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This new guy.. - 2/22/2009 10:36:35 PM

MARIEL

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This new other guy from Turkey.. he called me.. I dont know..chance are,hes serious,after all. I dont know. Hes invited me to Turkey this summer. what are your suggestions.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/22/2009 10:44:45 PM

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Take your time and get to know him before you book the trip.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/22/2009 11:00:38 PM

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Use your common sense.

Don't be too trusting, at first.

Trust is to be earned.

Be noncommittal at first, or you'll appear desperate.

Assholes are attracted to desperation, like sharks are to blood in the water.

Make sure he shows a pattern of trustworthyness and consistency over a significant period of time, before you even begin to consider any face time with him.

Protect yourself, with all the common safety measures.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/22/2009 11:17:46 PM

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Watch "Midnight Express" at least once before you book your trip.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/22/2009 11:18:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: YoursMistress

Watch "Midnight Express" at least once before you book your trip.

yours

LOL!

True, dat.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/22/2009 11:23:25 PM

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I don't know if its just the domme in me, but I feel that the man should be making the trip if anybody does. I'm not a female supremacist, but experience teaches me that women tend to have more to lose, and that as a gender, males do have a reputation... Then again, if you're in a busy area, and only meet in public, and have your own hotel room, where is the harm ?

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/22/2009 11:44:24 PM

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I would never go to a foreign country to meet someone. Let them come to you. Unless you learned the language and the geography beforehand you would be at their mercy. Even with that much preparation you would be at their mercy.
Far better to stay where you have support and back-up should you need it.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/23/2009 4:21:37 AM

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Don't you have better things to do than waste your money like that when there is zero chance he'll be waiting at the airport to meet you? Because his mother won't want you in her home.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/23/2009 5:02:15 AM

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I expected to see someone 18 years old based on your posts here. Did you turn off your brain when you signed up here? Seriously. You have one big neon sign that says "take advantage of me" pointing right at your head.

edited to add...sorry all of you 18 year olds...didn't mean to lump you in with her.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/23/2009 5:08:46 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

quote:

ORIGINAL: YoursMistress

Watch "Midnight Express" at least once before you book your trip.

yours

LOL!

True, dat.

Have you ever been to Turkey

?

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/23/2009 5:14:26 AM

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he called you...so you are thinking of hopping on a plane to a foreign country to see a total stranger? Sweetie...slow down.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/23/2009 5:50:14 AM

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Turkey is a wonderful place and the hospitality is amazing; I have several good friends there (and no, it is not the country in Midnight Express). However, as others have suggested, take your time and get to know this guy.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/23/2009 6:01:20 AM

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quote:

what are your suggestions.

Throw caution to the wind. Write him back and tell him that you are plannig to relocate to Turkey and will move in with him upon your arrival. And yes, like others have said, if you've not watched "Midnight Express", give it a go.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/23/2009 7:57:18 AM

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I think Turkey would be a great place to go on vacation. A submissive woman going to visit "this new guy" should consider the possibility that you'll get to discover the true meaning of slavery, and not in a fun, kinky way. Be sure to write a will and make provisions for all your stuff before getting on the plane.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/23/2009 7:58:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

I expected to see someone 18 years old based on your posts here. Did you turn off your brain when you signed up here? Seriously. You have one big neon sign that says "take advantage of me" pointing right at your head.

edited to add...sorry all of you 18 year olds...didn't mean to lump you in with her.

I was shocked to see the op claims to be 37 years old. My oldest is half her age and knows a hell of a lot more.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/23/2009 8:05:31 AM

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if those conversations were anything to go by, dont go.

edited to add: if you have to ask a bunch of strangers because youre not sure, after showing us a load of unbelievably crass, clumsy diatribe from a man who clearly couldnt care less about youre welfare then you would be completely barking mad to go.

if you really have to ask us mariel and you cant answer that question for yourself, deep in your gut, in youre heart of hearts then how is our opinion going to help you when we dont know you or this man.

sit down, take a deep breath. write a list of 'for' and 'againsts' be honest, absolutely honest, because what i said in the post that got pulled is a real possibility. the way youre carrying on here youre going to find yourself in a far worse situation than being left at an airport with no money.

to be perfectly honest im still having problems believing this:

one other thing DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT allow him to give you any packages to take through customs on youre way home. and yes, be aware that there is a flourishing slave trade going on over there -

ach! - just dont go, there, my advice, for what its worth

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/23/2009 8:50:32 AM

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I have to agree with the others don't go. If anything goes wrong you will be alone in a strange country. From your posts he seems a bit unstble as least that is what i thought when i read them. If he really is interested in a relationship he should come to you. You said you can't get time off work to go see him, so you are going to quit you job to see a guy you hardly know? If you disregard all the advice you have asked for and gotton and do go, please make sure you have some money pinned in you bra(for safety) in case you need it.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/23/2009 10:35:03 AM

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Anytime I have ever been contacted by a guy from Turkey on ICQ, YIM, etc., they start either telling me how much they love me and how perfect I am for them from the first contact or they try to bully me into submitting and obeying them. First couple of times it happened I tried to be nice, tell them sorry we don't know each other, live too far apart and that a relationship is just not workable nor what I'm looking for or interested in. After dealing with some harsh, nasty, mean reactions, now I just block and ignore. I was extremely new to computers and online interaction back then. I learned quick though.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/23/2009 11:15:10 AM

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You are too hungry and are jumping at things too quickly.

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RE: This new guy.. - 2/23/2009 11:23:19 AM

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this slave wouldn't go to Turkey alone. nooooooooooooooo way. too scary.

that being said, if you find yourself in Kusadasi looking for a restaurant, the Bilal inci'nin Yeri was fantastic! Our waiter, who introduced himself as "Jimmy Sex Bomb" was very helpful and friendly. the food and the Raki were fantastic!!!

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