels a bit yukky and even more yukky with a stranger im likely never to meet.

that way youve created a standard you can explain to anyone who asks you and itll sort out the wankers from the genuines because the wankers will move on and the genuines will stick around.



SimplySoulful -> RE: SEX!! (2/21/2009 3:37:12 PM)

Seriously, I wouldnt' for a moment entertain the idea of being naked or masturbating on a webcam with anyone I had just met online. In fact, I wouldn't do it for anyone I hadn't met face to face - period. Anyone who has this expectation is just looking to get off. I think many HNG's have discovered that a lot of submissive women are easy targets for getting sexual stimulus. But these men aren't dominants, they're just users.



lovingpet -> RE: SEX!! (2/21/2009 3:39:12 PM)

To me, it is a waste of time that could be better used getting to know each other and/or having actual sex.  I am not much for random exhibitionism and definitely like to consent to my naked self being sent out into cyberspace, so I do not engage in this.  If you want to know if I am real or whatever, let's have coffee or do lunch, but I'm not going to cam for you.  I intentionally don't even own one.

lovingpet



SirMIkeSD -> RE: SEX!! (2/21/2009 3:40:06 PM)

Wanker, move on

Mike



MARIEL -> RE: SEX!! (2/21/2009 3:45:34 PM)

Thanx,that sort of hit the nail



RealSub58 -> RE: SEX!! (2/21/2009 3:51:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SirMIkeSD

Wanker, move on

Mike


Ha !!  Totally agree.
 
It's not sex, IMHO.  Give me flesh !! 
 
Seriously consider that your flesh may be taped and you'll find it somewhere on the internet.
 "I learn by going where I have to go."     
             ~~Theodore Roethke from "TheWaking"  



CatdeMedici -> RE: SEX!! (2/21/2009 5:54:35 PM)

Don't do it, don't ask for it, well there was the one time with the Kappa Delta Omega fraternity.
 



came4U -> RE: SEX!! (2/21/2009 9:18:31 PM)

I have grown children who wouldn't appreciate it if they stumble upon mama naked with a dildo on some website because some jackass recorded a cam session through yahell or any other means.

If you want to do so, go ahead, but always be aware that it can come back to haunt you someday in the future.  Is playing on a cam for some random internet dude really worth your friends and family finding? 



stella41b -> RE: SEX!! (2/21/2009 10:52:45 PM)

Some may wish to show bits wiggly and squiggly
But most you'll find prefer real jiggy jiggy..



Prinsexx -> RE: SEX!! (2/22/2009 3:15:44 AM)

How many...I have been through an addictive phase of this and run entire and what I thought were whole relationshups on webcam except that it really was just webcam and I could be anyone I liked on cam. It was quite a heady period in my life and it lead me to beieve I had real partners in all four corners of the world.
Now I don't even knopw where my web xam is.......
efited to add I don;t even know where my eyes are today please excuse te typos...



FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: SEX!! (2/22/2009 3:20:46 AM)

I don't own a webcam, and never will...   But if I were a sub, and a dom with whom I had never had actual body on body sex, asked me to have cam sex, I would think he's just another man jerking off on the net (and there are millions of em).     I find that behavior decidedly undominant, but different strokes I guess,    M



MasterBdybldr -> RE: SEX!! (2/22/2009 6:53:43 AM)

I had to stop having cam sex, it became too expensive. I cant tell you how many cams I ruined by shooting off right in to the cam...LOL!!!



pinkwind -> RE: SEX!! (2/22/2009 7:09:30 AM)

Orders? From a potential Dom? Does not compute!

First contacts, to me, are tentative, and full of nothing but words, possibly the odd 'nilla pic exchanged, but certainly nothing on the scale of s web cam show! With me that only happened infrequently with someone who had already become my Dom, did very little for both of us once we had tried it, and was quickly dropped as an activity.





sweetnurseBBW -> RE: SEX!! (2/22/2009 8:09:43 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Personally, I wouldn't of done it.  If that's what it takes to 'prove' my submission or anything like that, then that person just isn't for me.  And personally, it isn't 'sex' either.
 
the.dark.

 
Exactly!



SassySarijane -> RE: SEX!! (2/22/2009 11:12:27 AM)

I've had tons of online guys frequently in the first contact or conversation try pushing me to get on cam to prove myself female and do camsex to prove my submission. I laugh at them and then cut contact. They are wankers. What they want has nothing to do with you as an individual at all, but rather with the fact that you're female and they wanna see the naughty bits and have you act out their own personal porno episode. [8|]



nafakcha -> RE: SEX!! (2/22/2009 11:31:44 AM)

I wouldn't have ever bought a webcam if it hadn't come with my computer. I have to agree that anyone pushing for phone sex, or for me to get on cam at the very beginning of contact gets ignored pretty quickly. The one or two exceptions I have made haven't been worth it so I just don't do it. Now, if someone I am actually seeing in the flesh wants to cam that is an entirely different story. I can understand depending on the relationship dynamic, personal preferences, distances involved etc. where having a cam could be very beneficial in that case. I'd rather not waste my time with digital when I can have the real thing.

Keiko



DesFIP -> RE: SEX!! (2/22/2009 12:58:23 PM)

If you are comfortable with it, then do it. If you aren't comfortable doing it, then don't do it.

This is not a majority rules thing. Some people are exhibitionists and totally get off on anonymous cam sex. Good for them.
Some aren't and won't ever do it or discuss it beyond a flat no fucking way. Good for them.

You need to figure out where your boundaries are, what you need and what you cannot tolerate so that you can be happy. It isn't about what other people need, it's about your limits.

You've been told this in every other post you've started, when will you get it?

[sm=banghead.gif] 



serisa -> RE: SEX!! (2/22/2009 5:05:32 PM)

i would say if you are looking for fun, sex, kink, thrills... maybe a casual play partner, and if you like them then do it if you want.  If you want commitment, in a loving (BDSM type) relationship then leave it.... He wont respect you at all... at least until that time comes He owns you, should that happen... then you do as asked !!!.



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