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Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 7:05:29 AM

crazyredhead1957

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Hello Sirs. i am here with a question.....i know what makes me love submitting, but.....what is it that makes it so appealling and rewarding to Dom? i want to do all i can to give that to Master, so any information You could give me would be greatly appreciated.

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 7:24:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: crazyredhead1957
i know what makes me love submitting, but.....what is it that makes it so appealing and rewarding to Dom?

Most likely exactly the same thing you are feeling; ideally, your submission compliments his domination, and your both serving a rewarding relationship.

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 8:12:29 AM

SteelofUtah

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Her. She is my reward. The fact that she is there adhearing to my dominance is the reward. Watching her grow and flourish where before she was taken advantage of. Watching her become aware of herself and accepting herself as she is. These are my Rewards.

And the cookies are good.

Steel

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 8:58:04 AM

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In our relationship, obedience and pleasant surprises are what make me smile. When she fights her ingrained social training and puts me first, I feel a swell of pride. This includes basic things expected of a slave: "do tasks". "Grab that. Get this. Wear that. Suck this." It's a simple matter of say and do. more complicated is when she takes her submission under her control. When she doesn't guilt be because I told her I'm going to spend time with friends. Or understands that even though she's horny as a dog in heat, I'm tired... and she won't be played with. He submissive demeanor brings me pleasure.

There are also times when she remembers disciplines I've forgotten or didn't expect to see... Like standing at the sidewalk while I stroll into the street because I wasn't holding her hand. That was a good one.

She can make me proud by letting go. Getting into her role wherever I say. This comes into play when playing in front of or with others. "Unnatural at first (understandably) but she's getting better, and I'm getting happier.

If you know what he likes, facilitate it. My Pet reminds me when television shows/movies I enjoy are on. She offers blowjobs. She knows how I take my grapes. (I'm very picky about grapes because I hate the collapsed, bitter, mushy ones ECKK!... Some may consider this a sort of "topping from the bottom" a phrase I never liked because it suggests tops want robots. I can put a flesh light on a Roomba anytime I want.

You can always ask to be trained to better suit his needs. Any dominant who turns down this offer is exhibiting serious red flags.

In short: Be submissive (put him first). Facilitate his wants. Communicate.

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 9:08:38 AM

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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah
And the cookies are good.
Steel

I like cookies.

(Too good a private joke to pass up.)

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 9:13:35 AM

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 10:14:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: crazyredhead1957

Hello Sirs. i am here with a question.....i know what makes me love submitting, but.....what is it that makes it so appealling and rewarding to Dom? i want to do all i can to give that to Master, so any information You could give me would be greatly appreciated.

This is actually an ongoing discussion between My little girl and I.
To me there are many rewards...some are bigger, some are smaller, but none are unappreciated. In no specific order...
Being a Dominant and owning a submissive gives me someone to take care of. Someone to watch over in that "paternal" way that to some comes with being a Dominant. This feeling was actually new to me. I've felt protective over subs in the past, but not in a paternal way as I do now with My little girl. I've found that I actually enjoy this feeling.
There is also the pride of ownership that comes from being a Dominant. Seeing her shine in everything she does. She belongs to me so everything she does is a reflection on me. I take pride in everything from seeing her light up when I walk into the room, to the way she looks when she's with me, to how well she handles her children/job/life all at the same time, to watching her perform with her group, to the way she serves me (In public and in private) and takes care of every little thing for me when we're together. My tea, just for an example...she always sees to it that it's perfect before I even touch the cup.
Another is having someone to share my darkest desires with, and have them do the same with me. Now, that may (hopefully) happen in just about any relationship, but the D/s dynamic gives me the priviledge to really probe her mind and find out what lurks in the deepest, darkest recesses of her mind. It's actually my favorite place to "play." I've never gotten to this level of intimacy in a "vanilla" relationship. It's an amazing thing.
This also goes the other way. I get to unleash the animal that lies deep within me. Anytime I want to. If for no other reason than...Because I can. I own a living, breathing...toy. I can use her any way, any time, any where I wish. The more harsh the use, the more she likes it. (Lovely!) Which brings me to the last thing on my mind...
The feeling of power I get from being a Dominant and owning a submissive.
My little girl and I discussed this point specifically recently. When we play and I get into that headspace, it's an amazing feeling of power. The power of knowing that I have this thing to do with what I want, and who will do anything I desire, just because I tell her to. Sometimes I don't even feel like a person anymore. I am a force that she has no choice but to submit to. If that's not a reward, I don't know what is.
There's more. I could go on. But I think you get the point.

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 10:50:41 AM

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To be a Master is simply fulfilling in a way that cannot be had any other way. Why do anything else?

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 11:35:28 AM

crazyredhead1957

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Thank You so much, Sirs, and Ma'am, for all the information.....this is just what i was trying to find out. Knowing all this, now i can do my best to make it even more rewarding for Him, which is my absolute wish.

