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Sirandlittle1 -> RE: no...no...yes...no... (1/21/2006 7:30:56 PM)
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the whole, "and if he says he fears something, it excites me even more", that works for me as a submissive. If its a play behaviour, then seeing his excitement, will excite me.
Communication of truth is the way to go. That is what a safe word traffic light system of orange is for, as in, im struggling, please help me.
But sometimes, like someone said, its not to do with trust, or anything to do with the dominant. As his submissive, i came to him at 41, with a lifetime of history and fears, some are able to be overcome because of his strength being stronger than my fears.
But some things are just too scary. And i have a promise, that he will do me no harm. I expect him to take that seriously, and not push me, when it is unwise to do so.
If after careful consideration, i seriously thought it unwise to do some behaviour, then i would safe word out with a red.
I know myself well. More so than any other could. I know when something is too difficult for me to achieve even in the long run.
I have a friend, that indulges in a play form that would crack me open i would fear, never to be repaired. If my Sir wished to play in that field with me, i would have to ask, is he truly acting in my best interests to push for this?
Is he qualified to repair my broken psyche, can he afford to support me financially if i became mentally ill from this form of using me and could not work?
There are fears, and there are fears. Some limits are hard and to be respected.
But playing with the soft limits, pushing, including fear as a part of play? it gets me hot!
little1
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