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When a Dom says.... - 2/21/2009 6:46:34 PM   
subeos


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Status: offline 		Okay, I am no idiot, but here goes.

A few messages and a dom tells a sub/slave that he has been hit in the cock and nuts so hard he is sterile. Okay that happens to men.... then he says, I can not wear a condom because I lose sensation and my erection when having sex.  So he goes on to say, that when he does have sex it has to be without no condom. I am laughing so hard at the attempt a guy would go to for bareback......
Just my thoughts...... Perhaps he should wait to have sex till he knows someone well enough. I believe in safe sexx!

eos

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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/21/2009 6:49:36 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		or she could use a female condom...

just sayin',
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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/21/2009 6:56:40 PM   
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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/21/2009 6:58:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		I never thought about the female condom, great idea

eos

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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/21/2009 7:06:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		It could be true. I don't know the age/health of the Dom but there are things that could make his statements true. However, that does not mean you have to be willing to go without protection. The female condom option would probably have the same effect on his erection as the friction would still not be there (this is assuming he is telling the truth about his problems). So, then the option is he takes the time to get to know you without sex until the time you feel comfortable enough to pursue the sexual side because you trust him.

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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/21/2009 8:50:42 PM   
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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/21/2009 10:12:22 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I would be wondering what action caused him to be kicked in the balls in the first place.....


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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/21/2009 10:37:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		Then you have people like myself.

I have a natural allergy to Latex, it causes burning and eventually hives. So I paid the extra money for NON-latex condoms apparently ALL of them use a similar stabilizer to keep the material from falling apart under friction or lubricant interaction and that particular stabilizer causes blisters, only when it comes into contact with the Penis and only when erect when the skin is stretched to it limit, At least this is how the dermatologist and urologist explained it to me. Then they wanted to take a Semen Sample to find out if the Protien content of my semen was causing the issue that perhaps the precum is what was setting off the reaction. So I sent my little soldiers on a worthless voyage into a cup and 3 weeks later was requested to come back for another sample to do a full motility workup as they were having issues with my first sample in determining the problem. I did the deed and another three weeks later I was asked to come in for an exam.

THEY STUCK A CAMERA IN MY PENIS!!!!! It was Painful and the nurse was attractive…… like Porn Star Attractive…. And she was angry with me because the mounting erection was making her job difficult and more over causing me more pain. What they discovered was what they assumed was the possible creation of a hypospadias which is usually a strange placement of the urethra. Instead what I had was a Kink in the tubes. So my little minnows got a raging waters ride causing sever damage to most of my guys. Basically they hit a couple of walls head on before making their exit. The motility of my sperm was Grade 1 motility where the vast majority of my sperm failed to move at all. I was told that the odds of me having children were going to be very slim to the point of being less than possible at all. However they did warn me that I was still young and that over time it could correct itself and the it only took one sperm out of the Billions upon Billions to make a baby.

I went about my young life without a care in the world. No one ever got pregnant and so I continued on with my stupidity. Fast forward to Now I am 28 and I have two children both of which were confirmed by DNA….. I mean come on I wasn’t supposed to be able to have kids.

There are Excuses and there are reasons, either which way each and every person is responsible for their own actions. No one else is to blame for our own stupid mistakes, if you don’t protect yourself you only have yourself to blame when things don’t go the way you planned. And then you have other times when the unexpected is the best thing that could ever happen to you.

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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/21/2009 11:51:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		sounds like he's making excuses, pretty juvenile excuses actually.  there might be some truth to it, but i'd be careful about testing before becoming fluid bonded. 

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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/22/2009 1:08:46 AM   
persephonee


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Of all the issues with unprotected sex, a pregnancy is last on my list of negatives...but still.

*edited to add this is a fast reply*

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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/22/2009 1:25:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		In the interest of disclosure I suppose these are good things to mention up front, but his saying he won't fuck with a condom on doesn't mean he gets his way.  I actually prefer not using condoms myself, and have had lovers insist on using them even when I felt it was perfectly wise not to do so.  I can't imagine asking someone I cared for to not use a condom when he felt better using one, whatever his reasons, but especially because the risk of disease and/or pregnancy is incredibly daunting.  In lieu of condoms, did he say he was willing to wait at least 6 months, remain celibate, and undergo a regular panel of screenings for disease?

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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/22/2009 1:56:36 AM   
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Sounds like BS to me.  Testing and safer sex or no sex with you.
 
And Steel, however do you find yourself in such situations?!  That reads like a movie script.

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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/22/2009 2:37:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		What he said could very well be true. Some men have problems with orgasms/erections while wearing a condom and he could very well be sterile. Is it true? We'll probably never know. It could just be an attempt to have sex without one, or it could be genuine. If it was genuine though, one would think he'd be willing to be tested at the least to put minds at ease.

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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/22/2009 3:23:14 AM   
InTonguesslave


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Status: offline 		have you ever tried a female condom its awful.

i have a similar problem in that the feel of rubber dries me up.  lube and lots of it is the key - so he could be telling the truth.  but i would think, weighing the whole sterile thing up - if he gets away with that - it would be like stepping into an STD clinics specimen cooler and wiggling your ass deep down into it and then waiting ten minutes for them all to make themselves at home.  you could have a cup of tea while you waited and it would avoid the awkward shuffle for underpants and car keys afterwards.

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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/22/2009 3:46:21 AM   
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Get 'em tested for STDs and then try lambskin condoms. It's thinner and allows for more sensation, protects against baby-making but not STDs.

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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/22/2009 4:07:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		Plausible--getting hit, yeah. Not using a condom, nope sorry--not with all the advances in ED. Its a ploy IMHO---screams lazy purveyor of STD's.

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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/22/2009 5:16:16 AM   
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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/22/2009 6:29:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		When I was 15, I was masturbating outside in the woods one time and wouldnt you know, just my luck I caught a case of poison ivy in the "you know where" area and now Im sterile because of it. On top of that, ever since then Ive had these rather large blisters and warts on that area as well, they are so big there are no condoms big enough to fit over them, even the MAGNUMS dont do it. So yeah, we're can only have unprotected sex.....LOL!!!

For the record, this is completely fabricated and untrue....LOL!!!

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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/22/2009 7:16:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		There are legitimate issues with loss of sensation over time such that it makes maintaining an erection and getting sufficient stimulation with a condom very difficult.  I could also be total BS.  Unfortunately, only the man knows for sure so you have to trust your instincts on this. 

If he is in his 40's or older, it may very well be the case especially if his cock is not as hard as you expect.  If he is in his 20's and has an erection so rock hard that you could use him for a coat rack, turn up the sensivity on your bullshit detector.  Even if he is telling the truth about sensitivity, the risk of disease transmission is still there so act accordingly.

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RE: When a Dom says.... - 2/22/2009 7:19:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		The female condom is a good idea.  Like others if he says it is a true statement, you could always inform him to get the blue pill as you want to stay protected.

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