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 12:01:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

Her. She is my reward. The fact that she is there adhearing to my dominance is the reward. Watching her grow and flourish where before she was taken advantage of. Watching her become aware of herself and accepting herself as she is. These are my Rewards.

And the cookies are good.

Steel

I'm sure my Sir would say the same thing Steel. He has commented on the change He has seen in me over the years... growing, becoming more confident in who I am. His encouragement and love has undoubtably been a big factor in my growth.

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 12:02:49 PM

allthatjaz

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Cuffkinks thank you .... that read was absolutely beautiful

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 12:27:08 PM

WiseCracknSadist

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What is the reward for breathing? The reward for blinking? I don't live my life this way for the rewards. I am this way and that's always been the way it is.

As far as rewards I don't think that I like the idea that the sub rewarding ME for my actions.

I understand that subs bring a great many pleasures and conveniences to a Doms life and I suppose those could be seen as rewards. There are the adrenalin and endorphins highs attached to play and lifestyle.

For me Dom/sub relations just feel natural. I think it's hard to feel rewarded when it feels normal.

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 1:24:57 PM

DesFIP

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I look at what he does and think it's way too much work. Thankfully, I don't have to understand what he gets out of it because I never will. What he views as the high points would be major work for me. I just have to accept his word for it that what he gets is worth what he puts.

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 5:06:47 PM

DarkSteven

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1. It's an unbelievable kick to control a sub, and see her develop and grow as a consequence.
2. Ever been to an all you can eat buffet? That's what a sub is to me sexually - I can get whatever I want from her within her limits.

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 5:42:11 PM

Aileen1968

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He gets frequent flyer miles.

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 5:52:40 PM

Knite064

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Cuffkinks

quote:

ORIGINAL: crazyredhead1957

Hello Sirs. i am here with a question.....i know what makes me love submitting, but.....what is it that makes it so appealling and rewarding to Dom? i want to do all i can to give that to Master, so any information You could give me would be greatly appreciated.

This is actually an ongoing discussion between My little girl and I.
To me there are many rewards...some are bigger, some are smaller, but none are unappreciated. In no specific order...
Being a Dominant and owning a submissive gives me someone to take care of. Someone to watch over in that "paternal" way that to some comes with being a Dominant. This feeling was actually new to me. I've felt protective over subs in the past, but not in a paternal way as I do now with My little girl. I've found that I actually enjoy this feeling.
There is also the pride of ownership that comes from being a Dominant. Seeing her shine in everything she does. She belongs to me so everything she does is a reflection on me. I take pride in everything from seeing her light up when I walk into the room, to the way she looks when she's with me, to how well she handles her children/job/life all at the same time, to watching her perform with her group, to the way she serves me (In public and in private) and takes care of every little thing for me when we're together. My tea, just for an example...she always sees to it that it's perfect before I even touch the cup.
Another is having someone to share my darkest desires with, and have them do the same with me. Now, that may (hopefully) happen in just about any relationship, but the D/s dynamic gives me the priviledge to really probe her mind and find out what lurks in the deepest, darkest recesses of her mind. It's actually my favorite place to "play." I've never gotten to this level of intimacy in a "vanilla" relationship. It's an amazing thing.
This also goes the other way. I get to unleash the animal that lies deep within me. Anytime I want to. If for no other reason than...Because I can. I own a living, breathing...toy. I can use her any way, any time, any where I wish. The more harsh the use, the more she likes it. (Lovely!) Which brings me to the last thing on my mind...
The feeling of power I get from being a Dominant and owning a submissive.
My little girl and I discussed this point specifically recently. When we play and I get into that headspace, it's an amazing feeling of power. The power of knowing that I have this thing to do with what I want, and who will do anything I desire, just because I tell her to. Sometimes I don't even feel like a person anymore. I am a force that she has no choice but to submit to. If that's not a reward, I don't know what is.
There's more. I could go on. But I think you get the point.

Now that saved me alot of typing and i could not have worded it better....excellent post
My only addition is its an incredible thing to have someone i can freely talk to about the darkest parts of my mind and the compliment of her telling me of her darkest desires and secrets

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 6:33:31 PM

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i reward him with truffles and home-made cranberry/apple pies...

i also reward him by not expecting him to stay for morning coffee when he jumps out of bed at 5:30 am on a saturday to go surfing; instead, i hand him the sunscreen, tell him i adore him and stay in bed...

but seriously, we all get something out of our relationships or we wouldn't be there, right?

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 7:21:58 PM

kallisto

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He gets frequent flyer miles.

I love that answer.

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/27/2009 7:44:17 PM

hejira92

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Hell, I'll dom you for frequent flyer miles.....

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RE: Rewards of Domming..... - 2/28/2009 8:48:26 PM

Sir Daddy

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Think "symbiosis".

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